Has anyone been told the wrong gender at 20 week scan?

peachyprice

inkie wrote: »

All the more reason not to know the sex of the baby prior to birth.

Hmm, that doesn't always help though.

I really only wanted one girl. My first pregnancy was twins, I cried for days but consoled myself with the fact that at least one might be a girl, but at the next scan they told me it was two boys, I cried for days again, and every scan I had I asked, they were bloomin fed up with me asking in the end . But I got used to the idea of boys and did bond with them before they were born. If I hadn't found out I could see that I would have easily been very down about them both being boys when they were born. I was glad I had that time to get used to it.

With my second pregnancy I didn't even ask, I had an early scan to make sure it was only one, I was so relieved when I was told it was that I was past caring whether it was a boy or girl and I had an amnio that I requested the results were put in a sealed envelope. Although I knew she was a girl as soon as I heard her cry.

Kit_Kat_Kate

I was told at my 20 week scan I was having a girl and boy:-) Yes I had twins. They were right.

SingleSue

They didn't tell you the sexes when I had my three but the first one, we knew he was a boy...and he was.

Second son, everyone was convinced he was a girl as I carried completely differently and it was such a troublesome pregnancy but a late scan due to being transverse and breech (and alternating between the two) showed very very clearly he was a boy..midwife tried to cover and say it could be a girl still but (my own private thinking), there was no mistaking his 'bits'. I didn't let on to hubby though as he wanted a surprise and he was a little disappointed in having another boy.

With the third, we really didn't know as yet again, I carried completely differently to the first two but like another poster, I had a dream during the pregnancy where I had 3 little boys in a picture.....another boy arrived.

I always wanted a girl but it was not to be and I wouldn't change it for the world now...and if I ever want to play mum to a girl, I just get eldest to bring his female friend (not girlfriend) over, we are so alike, we could be mum and daughter!

madnessandmayhem

I know of a lady who has 2 boys, and both times she was told she was having a girl!!

milliebear00001

I was told a boy and had a girl. Not a problem for me as I bought everything white anyway and was quite happy with a girl. My work colleague's wife was told a girl (after having a boy) went out and bought everything pink - had a boy and was really devastated for a few weeks.

tiamai_d

It does happen, yes.

However they were correct with all 3 of mine. So was I though

So long as you view a 'gender scan' as a bit of fun that will probably be right and not as an absolute guarantee, then it's all good.

I was scanned at 20, 24, 28, 30, 32, 34 and 36 weeks with DD (high risk) and each time I asked 'is she still a girl?' even at her birth ( C section) I asked if she had decided to stay a girl or become a boy.

They are correct far more often than incorrect though.

dundeedoll_2

I was told i was having a girl and had a boy :rotfl:

Had lots of scans as had placenta probs and also rhesus neg so lots of blood tests.

They told me 'it' was definitly a ring doughnut rather than an eclair!!!

So, Jodie Anne it was..............until..............out popped an eclair :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

(1994)

elfen

Whereas the doc told my mum that I was probably a boy as I was born breech (shoulder oblique) as all the breech babies he'd delivered that day were boys. And then, out pops me a little girl, just ot mess with his theory

Fitzio

My friend told me that a lady in her work became a grandmother to a girl 2 weeks ago. She has 3 daughters who are into designer clothes and they had all "gone daft" buying lots of designer baby boy clothes. All clothes were washed and the tags cut off ready for the arrival of little Kyle, and now not being used!

A lot of hospitals up here don't tell you the sex (mine didn't even do a 20 week scan until this year), and I believe it's due to some religions' preferences for boys (causing a higher abortion rate if it's a girl). People would have to pay privately for a detailed scan.

I personally like the surprise of not knowing.

coolcait

anna25071970 wrote: »

Has anyone been told the incorrect gender at their 20 week scan or know anyone who has? Either told they were expecting a boy and had a girl or told they were expecting a girl and had a boy?

Thanks

I've heard of a few cases where it has happened - either way.

Personally, I didn't want to know. Dad did, and promised that he wouldn't tell me once he knew. That would have made for a tricky few months!

The hospital had a policy of not telling. Luckily...

Maybe it's because of my own experience and approach to the issue, but I do find some of the posts on this thread difficult to relate to.

If I'm honest, I'll admit to wanting a girl (and being lucky enough to end up with one). However, I knew that I had a 50/50 chance of having a boy. So I dealt with it. And - without knowing what gender my baby would be - I had worked out my own issues about wanting a girl, and was delighted to finally meet the baby I had been waiting for all those months. The fact that she was a girl was a bonus.

The great thing about pregnancy is that it gives you time to prepare yourself. If a woman wants to have a boy, or a girl purely because that's her personal preference - or because she wants to avoid repeating her family's mistakes - she has time to examine those issues, and resolve them, before the baby is born.

As for buying clothes and decorating nurseries, parents have done that for years without having a clue whether the baby is a boy or a girl. Those parents who have space in their homes to create a nursery...

As I see it, the only reason why a paren would need to know the gender of their unborn child would be if the family were carriers of a disease which only affected one gender.

Everything else, however much people understand what is being said, is about personal preferences and choices - and when those choices and preferences are to do with fashion and decor, maybe there is an argument for not telling parents that they're having a .......