Does anyone else find it hard to make friends?

sassy_one

I think it comes down to it's not you who has a problem or otherwise with finding, making and/or keeping friends; but it's to do with the other person, many people think their better than everyone else or have such a short temper these days due to the government, so don't blame yourself to much.

Good luck

FelinePrincess

Not alot of change for me.. Didn't really think about it for a while, partly because I have a fairly good friend who lives a long way away but we do see each other in work a couple of times a week and text quite a bit which I think has stopped me feeling lonely. Unfortunately we won't be working together any more soon so I wont see her and as she lives so far away I can forsee us drifting apart as I'm not very good at keeping in touch with people I don't see very often Been feeling quite down recently and been feeling lonely again.

Totally agree with Pebbles88, just want a few friends I can trust, not a big group - it's not too much to ask for is it?!

FelinePrincess

sassy-one wrote: »

I think it comes down to it's not you who has a problem or otherwise with finding, making and/or keeping friends; but it's to do with the other person, many people think their better than everyone else or have such a short temper these days due to the government, so don't blame yourself to much.

Good luck

I agree with this, quite a few people I have been friends with have been selfish and self-centered and for that reason I chose to distance myself from the friendship. I had one friend that would usually get in touch when she wanted to go shopping to Liverpool (quite a long way for us), she wouldn't drive because she was scared of driving places she didn't know so I always had to, she didn't give any petrol money (despite serious hinting on the last occasion about how it had cost me £20!), she only wanted to go the cheap, false economy 'market' clothes shops and after we had been round them and I wanted to go to topshop and zara she wouldn't go in and would wait outside! After a couple of other incidents where I saw she was just using me it gave me great satisfaction when she text me new years eve a few years ago asking me where I was going that night, I replied telling her where I was going and who with without inviting her. She was obviously stuck with nothing to do that night and thought she could go out with me then ditch me when she found a man.

scooterpig

A little bit of change for me, I've met some other expat ladies who I can chat to on Facebook. I've met them once and they're really nice, only downside is they all live over 100 miles from me! But I will hopefully get to see them again soon. No joy in making any more 'local' friends though.

Also on the plus side, I was home at Christmas and got to reconnect with various folk, which was great. It did make me think that some friendships can go quiet, but then suddenly pick up again as if you've never been apart. That's encouraging.

In the meantime, I'm keeping myself busy with various projects, and hoping to do some volunteering. If I can get myself out there, then that will help and I'm staying positive.

murphydog999

I also have difficulties! My husband works away (we have no kids) and people we know as 'couples' don't invite me out/round as they know us as a couple, and people I know who are single don't ask me out as they see me as married, so I just get left in limbo :-( Plus I find people think I/we are strange not having kids, and find it difficult to relate, I feel like I'm a square peg, forever trying to fit in a round hole.

We both moved to an area away from our home towns so he could be based more in the UK, but he hates it and has got another job in the middle east coming up, so now I'm in an area I don't know, and because I've been restoring a house since we got here the only people I know are tradesmen. Great!!

It's not easy, and although it's not a nice thing to say, I'm glad it's just not me.

Hoopylass

im still kinda stagnating too. Would you believe that I still have xmas presents sat in my house for people because they have been too busy to meet up! I mean !!!!!!, there are 30 days per month and they cant spare an hr or 2 to swap presents.
Ive signed up to loads of meet-ups on https://www.meetup.com and im going along to 1 tonight - so hoping that I can meet some girls around my age to socialise with. Ive all about given up with my friends right now

Youdontseeme

I seem to have friends who's phones dont make outgoing calls.

I got an email a few days a go from a "friend" who was most upset, that I had been home over Christmas and not called her, I sent her an email telling her I was going home about 3 weeks before and to give me a call if she wanted to meet up, I had no reply, she didn't call, so I didn't bother, now somehow I am in the wrong and cutting off my old friends, of course this implies I have made new ones, which I havent well not many.

I did email her to ask why she hadn't called me, she had my number, has my mothers home number. no response.

YDSM

podperson

Really relating to this thread - am feeling a bit isolated at the moment as well. Moved to a new city just over a year ago and struggling to meet new people, am trying to make more of an effort and joining some groups/classes but finding it a bit hard work. Isn't really helped by the fact that I'm trying hard to stay in touch with my old friends but for the vast majority of them it feels like I'm the only one making the effort - I always have to text/email/phone them or we would probably never speak again! (I've actually tried this with one girl who I considered a good friend, haven't made as much effort as I used to and she has made no effort to contact me for 6 months now).
Ah well, minor rant over. If anyone is near Edinburgh or would just like to rant back feel free to pm me

JOANNESAPHINE

Hello, another person here in the same boat. I lack confidence and I'm quite shy until I get to know people and find some people don't have the patience for you to open up and give up on you. I know I'm overly sensitive which certainly doesn't help! Found mums at the school gate quite gossipy and couldn't trust a lot of them and found my best friends in the past through work but having lost my job last July find myself pretty lonely. Have started volunteering which has been a great start for me. At 40 years old feel quite stupid still being shy!

pebbles88

JOANNESAPHINE wrote: »

Hello, another person here in the same boat. I lack confidence and I'm quite shy until I get to know people and find some people don't have the patience for you to open up and give up on you. I know I'm overly sensitive which certainly doesn't help! Found mums at the school gate quite gossipy and couldn't trust a lot of them and found my best friends in the past through work but having lost my job last July find myself pretty lonely. Have started volunteering which has been a great start for me. At 40 years old feel quite stupid still being shy!

hiya,

i dont think of us being shy, just that it takes us abit more than a hello to call someone a friend.