Nightmare 15 yr old daughter

Savvy_Sue

toozie wrote:

Eldest daughter (aged 15) does not believe in cards, hence no Mothers Day one! She probably doesn't believe in spending her money on someone other than herself. But I did get a photo frame that was really nice. Youngest daughter (aged 14) made a card, which said "your BLINGIN.....NOT MINGIN!!!" and bought me a fridge magnet. Can't be bad...eh!

My eldest doesn't believe in cards either but was given strict instructions by his father, who didn't care WHO bought the card as long as A Card Was Bought! Eldest said he was sure I would be quite happy with a bit of paper. I agreed, as long as some thought had gone into what was written on it. And I also said both I and his father would be THRILLED with a £1 Smiths voucher or Book Token, which is much better VFM than a card. And eldest did manage a box of Roses chocolates as well, my favourite (the chocs, not the son, although he definitely earned brownie points today and I will miss him like crazy when he goes off to Uni in the autumn!)

But all this was AFTER the youngest REFUSED to go and get me a little present at church when the children were invited to do so, because, he said, he was not a child! Grrrr. Fortunately the mothers without their children present were not left out, someone else's little girl brought me a little bottle of Lavendar bubble bath. And then all the other ladies got something as well.

Sometimes I think we should all just model ourselves on Lois, the mother from 'Malcolm in the Middle'.

Caz2_2

Hi all my sprogs got me
from eldest- 1homemade card and 1 bought one and 2 sequins tops (spent a bomb)
from 2 middle ones a card and a hydranga plant
from youngest and live in girlfriend a card and an aromatherapy set
and from 1 that lives here a card saying to a special person.
Lovely did really well.
oh not to forget, 1 of them emptyied the dish washer I was really lucky there
Two of them had really bad hangovers yesterday morning and coundn't get anadin extra fast enough, my eldest who was celebrating her 20th spent yesterday trying to convince everyone she had a bug because she felt so sick and her head was throbbing, oh dear-no sympathy, amazing recovery though was ready to party again last night, such a shame that it was sunday and no where open.

Nasnowt

Hi,

I don't have kids but have cried more than once when I've been reading this thread.

There is no advise or help I can offer but, if diverting any of your teenagers by letting them have a go as a film extras is of any use, these links might interest you

http://www.starnow.co.uk/listings/listing_detail.asp?l_id=1891 (Sheffield Area)
http://www.starnow.co.uk/Movie-extras/music_video_extras.asp (Luton)

Your children will realise what fantastic parents they have one day.

The links are for are student films and are usually very diciplined because the budgets are tight and the young directors have their degrees at stake.

I recommend you check credentials with the relevant film schools of course.

I sincerely hope this posting does not offend in any way. I'd got to thinking about what might have diverted me when I was getting into some potentially serious trouble as a teenager through no fault of my parents. I do not know if this sort of thing would have worked, but it might.
xxx

rushnowt

Hi

Sorry for the delay in replying, its been hard getting any privacy to do this for a while.

Update: eldest bought me a beautiful mothers day card, like a book with loads of very moving and touching verses in it, she even wrote a letter on the back page, telling me how much she loves me and how sorry she had been for her past behaviour, she added that she understood now that everything i did was for her best and appreciated it was because i cared so much.

She also bought me a big box of thorntons choccy's and a lovely photo frame, engraved with mum and a lovely verse on it.

Shes been great now for a good few days, really polite and helpful around the house, shes not been going out as much but is in fairly early even when she does go out, she tells me where shes going and has given me contact numbers of her friends.

Theres just the odd little snap (very rare now) but she stops herself and apologies for it. Its a total turnaround.

I have no idea who stole my devil daughter and replaced her with this delightful one but i dont want her back LOL. Things are great and im loving every minute of it

I hope everything is well with you.

Love & Hugs xxx

Pollen

Hi Rushnowt et al, :T sometimes it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel with all the pressures of motherhood. Even in a storm there's a chance of a rainbow. Great you 've got through it and moved on :j

rushnowt

Pollen wrote:

Hi Rushnowt et al, :T sometimes it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel with all the pressures of motherhood. Even in a storm there's a chance of a rainbow. Great you 've got through it and moved on :j

Thanks Pollen

Im taking it one day at a time and just hoping that things will just get better, she's had some very close calls in her short life and although terrifying for me i can only hope that this as now sunk in and she realises how lucky she's been.

I'll keep you all updated on developments

Rush xxx

elona

Rushnowt
I am so pleased for you and enjoy the change in your daughter.

It sounds as if she "had a lightbulb moment" for whatever reason.

Be prepared for still having some setbacks in future but at least you have some positive and happy memories which will make all the difference.:):):)

toozie_2

Rush, its fantastic news. You probably will have set-backs, but you know that beautiful little girl is there underneath. Hormones play massive games with the mind, and some teenagers find it hard to cope with feeling like a kid one day, then wanting to be an official adult the next.

Lots and lots of good luck for the future

toozie xx