Does anyone else find it hard to make friends?

monkeyfacesmummy

I'm also struggling. I'm the first out of my friends to have a baby and I'm a single Mum - because of my age and circumstances I just feel like I don't 'fit' anywhere. I've never been the most confident person, but now I have a baby I find it even harder to get out there and meet people. So nice to know that I'm not alone though x

nomuny

Hi
I can identify with only wanting a few friends you can trust but don't even seem able to manage that, friends I had -made at school gates- have lost touch with despite me inviting them for a cuppa at mine they never bothered and in the end I just thought if they can't be bothered they aren't friends worth having. Now another friend I used to go out with once a month(within a group) has stopped letting me know when the night out is despite me txting and asking when it was shes made excuses and I've caught her out lying to me about it so have now decided not to bother with her. All I want is someone I can trust, who like has been said treats me like I treat them -my family is growing up now and would value a friend more than ever at the moment.

choille

Yes it is difficult especially if you have moved away from where you were brought up.
I'm in the Highlands, late 40s & am easy going - pm me if you want.

jammy_dodger

choille wrote: »

Yes it is difficult especially if you have moved away from where you were brought up.
I'm in the Highlands, late 40s & am easy going - pm me if you want.

Hi choille

have just sent you a Pm

JD

WhiteButterfly_2

I have been reading this post since it's started and can can really relate to everything said.I find it really hard to make friends , I get really anxious around people (think they'll think I'm boring/talking rubbish, look a state) which I know is daft but it's something I'm trying to work on,easier said than done when u have silly thoughts.I have a few 'friends' but as many have said it always is on there !terms so most the time now I don't bother trying to arrange anything because I know mostly likely they will make there excuses and that fuels my silly thoughts so stuck in a bit of a circle to be honest!

I also find it hard at my DD school with the other mums.I grew up in a different area where as they have all grown up together or lived there a long time so all know each other and have friendships.My DD is now at the age where she is starting to want friends over and I feel pretty bad that I don't know how to arrange that or bring up the subject with a stranger.


I know that probably didn't make much sense!! Hard to say and start to feel stupid typing it all down.

Hoopylass

podperson wrote: »

Really relating to this thread - am feeling a bit isolated at the moment as well. Moved to a new city just over a year ago and struggling to meet new people, am trying to make more of an effort and joining some groups/classes but finding it a bit hard work. Isn't really helped by the fact that I'm trying hard to stay in touch with my old friends but for the vast majority of them it feels like I'm the only one making the effort - I always have to text/email/phone them or we would probably never speak again! (I've actually tried this with one girl who I considered a good friend, haven't made as much effort as I used to and she has made no effort to contact me for 6 months now).
Ah well, minor rant over. If anyone is near Edinburgh or would just like to rant back feel free to pm me

Im in glasgow , thought I would say hi

I went along to a meetup last night, it was a gig and it was good fun but again the ladies there were older than me , going along to another one tonight which is for new members so hoping there might be some people more around my age!

YORKSHIRELASS

Hi,

I could have written some of the posts on here myself. I have absolutely no-one that I could ring up for a heart to heart. I have no social life at all and cant really afford one anyway.

I live in a very rural area, dont work and I care for my DS who has long term health problems. I cant even do volunteering at the moment because he isnt at school.

I know lots of people, mainly through my younger sons interests and activities, but there is no-one that I would feel comfortable inviting round for a coffee. Like someone else said everyone around me seems to have known each other for years and have well established groups of friends already. Sometimes I feel very awkward, I think I am fairly boring and dont have anything very interesting to say.

I dont have the confidence to change this situation. At nearly 40 this is quite a sad state of affairs but it actually doesnt bother me that much. I know if I go out and join groups I will probably meet more people but its building on those relationships that I find difficult.

murphydog999

Does everyone live in Scotland???

Hoopylass

murphydog999 wrote: »

Does everyone live in Scotland???

its a lovely place :T

I went to another meet-up tonight and it was quite good, got talking to a girl same age as me and a few others so it was good to get out of the house for a few hours

nomuny

hi
looked on internet for groups in my area and there are none in immediate vicinity and as I don't drive thats a no go. Don't know what else to do go to adult ed once a week and talk to people there but thats as far as it goes - a coffee in the cafe at break time. Quite dubious about getting involved with people at the moment after being let down by so many who I've thought of as friends. Do try to be happy with my lot but do feel down at times as I said kids growing up and now should be a bit more about me.