sons girlfriend kicke dout what do i do ?

Oldernotwiser

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

(BTW, Oldernotwiser - with all deference to you, on this I can assure you that the college does have a duty to help and will be familiar with such situations these days)

I used to be based in a college's Student Services department and saw the Welfare Adviser (a very knowledgeable and caring woman) deal with several situations like this. All she could do was to direct the student to the relevant Housing Department who won't do anything anyway, any more than will Social Services.

A college has neither funds nor housing to offer anyone; I really do think that many people here have an over optimistic view of a college's powers and options.

hngrymummy

jellyhead wrote: »

When is she 18? I'm just wondering if she'll get more support and be more of a priority for housing if she is 17, rather than seeing how things go then ending up with an 18 year old adult whose mum doesn't want her.

I work with a homeless charity, and alas it's all area dependant. You can find that under 18s fall in a different category so they have to do the run around to speak to the right person, and by this time it's too late for emergency shelter. We had one young girl who was classed as 'not vulnerable' by the council so she spent the weekend sleeping in the park. But in another area she would've been classed as very vulnerable and given emergency accomodation for the weekend.

OP, all you can do is be understanding and help her get in touch with the right charities, organisations etc. If she is genuinely homeless then they will be able to help her, if it's nothing serious then she'll be back with mum shortly because it'll be too much hassle for her to go through with it.

Oldernotwiser - no-one is suggesting that the college should house her, however they will have the right numbers, and a telephone, to contact the right people.

nutsohazelnuts

FATBALLZ wrote: »

Shes 17, more than old enough to be living on her own. Is it a modern thing to baby children until they are in their early 30's or have people always been doing it?

Perhaps referring to them as children is inadvisable if your point is that teenagers are as independent and capable as adults.

Money_maker

But (playing devils advocate) how do we not know that the girl told her mum she was sick of being at home and was leaving to move in with her boyfriend?

This would explain no telephone call from the mum.

I would be interested to speak to the mother and hear her side of it before arrangements are made for a new home. It may not be quite as black and white as it seems.

Sambucus_Nigra

Just call the mother and find out what happened...i can't believe you haven't already....

Penny-Pincher!!

As she is under 18, she is still counted as a minor and social services will have a duty to house her.

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shellsuit

Do you know the reason why she was kicked out?

I think the only thing to do is ring the Mum and see what the hell is going on.

LittleTinker

For goodness sake....if you dont want her there then dont have here there. She is not your responsibility.

All you need to worry about is your son, and if he keeps breaking his curfew because of this girl then he needs to be given some form of punishment for disobeying you. Ground him or something. And send the girl home.

easilydistracted

I agree with everyones advice to speak to her mother. Then you'll be able to find out how serious the situation is. If she really is homeless then the law was clarified in May 2009 to confirm that these 16 and 17 year olds are the reponsibility of Children and Young People's Services- what children's Social Services is now called and are placed under the children in care legislation. This means they get more support and for longer. They can refuse this and be dealt with under the homelessness legislation but its not a very good idea. If she needs to leave but not urgently there are other options. Not all authorities have a 'crashpad'- a hostel which you can access instantly so perhaps have a think whether you would be able to have her for a brief period whilst she can get appropriate supported housing. Otherwise she may have to go into B&B which is discouraged in the legislation but sometimes the only available option.

mountainofdebt

FATBALLZ wrote: »

Shes 17, more than old enough to be living on her own. Is it a modern thing to baby children until they are in their early 30's or have people always been doing it?

If that's the case, why aren't under 18 yr olds allowed to fight on the front line? Why aren't they allowe to vote until they're 18?