Am I being awful?

topsym

MrsE wrote: »

If you are comfortable telling your husband where you are going & he is doing likewise with his wife & your spouses are happy then whats the problem?

I plan to tell OH if we meet as I have said, have told him I have already spoken to Mr x.

Or are you planning to meet in secret? No

Don't do anything you wouldn't want your husband to know.

I don't plan to!

Thanks

topsym

poet123 wrote: »

This all happened 12 years ago? and you had a mobile then,and still have the same number today? and he alsokept all his contacts from that time? how odd.

Clearly it is to you. Not to me!

clearing_out_my_pockets

topsym wrote: »

Clearly it is to you. Not to me!

Actually I agree with this. When I got back together with my ex (when we were both single) I still had the same mobile number. I've had it for the last 10 years.

sassy_one

Your great at ignoring advice given to you, shame you can't ignore this plank.

You are throwing your whole marriage away, but from the posts I have read by you, I think your husband deserves someone more committed, as I really don't believe you are fully grown up to be married, after all, you have unfinished business and a fantasy over this guy, who himself too, is married.


You give women a bad name OP

poet123

topsym wrote: »

Clearly it is to you. Not to me!

Could you clarify who made the initial contact, by what means and why?

I find it strange that a married man would still have the number of an ex in his phone 12 years down the line, and vice a versa with a married woman.

sassy_one

poet123 wrote: »

Could you clarify who made the initial contact, by what means and why?

I find it strange that a married man would still have the number of an ex in his phone 12 years down the line, and vice a versa with a married woman.

However made contact, I find it hard to believe that both parties are prepared to risk there marriages, well throw them away because once she meets him there is no going back, both hurting there husband/wife.

Amazing the irony isn't it, specially if the OP's husband did this to her, think it would be a completely different thread.

I find it hard than 12 years on, someone keeps a ex's number too.
I can only think, that one of them went out there way to find the other, of course, a claim the OP will deny, if she were to answer any of the posts which are advising her for the best, for not only her but her husband and future, some people just can't be told!

clearing_out_my_pockets

sassy-one wrote: »

However made contact, I find it hard to believe that both parties are prepared to risk there marriages, well throw them away because once she meets him there is no going back, both hurting there husband/wife.

Amazing the irony isn't it, specially if the OP's husband did this to her, think it would be a completely different thread.

I find it hard than 12 years on, someone keeps a ex's number too.
I can only think, that one of them went out there way to find the other, of course, a claim the OP will deny, if she were to answer any of the posts which are advising her for the best, for not only her but her husband and future, some people just can't be told!

I agree with this. I know I keep banging the drum about my 'story' but my ex kept my number in case I became single. And I had his home number permanently etched into my brain. If I'm truly honest with myself, I always hoped that we'd get back together although I really did work at making my previous relationship work.

My current partner & I were friends before we went out and stayed friends for quite some time after, so it was natural that we still had each other's phone numbers. I can only speak from my own experiences and having only ever had the phone number of one ex on my phone (who is no longer an ex) I'd say there is only one reason for having it!

mackemdave

Mutter wrote: »

I do laugh at many indignant replies on here.
OP wrestled with feelings for a past love.

Do you really think your husbands have no such feelings for others? Your friends, relatives or past girlfriends? If you think not, you are deluding yourselves.

Read the thread.....There is no love involved...he was a shag buddy in the end...

And you are a very very sad person...single I bet????

Mely

Mutter wrote: »

I do laugh at many indignant replies on here.
OP wrestled with feelings for a past love.

Do you really think your husbands have no such feelings for others? Your friends, relatives or past girlfriends? If you think not, you are deluding yourselves.

We are not just discussing feelings here. The op wants to act on her feelings...thats the issue!

Mely

topsym wrote: »

MrsE wrote: »

If you are comfortable telling your husband where you are going & he is doing likewise with his wife & your spouses are happy then whats the problem?

I plan to tell OH if we meet as I have said, have told him I have already spoken to Mr x.

Or are you planning to meet in secret? No

Don't do anything you wouldn't want your husband to know.

I don't plan to!

Thanks

You dont plan to tell your husband that you had slept with mrx either,do you. That it a vital part of this whole scenario, that as your husband,he deserves to know the whole facts, and not only what you chose to tell him.