Sister in law neglecting children every weekend

stormbreaker

alwaysonthego wrote: »

Is it right to put the children at risk and not report it just incase the FIL gets into trouble. It is the sister who has paretal responsibility for the children, however the FIL is just as guilty for allowing it to happen in his house. The children can not defend themselves and are the innocent ones and therefore need protecting from this situation.

I never said it was right. Only pointing out the pitfalls. As another person has said, report at the risk of starting WW3.

MrsE_2

stormbreaker wrote: »

You don't but the authorities would!

I work for social services (not operational).

Their concern is the childrens safety, not laying blame on an old grandad when a mother is neglecting her children.

gizmo111

stormbreaker wrote: »

You don't but the authorities would!

No they wouldn't - not unless he had specifically agreed to look after them. They would most likely ask for a more defined plan of babysitting, but he is no more responsible legally for these children than his next door neighbour, morally of course is a different story.

liney

Invite the kids around for the weekend on the quiet, and see what happens when they aren't home when she gets back.

It might make her realise that anything could happen to them. If the shock tactic doesn't work then I too think you need to report her.

Valli

Another way to look at this OP is IF the relationship goes further and this bloke wants to see more of your S-I-L, or have her move in with him, what's going to happen to the kids HE doesn't want and she doesn't appear to be too concerned about? To leave them for 48 hours or so every weekend is, IMHO, extreme and neglectful anyway. She can't know if they are getting their homework done or anything - and they must be feeling 'second best' if their mum would rather be with a bloke than them.

stormbreaker

MrsE wrote: »

Their concern is the childrens safety, not laying blame on an old grandad when a mother is neglecting her children.

The main point of contact with the social services (operational) over a weekend and out of hours is the Emegency Duty Team who in my experience do not have staff to go out and check situations so they contact the police who have a duty to investigate and report.

stormbreaker

gizmo111 wrote: »

No they wouldn't

Yes they would!


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gizmo111 wrote: »

They would most likely ask for a more defined plan of babysitting,

And who would be checking this???

gizmo111

stormbreaker wrote: »

Yes they would!

I'm not going to get into an argument but the children are not the grandfathers legal responsibility, on what basis do you say they would.


. And who would be checking this???

The social services dept that put the partnership agreeement into place.

robpw2

instead of grassing her up , why do you not look after the children they are your neices and nephews after alll

gizmo111

robpw2 wrote: »

instead of grassing her up , why do you not look after the children they are your neices and nephews after alll

Why should she? They are the parents responsibility not extended family.