Am I being awful?

topsym

Pepzofio wrote: »

I don't think you have been insulted for asking for advice, I think mostly you have been insulted for ignoring advice.

Is that a good reason to insult someone, because they dont agree with your opinion??

1.I havent ignored any advice, because I havent made ANY decisions!

2.I post on here, and I'm seeking attention.

3.I dont post on here, and I'm a fake.

4.I contact him after 12 years, and am asked why he hasnt contacted me in that time.

5.Well why havent I contacted him,before now, because Im going on with my life happily and would just like a catch up.

6.I've recieved a text from him, saying how lovely it was to hear from me, he wants to meet up. I havent replied, he still has my number from the old days. I'm certainly not doing the chasing there!!

I'm damned whatever I post, so therefore seemingly deemed suitable for attack from many!!

OH, AND FYI I DONT HAVE HIS EMAIL DETAILS NOR WISH TO HAVE THEM

shellsuit

How did you contact him in the first place?

izzybusy23

264 posts later this thread is still going and it hasn't been moved to the money saving arms yet???????

The OP is either in denial or deaf and dumb but clearly not mute with her fingers.

piratefairy

I don't think anyone is attacking you topsym, just perhaps getting frustrated that this was a thread asking for advice, and your reaction to the advice received looks like you are just ignoring it outright.
Your title question was "am i being awful?", and I think given the information youi have provided, yes you are.
If you don't want to accept, or agree with that, that is totally your right, you don't have to, bu having asked for the opinions of others, they have given them, that's all.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do, you're the only person who can make the decision after all.

Pepzofio

You've had 220 replies, all bar one of which have agreed that it's not a good idea to meet up with him unless possibly if you are doing so with your respective OHs. I must've missed your post where you took this advice on board. I thought you were intending to manufacture a 'reunion' in order to meet up with him.

And as for his text - if he is actually contemplating driving hundreds of miles to 'meet up' I very much doubt his intentions are entirely honourable either! It'd be a bit different if you still lived near each other or if he's saying a more general 'oh, we'll have to try and hook up next time you're down this way/I'm coming up your way with work, maybe we could catch up' but that's not how you've described it.

shoppaholic_returns

izzybusy23 wrote: »

264 posts later this thread is still going and it hasn't been moved to the money saving arms yet???????

The OP is either in denial or deaf and dumb but clearly not mute with her fingers.

I think OP has only come back online as she is fed up of posters comments about fakery and assumptions, that's my 5p's worth anyway.

Pepzofio

shellsuit wrote: »

How did you contact him in the first place?

Well apparently not by email, facebook or phone... Telepathically, probably - what with that 'amazing chemistry/connection' they had...

shoppaholic_returns

Pepzofio wrote: »

You've had 220 replies, all bar one of which have agreed that it's not a good idea to meet up with him unless possibly if you are doing so with your respective OHs. I must've missed your post where you took this advice on board. I thought you were intending to manufacture a 'reunion' in order to meet up with him.

And as for his text - if he is actually contemplating driving hundreds of miles to 'meet up' I very much doubt his intentions are entirely honourable either! It'd be a bit different if you still lived near each other or if he's saying a more general 'oh, we'll have to try and hook up next time you're down this way/I'm coming up your way with work, maybe we could catch up' but that's not how you've described it.

I'd say this means its not one sided wouldn't you??

shoppaholic_returns

Pepzofio wrote: »

Well apparently not by email, facebook or phone... Telepathically, probably - what with that 'amazing chemistry/connection' they had...

Just looked at first post,looks like they spoke on the phone to each other.

Pepzofio

shoppaholic_returns wrote: »

I'd say this means its not one sided wouldn't you??

Yes - assuming that is actually what he has said, and it has not been 'paraphrased' by OP. (I'm not saying she has, I'm just pointing out that it doesn't really prove anything one way or the other.)