When you & hubby/partner etc fall out who's the one to back down?

gabyjane

Hi thought id'e do a general post as covers most bits i think!

Firstly lol i knew he would get the sympathy vote over doing the hoovering etc!!

Yes i work long hours but the problem with childminding is it is never guaranteed..like any person self employed i guess! I have a lot on at the mo BUT it is a case of taking work can you can get it as never know what is round the corner. My morning job i will prob keep until im fired as is easy if not tiring but handy if i lose children. At the mo i am doing really well and the pay is about as good as it will ever get, we sat down when i got the enguiry and talked about how different/hard things would be but decided while i am younger and can still run round the park! etc i should take on the workload and earn the money to bank and secure for our future. It has been fine for the last few weeks while doing it and tbh as of today he doesnt have to do a lot to help it was just that initial day of getting funny with me when he had agreed to help.

Anyway! last night he came home and said he didn't like me not speaking to him and had had enough!.i said it was quite nice having some peace (jokingly!)..he then said could we agree to disagree..i have to admit i then said 'what you hope ill be ok with you being off with me for days' to which he said 'yeah' i knew it wasn't going to get any better than that so...have started divorce proceedings..joking!!..no we are fine again..i explained why he had to get up..he said he knew etc and we said we would just forget about it.

This morning things were fine again and he asked me if i would sit down and book the holiday with him later..again i just can't help it but said 'oh youv'e decided you want to go with me now then' he replied 'i never said that' i said he did and tbh i wasn't going to spend £1000's on him not being sure..he apologised and said he hadn't meant it and must have said it in the heat of the moment..men!

Anyway all done..maybe this will make him think next time it possibly crops up although i hope it doesn't!

Thankyou so much for all your replies and help with this..sometimes slly things escalate..this was one of them! I know have my friend to council as she is having a similar scenario with her hubby over something even more stupid..makes me feel better it's not just me!
Thanks again x

*Louise*

Thank gawd for that!!:D:T

gabyjane

*Louise* wrote: »

Thank gawd for that!!:D:T

Lol now were arguing over our new tv to be pmsl!! only joking i'm sorting it like a woman should!!

Rolandtheroadie

I have to say (without reading anything in the thread) my wife and I never fall out. Once in a blue moon, we may have 1 or 2 cross sentences (literally) but thats it. Over. Nobody conceeds, theres no need to. We both put our point across and thats it.
The cross words are normally about the kids. We both shout at them lol.

gabyjane

scotsman4th wrote: »

I have to say (without reading anything in the thread) my wife and I never fall out. Once in a blue moon, we may have 1 or 2 cross sentences (literally) but thats it. Over. Nobody conceeds, theres no need to. We both put our point across and thats it.
The cross words are normally about the kids. We both shout at them lol.

Some people are like that though aren't they..which is great! Some people just always shout at each other and fall out..i have to say i couldn't live like that peronally..quite depressing. I think we are inbetween..like i said further up somehwere we niggle at silly things like the washing up all over the place or mainly dd at the mo as she is a little monster at times! The niggling eased when our cleaners started and i have to say although i moaned i miss them coming in as the house today looks like beirut!! I am helping a friend this morning with a couple of hours cleaning and have to face this all when i return home..luckily ive set myself up for it so ok but all the time..no!..Time to look for another cleaner me thinks..

squirrelchops

I used to handle disagreements really badly - would end up making it 10 times worse! However I have learnt much better ways of communicating and taking the heat out of situations so OH and I rarely end up having drawn out arguments.

He did do my head in the other day though and I just decided to take myself away for some space rather than end up get very narky with him!