Call Me Callous if you like....but maybe i'm not.

not_loaded

I’m reminded of that superb Tammy Wynette song, No Charge.

For mowin' the lawn, five dollars
For makin' my own bed this week, one dollar
And for goin' to the store, fifty cents
An' playin' with little brother while you went shoppin', twenty-five cents.
Takin' out the trash, one dollar
Gettin' a good report card, five dollars
And for rakin' the yard, two dollars

It ends with:
Lord knows when you add it all up
The cost of real love is, no charge...

If it’s just a business though, I’d suggest getting the professionals in.

Giggedy!

(background: 22 years in finance)

clutton_2

i have laughed almost as much at this thread as i did at the Dead Dog thread...

i can see this whole scenario as a sketch in a satire comedy show....


utterly utterly surreal....

He is in so much denial it would be hysterical.. were it not tragic.

YOU CANNOT BUY A WOMANS LOVE AND COMPANIONSHIP by forcing her to move in with you.....

nor can you expect anyone else, woman or man, to sort out your debts - pay your own bills sort out your own debts and please - stop being a cheapskate, freeloading toss-pot...

EmRayMarRhys

Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »

The business is mine....Jackie works for me.....mainly on the Kiddies side....I can do it without her....she can't without me!!

all together now

#you were working as a waitress in a cocktail bar....#

Mustbeananswer??

CatValou wrote: »

Hiya Martin, I'd like to help, but I'm not sure I understand what investment you are making?

Is Jackie struggling financially and you are bailing her out on a regular basis? If so, how much and how often? Is this the cause of the financial suicide you mention?

Is she in danger of losing her hard to get Housing Authority place through arrears or something? Is her son unable to contribute anything to help her?

If you are worse off through helping Jackie then I think you are reluctantly going to have to stop. It does people no favours to enable bad financial management. Helping someone to learn how to manage their money themselves is the best thing you can do for them.

Can we have a few more details please?

Jackies doing OK....but she could be £5000 a year better off living with me!!

not_loaded wrote: »

I’m reminded of that superb Tammy Wynette song, No Charge.

For mowin' the lawn, five dollars
For makin' my own bed this week, one dollar
And for goin' to the store, fifty cents
An' playin' with little brother while you went shoppin', twenty-five cents.
Takin' out the trash, one dollar
Gettin' a good report card, five dollars
And for rakin' the yard, two dollars

It ends with:
Lord knows when you add it all up
The cost of real love is, no charge...

If it’s just a business though, I’d suggest getting the professionals in.

Giggedy!

(background: 22 years in finance)

J.J.Barrie did the original...

(background: 15 years in music):beer::beer:

Jojo1daffy

You don't WANT her to have her independence and you think she has an UNUSUALLY strong bond with her son?
If I was Jackie you would be chucked.
That would save you a fair bit eh?

peachyprice

Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »

Jackies doing OK....but she could be £5000 a year better off living with me!!

And again, because you didn't get it yesterday......... No she won't be £5k better off because she doesn't live alone now. She will be in the same financial position as she is now.

Jojo1daffy

Don't you hate it when you post and then realise that there's actually pages and pages to a thread?! Just read them all now and actually laughed my head off at some of the responses and how thick skinned and headed and sexist actually the OP is!
I'm on Team Jackie!! Go Jackie! Go Jackie! Chuck him! Chuck him!

mufi

peachyprice wrote: »

No she won't be £5k better off because she doesn't live alone now. She will be in the same financial position as she is now.

And, once she sees the light, homeless to boot.

Primarni

Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »

Jackies doing OK....but she could be £5000 a year better off living with me!!

Can we have some accurate factual figures then MBAA? Obviously you've done the number crunching comparing her living expenses at the moment with her projected expenses if she moves in with you? How close to £5k is it?

You're wouldn't be nagging Jackie to make a massive life change based on some hypothetical figures in a random article without running the actual numbers would you? :eek:

As other posters have said, if you're really so desperate that the blinkers are firmly fixed on and you can't see what's wrong with this plan you need to get over to Debt Free Wannabees sharpish.

With accurate numbers.

Surbybird

Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »

Jackies doing OK....but she could be £5000 a year better off living with me!!

/QUOTE]

Surely she'd only be £5K pa better off if she currently lived alone though?

You've already said that she lives with her son so presumably shares costs with him, therefore there'd be far less financial benefit for Jackie if you lived together than there would be for you.

Seems a bit one sided to me.

So taking your wants and needs out of the equation for a moment, does Jackie actually want to save a few quid or is her independence worth more to her than this supposed £5K?

Have you ever wondered why after 5 years together she still lives apart from you? There's a lot more to being happy than just saving a bit of cash, you know.

K