Am I being awful?

POPPYOSCAR

I don't really understand what you are expecting if you meet up with him.

I have had a similar situation but have no yearning to do what you are talking about as I love my OH and do not feel I need anything else.

I think you know deep down that no good can come from this.

Mummy_to_L,K_and_C

Sorry I haven't read any previous posts so pleasse excuse me if I'm repeating what some people have already said.

Your best bet is to steer clear no matter how curious you are, if it has happened once before and the chemistry is there it's likely to happen again no matter how much you convince yourself it won't do. it's so difficult to walk away from that attraction between you both. I speak from experience, i went to school with this amazing guy, we were so close, always hung around together. We were both in relationships so nothing ever happened. Left school and drifted apart 10 years later we got in touch and decided to meet, both knew it was wrong but the attraction took over and we kissed. Really messed my head up big time for a while as I kept thinking what life would be like with him. We were both single when it happened so its slightly different. I

Think the first thing is you need to work out why you want to meet this guy. is it just a natural curosity or something else?

Sunshine12

Stay away would be my advice. Why? - because he has a baby and a wife and you have a husband. Nuff said.

fly_dragon_fly

do what you want not what anyone else thinks, i know you asked for advice but what ever your desicion you are going to have to live with it.

we tend to want the things we cant have.

good luck what ever the out come.

if you do meet, meet somewhere were nothing can ever happen too.

balletshoes

ailuro2 wrote: »

If a love like yours is meant to be then nothing will come between it and all those unsaid things from 12 years ago will come to the surface and you'll fall into each others arms and live happily ever after, you spouses will understand as true love conquers all...





Meanwhile back in the real world...

Given half a chance he'll be up there like a rat up a drainpipe, and you know that.

Wake up and smell the coffee, no one here is going to give you any excuses for one more sh@g with an old flame just because you enjoy the feeling of knowing he would 'want' you.

This is a wake up call that it's time to look to your OWN life as you see it with your husband, why not take him off for a dirty weekend somewhere and act out some of your fantasies, that way no-one will get hurt, and you won't catch anything nasty from Mr Uni.

If all was well at home you wouldn't be trying to wangle a way for Mr uni to get you into bed (y'know, once you'd had a few and the 'chemistry' took over) Concentrate on your DH and don't risk splitting up a family for the sake of some happy old memories. Leave it in the past where it should be.


p.s. some of your spelling mistakes could easily give you away, some of them are quite unusual. Hope your DH doesn't read MSE.

:T totally agree with this - and it had me crying with laughter :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

sassyblue

balletshoes wrote: »

:T totally agree with this - and it had me crying with laughter :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Agree 'rat up a drainpipe' had me howling :rotfl:

BADPENNY_2

You are looking for excitment, that is obvious. Try and remember the vows you made to your husband. Temptation strikes in lots of relationships but what counts is if you act on it. The grass is not always greener. Leave it in the past.

mackemdave

THE OP has gone AWOL probably cos all of this is a wind up....Some people are so so sad to the point where they need help

minnie123

mackemdave wrote: »

THE OP has gone AWOL probably cos all of this is a wind up....Some people are so so sad to the point where they need help

Maybe she has gone to meet him :rotfl:

sassy_one

minnie123 wrote: »

Maybe she has gone to meet him :rotfl:

I really hope not, for the sake of her husband, but to be honest, if she feels this way now, what real hope has her marriage got for the future?

Quite sad, I could have easily cried over this thread and the OP postings last night while replying, I have been in a messy hurtful marriage break up, it's not nice.

I know how the OP's husband will feel once he finds out - I just hope she lands up with what she deserves, which is nothing and she is no mother role!

The fact that she is even considering it in my mind blows her marriage to bits, specially the fact that she claims she has 'unfinished business' - one word - SICK