Just found out I'm pregnant - am scared

chocciefan

I'm well, had quite a few bouts of morning sickness, but apart from that feel quite healthy.

My partner told his family and sadly they all agreed with him and encouraged him to persuade me to have the abortion.

I am still sticking to my guns, but this latest development has made our 'relationship' so difficult and barely on speaking terms.

I'm just carrying on as normal hoping and praying that he will come round, but this doesn't seem to be the case.

I feel so down at the moment, not only that I am alone in such a special time, but I have lost someone who I still love so much.

I know many women out there have been through this and have got through it, but it just so painful at the moment, I hope it gets easier over time. xxxxxx

mountainofdebt

arh Choccie

I'm sorry to hear that your ex's family are of the same mould as him .......but as I said before all your baby needs is the love of the ones that actually love him / her.

Look at it as their loss.

it will get easier ..and you will meet that someone special who will love you and bump as you both deserve....and I'm guessing that's when ex will realise what an idiot he's been

X

mum2one

pulliptears wrote: »

correct it isn't, and even if it wasn't you could always say you were not certain.
When I had DS I was all for naming the father, fortunately my Mother talked me out of it. Best thing she ever did as I met my husband 7 months later who adopted DS without the hassles of having to consult the father. We also changed DS's name on my wedding day to my married name, something else that would have required his fathers permission.

Don't get me wrong, his father was never cut out of his life, he knew where his son was but chose to behave like lowlife and has never actually seen his own child.

I had the freedom to choose what was right for my child, without the interference of a parent that didn't really care anyway.

Really plzed that things havw worked out 4 u, I didn't put my ex'x name on my dds birth ceftificate and its the best thing that I never did. xx

kindofagilr

chocciefan wrote: »

I'm well, had quite a few bouts of morning sickness, but apart from that feel quite healthy.

My partner told his family and sadly they all agreed with him and encouraged him to persuade me to have the abortion.

I am still sticking to my guns, but this latest development has made our 'relationship' so difficult and barely on speaking terms.

I'm just carrying on as normal hoping and praying that he will come round, but this doesn't seem to be the case.

I feel so down at the moment, not only that I am alone in such a special time, but I have lost someone who I still love so much.

I know many women out there have been through this and have got through it, but it just so painful at the moment, I hope it gets easier over time. xxxxxx

Sorry to hear his family are being that way

You are doing the right thing, you want this baby so you are having this baby xxx

mum2one

Just wanted to say what a strong person you are and a special person, when I got pregnant with dd she wasn't planned, in fact we'd only been together 6 weeks, I left him when I was 7 mths gone, I walked out of a lying, abusive relationship. He is not named on her birth certificate, he refuses to pay maintance, he has walked past us in the street and ignored us. Yet I have the most beautiful daughter, shes nearly 8 now, great supportive friends and family. I've even started studying for a degree. You can do it, your hormones will be all over the place, but remember, your the one that matters.

Good luck, if you ever want anyone to chat to, pm and if I can help i will xx

lauren_1

I gave my dd and ds their fathers surname, worst mistake ever, by all means name him on the certificate but I wish I kept that bit empty too.

Brighton_belle

chocci- really sorry his family are saying this - bit shocked to be honest; it's not like he's 18 and had a one night stand.
Just want to offer my support and belief you are doing the right thing for you and you will be a great mum.
It is sad that you are having to go through this alone, and to lose someone you loved so much is very hard.
I hope you find support from other friends and family. You know you have it from us here.

Pixiechic

Hey chocciefan,

I am sorry that your ex is still being unsupportive, I am surprised at his family too.

You are doing so well and staying so strong. I am 28 so only a year younger than you and I admire your courage.

You sound like you will make a great Mum and your strength will one day put those who are not supporting you to shame. They will regret their decision one day when you and your beautiful baby are getting on in the world. You will won't regret your decision though.

I really wish you all the best and take care of yourself. Moving closer to your family sounds like a great idea too. It would be good for you to have some positive and helpful influences around. Practical ones too , cooking, washing, cleaning..........

Loopy_Girl

chocciefan wrote: »

I know many women out there have been through this and have got through it, but it just so painful at the moment, I hope it gets easier over time. xxxxxx

I'm sorry to hear that choccie and I can say it does get better although with the pregnancy hormones and stuff it can feel vert lonely at times. I remember hearing baby's heartbeat for the first time and going for my scan (we only used to get 1 at 12 weeks up here) on my own and feeling quite sad. I also had no one in with me at the labour room when giving birth and it was the saddest time of my life - make sure you have a birth partner lined up.

But it will all pass and no one should ever be 'encouraged' to have an abortion - what a horror of a family:eek:.

Surround yourself with friends and loved ones - they will be the ones to get you through this.

You are often in my thoughts so keep updating

Take care and lots of love xx

chocciefan

Hi everyone,

Just a little update to say that i am not feeling too good.

Please forgive me for saying this, but a part of me is unsure about whether I have made the right decision to have the baby.

I feel so alone without him and i know that it is important to stay strong, but I feel so sad and alone with no support.

I know that when the baby is born I'm sure I will feel better, but i miss my boyfriend so much - I know I shouldn't but you just can't stop loving someone straight away.

Then another part of me feels if I did abort, he may have left anyway - just feel depressed and down.

love choccie