I am not sure where to put this so bear with me,insulted at Asda

hammy_the_hammer

bexxie90 wrote:

Hi I am a trained mental health officer and would have spotted immdeiately if it was aspergers,or the like. He seemed to me someone who has lived with mummy all his life and really doesnt know better or is a complete pervert who manipulates situations to his advantage,this I have seen on many occassions.

I am going to phone them now,thank-you for your kind advice.

Beckie

my point was that you seemed to have 'spotted' what was probably wrong with the person as you made the point about being a trained mental health officer.
if someone doesn't understand the basics of not leering at customers and asking about your sex-life it is extremely unlikely that further training in asking "do you need help with the packing?"..."do you require cashback?" is going to go very far.

hammy_the_hammer

i also meant to add that these things are best resolved at the time ie go straight to customer services....the other thing to have done as i presume you hadn't paid for your shopping is to walk straight out of the door leaving it all there for 'me laddo' to sort out.
then proceed to another chain of stores

mjenn5

The Cashier was so out of order.

Surely Asda realise that their cashiers are there as a front person and as so they must be able to communicate adequately with the customers.

What he said and insinuated was very disrespectful to say the least and he is either very immature or just not used to dealing with the public properly.

Being pregnant myself a few times I did feel that people don't take you seriously quite a lot and it is infuriating at times when you feel like screaming that your brain still works.

You as their customer have every right to expect a certain level of service and quality so take this all the way.

brummybloke

im not getting it? most cashiers ask little questions from time to time to show an interest in the shopper.

not everyone is going to say "congratulations" if they dont know the mother to be, some may try and be polite and ask other questions.

i personally dont think it makes this person a perv or a mentalist.

what do you hope to get from complaining? the boy the sack? compensation?

if i complained everytime someone said something i found slightly off i would not have any time to do anything but.

chicken is a different cup of tea, however the manager probably thought you were on the wind up havig moaned about a member of staff.

mojomama1967

I don't get it either, you say you were struggling with puting the items on the converor and then packing but you had a friend with you, was your friend standing back watching you.

I also work with Asda and the cashiers are trained to a high standard and are also told to communicate with the customers at all times.

I think if the cashier were a pervert or whatever he would have been found out long before now.

Perhaps it is a hormone thing, are you the best judge of it not being hormonal, perhaps it would be better to ask those around you about this.

Anyway I hope everything goes well for you when the big day comes.

firespire

I was in a charity shop and there was a volunteer working there obviously had learning difficulties was trying to be chatty with customers about weather and how he didn't bring a coat etc. He too had effeminate voice mannerisms and people he spoke to just answered one word answers and carried on looking at the goods. I could see how if he said the wrong things people could be put out.

If the manager said "he is a little slow so to speak" I would take the cashier had some learning difficulties. If you were obviously pregnant and he asked "are you pregnant" seems a sign.

He had obviously told to be friendly with the customers and unfortunately didn't ask something sensible like "is it your first child?", to some people questions like "have you been trying for long?" are normal conversation but "many times did it take you to conceive" is definitely wrong.

Also I too think you friend should have gone first and then helped you with you packing and putting the stuff in the trolley.

wbk666

bexxie90 said "i think he may be a pervert"
geez, whatever happened to innocent until proven guilty?

it may have just been an innocent question worded wrongly by someone with mental health problems.

rackstar

I don't think any one should have to be "leerily eyed up and down" by a cashier, whether pregnant or not. Come on, we've all been there, and it sucks. The OP obviously felt very uncomfortable with the situation otherwise she wouldn't have posted here in the first place. Why are people now suggesting she can't make a proper judgement on the situaion?

(She's already said her friend was at another till, btw.)

bexxie90

Thanks rackster.....:-)

Seems people want to jump on me. Hammy get what you meant sorry had a V.stressful day yesterday not reading things correctly..........


Firespire: The sunday manager said in "HER" opinion he seemed SLOW,that was that HER opinion,she cannot make a conclusive result on her judgement alone.

Take it from me I know WEIRD and PERVY and no not hormones either,if it had of been hormones then believe me I wouldn't have stayed so calm with him,but it was more a case of being so suprised at what he said,and when someone leerily smirks when saying it,I would not say that was the actions of a SLOW person.

BRUMMYBLOKE,you asked what do I hope to acheive the boy the sack or something? To be honest all I want is matter dealt with in the correct manner I already asked that it be dealt with in a nice manner a constructive way. If I had left it and not said anything then the way my husband would have dealt with it would have not been pleasant as he was furious so better for me to deal with.

Also the comment above in regards to mentioning the chicken,I am not that hard up I want money for the chicken back,but why the hell should I pay for something that isnt fit for consumption? They need to know to improve their level of service to their customers.


Anyway thanks for reading
B

brummybloke

bexxie90 wrote:

Thanks rackster.....:-)

Seems people want to jump on me. Hammy get what you meant sorry had a V.stressful day yesterday not reading things correctly..........


Firespire: The sunday manager said in "HER" opinion he seemed SLOW,that was that HER opinion,she cannot make a conclusive result on her judgement alone.

Take it from me I know WEIRD and PERVY and no not hormones either,if it had of been hormones then believe me I wouldn't have stayed so calm with him,but it was more a case of being so suprised at what he said,and when someone leerily smirks when saying it,I would not say that was the actions of a SLOW person.

BRUMMYBLOKE,you asked what do I hope to acheive the boy the sack or something? To be honest all I want is matter dealt with in the correct manner I already asked that it be dealt with in a nice manner a constructive way. If I had left it and not said anything then the way my husband would have dealt with it would have not been pleasant as he was furious so better for me to deal with.

Also the comment above in regards to mentioning the chicken,I am not that hard up I want money for the chicken back,but why the hell should I pay for something that isnt fit for consumption? They need to know to improve their level of service to their customers.


Anyway thanks for reading
B

so your friend AND your husband were there and neither helped you pack things?

im not jumping on you at all, however you deem it to be when 3 people question your reaction, 3 people you dont know and have never met, yet you have accused someone in real life, not computer, who may now lose their job, of eyeing you up and being a perv? i think you are over reacting and also dare i say, have a high opinion of yourself if you think a youth is going to be eyeing up a pregnant woman and that you are an expert on all things mental health.

if it isnt your hormones i pity what your husband must have had to do to chat you up in the first place, im suprised you didnt accuse him of sexual harassment.