my son wants to get custody for his son

nottslass_2

tweetie_pie wrote: »

Thats ok i realise that the information i have posted some posters think its all from me i should have explained i have got that information from the core meetings and i have a folder full of it but i was just trying to give everyone as much information as i can
Thankyou i would like any advice you can give me as i am not sure of how things work how long they take to actually let us see baby for a start contact needs to be sorted if nothing else
My son really wants to see his baby and asked her but she said baby hasnt got a dad so we want that bit as soon as possible because his worried his gonna forget him and he reconised our voices so beamed everytime we spoke to him and always followed daddys voice we miss him so much
thanks again for any advice you can give me we will hopefully know more 2moro when we see the solicitor

But I thought you had the baby for 4 days last week.................

tweetie_pie_3

nottslass wrote: »

Its amazing how they have managed to do all these checks (what with data protection etc) sooo quickly,lets face it the baby is only 8 weeks old,especially given the fact that there was concern that the bay wasn't your sons and DNA tests were done.

BTW who's boss did they speak to - you posted earlier that no one in the house hold was employed ?

The checks are on going house has been checked and background
my partner works my son works eldest one babies father is in college so is daughter i do 2 hours cleaning but used to do a lot more but have an old achilles injury which im having physio for

I know we will be involved with the sw even if we do have the baby and we are fine with that as we work with them now
They are doing the checks very quickly i assume because they are concerned and are not going to let baby come to us if theres a risk which sw said as far as they have got theres no risk
thankyou for posting

tweetie_pie_3

nottslass wrote: »

But I thought you had the baby for 4 days last week.................

We had baby friday to monday and again wednesday and that was the last time so we havnt seen him a week today

tweetie_pie_3

one_hot_minute wrote: »

Hang on, that is a really awful thing to say. I understand you may be worried about your grandson and a bit highly strung, but there is absolutely no need for that kind of statement just because people are pointing out obvious flaws in your plans.

I'm sorry I am completely out of this thread. I really hope your Grandson gets the right outcome for him and not a misplaced tug-of-love which is how it appears to me.

And for the record, I still think your son should be paying from his EMA and god forbid, get a part time job to pay his way. You are simply enabling him being irresponsible towards the little one by not contributing.

I said earlier the sw said as his in college and only gets EMA he doesnt need to BUT he has bought his milk twice nappies and clothes but thats out of money he had left in his bank as its holidays now he doesnt get EMA but has been looking for a p/time job and sent off applications etc so he can actually pay more

tweetie_pie_3

one_hot_minute wrote: »

Hang on, that is a really awful thing to say. I understand you may be worried about your grandson and a bit highly strung, but there is absolutely no need for that kind of statement just because people are pointing out obvious flaws in your plans.

I'm sorry I am completely out of this thread. I really hope your Grandson gets the right outcome for him and not a misplaced tug-of-love which is how it appears to me.

And for the record, I still think your son should be paying from his EMA and god forbid, get a part time job to pay his way. You are simply enabling him being irresponsible towards the little one by not contributing.

Yes we want the best outcome for HIM thats why we are seeking advice and will know more 2moro as yes you are right ther was no need for me to make a statement like that but as a family we are worried so i do apologise to all posters
thankyou

tweetie_pie_3

gizmo111 wrote: »

So has she been given notice from the M&B Unit - especially if she doesn't have a baby there.
Have the police been called to grandmas - with all the underage sex and drugs going on?

We have housing go to the meeting to say their piece about complaints sw has been trying to get her to go to the flat with baby to live and she keeps saying she will but dont but as she has been asked several times i think it wont be long before she loses it
It is a 2 bedroomed flat and they are specially for mums/babies
Yes police reports police go there a lot and its all logged she has 1 neighbour that log everything the rest its just what they see at times and police follow it up so again its all logged

just had a text from other grandmother baby is in hospital again dont know any details as of yet but said his ill but ok

gizmo111

tweetie_pie wrote: »

I said earlier the sw said as his in college and only gets EMA he doesnt need to BUT he has bought his milk twice nappies and clothes but thats out of money he had left in his bank as its holidays now he doesnt get EMA but has been looking for a p/time job and sent off applications etc so he can actually pay more

As I've said before this social worker is giving biased advice well out of her practice area.
I've asked before and you haven't answered, but what is her expereince?

tweetie_pie wrote: »

Yes we want the best outcome for HIM thats why we are seeking advice and will know more 2moro as yes you are right ther was no need for me to make a statement like that but as a family we are worried so i do apologise to all posters
thankyou

Again you are doing 2 different things - 1st thing your solicitor will do is write to SS legal dept and ask what the situation is - what sort of solicitor do you have is it a family law one or one who can represent you in public law?

gizmo111

tweetie_pie wrote: »

We have housing go to the meeting to say their piece about complaints sw has been trying to get her to go to the flat with baby to live and she keeps saying she will but dont but as she has been asked several times i think it wont be long before she loses it
It is a 2 bedroomed flat and they are specially for mums/babies
Yes police reports police go there a lot and its all logged she has 1 neighbour that log everything the rest its just what they see at times and police follow it up so again its all logged

just had a text from other grandmother baby is in hospital again dont know any details as of yet but said his ill but ok

Mother and Baby unit's usually have license conditions and would by now have givien notice if it was as bad as you say.
Your son needs to get to hospital and find out what is going on with his child's health.

joanne_d_3

Tweetie - i would just like to say that after reading through (most of) this thread that in my opinion both your own son and your baby grandson are very lucky to have someone like you looking out for them.

Your love for them both shines through.

If you do manage to get the baby to live with you and your son then i wish you all the luck in the world .

joanne x

tweetie_pie_3

nottslass wrote: »

so the social worker noticed the babies behavior was different,was suspicious he'd been given calpol,then allegedly finished her visit,didn't do anything,sought no medical attention and THEN later decided to call the police(as you described your first post) In an attempt to find the mother and baby ?

firstly we went down to grandmothers house(on a saturday):beer: and she was alone with teenagers as grandmother went on holiday
when we got there baby was screaming so red in the face mum said cant cope take him we took him and he calmed down in the car but was very pale and clammy
Once id settled baby i rang mum and asked how long he had been screaming and y didnt she call us as we only live 5 mins away she sed i forgot his medication it might be that
i said what medication she said docs gave him calpol as when she took him to docs he pressed his tummy baby screamed i sed oh did you take him to the doctors yesterday(friday) as she didnt mention anything at the core meeting the day before
she said no i have had it 5 days i said well if you have had it 5 days why didnt i have it wednesday when we had him for the day she said i forgot
I rang the family centre worker as he said to do so if you are worried about anything and he said he will check it out
there was no docs appointment so nothing was prescribed

since then his been more sleepy at times might be just tired but why did mum mention docs giving him calpol when he didnt so although there is no evidence they are checking on him and asking ppl who see baby wot he was like in himself when they have seen him
sw/family centre worker was worried because when picked him up from here no one could find her for hours as she is being aukward with them she keeps saying that she is taking baby away and as baby is on cp police are informed if no one knows where baby is or have not been seen and this has happened twice now