When you & hubby/partner etc fall out who's the one to back down?

*Louise*

euronorris wrote: »

I disagree. We all have trouble getting up sometimes, but we all have responsibilities too so tough.

If he doesn't want his OH nagging him to get up when he's struggling a) he shouldn't rely on her as alarm clock and b) he shouldn't commit to helping out with the children first thing in the morning (when she's not there to make up for him being late).

I'm with you on that one- seems like the OP phoned first and asked reasonably twice and only got annoyed when the people were actually walking towards the house and he STILL wasn't getting up, and it's not as if it was an arrangement which was sprung on him at the last minute.

I would expect that sort of behaviour from a teenager, not a grown man.

belfastgirl23

*Louise* wrote: »

I'm with you on that one- seems like the OP phoned first and asked reasonably twice and only got annoyed when the people were actually walking towards the house and he STILL wasn't getting up, and it's not as if it was an arrangement which was sprung on him at the last minute.

I would expect that sort of behaviour from a teenager, not a grown man.

Although anyone can have a bad day ... even me :A

euronorris

belfastgirl23 wrote: »

Although anyone can have a bad day ... even me :A

Of course, but I'm not sure what else he expected her to do in this case. OP, IF it comes up again, perhaps you can ask him this?

She couldn't just let him sleep in, he has responsibilities that he committed to, and she was not close enough to cover for him in this instance.

Tropez

On the few occassions my partner and I row I usually back down first and apologise. It doesn't necessarily mean I'm wrong (although I'm sure she would see it like that ), I just feel life's too short to let minor disagreements cause bad-feeling in our relationship.

belfastgirl23

euronorris wrote: »

Of course, but I'm not sure what else he expected her to do in this case. OP, IF it comes up again, perhaps you can ask him this?

She couldn't just let him sleep in, he has responsibilities that he committed to, and she was not close enough to cover for him in this instance.

Fair enough, this is true. And I think you're right to say that they need to discuss what was going on here. But if he's basically a decent man who had an off day I don't think I'd be huffing and puffing around demanding an apology. If it's an ongoing pattern then they definitely need to talk about it

gabyjane

nickyhutch wrote: »

It would have been an idea to mention it in your first post

Possibly but i wouldn't for a minute have thought of mentioning it if he was unregistered so didn't even cross my mind. I just found that particular reply a little off thats all.

Fang_3

Whoever's wrong. Though with an ex neither of us did because the angry making up was so much fun.

maggied_2

Fang wrote: »

Whoever's wrong. Though with an ex neither of us did because the angry making up was so much fun.

Bleeeeeeuuuughhhh! :rotfl:

Fang_3

maggied wrote: »

Bleeeeeeuuuughhhh! :rotfl:

Oh gird your loins. You know very well that it's true.

gabyjane

thanks guys!

Will get confused replying to all the posts individually so will just ramble on!

Basically it is a long standing arrangement with the children that he helps..he agreed to help out with this and i'm sorry but i still stand with what i have done/said and am actually pretty cross about the whole thing now as he is blaming me for waking him up isn't he?

I can quite happily lose a couple of the mindees if it is an issue and he doesn't have to do anything but he did say yes to this so it's not like i dragged him into it kicking and screaming.

Whoever said the comment about 'are you in a bad mood'? that is my worst thing to get annoyed with, tbh he says it when he doesn't agree with something i have said or i dont agree with him and it winds me up..i can be in a perfectly good mood and it just completely gets me! At the mo i couldn't be happier..we have a nice house..holiday..well now on hold!..lots of nice things to look forward to..good jobs and a cleaner to ease the stress on me..although another dillemma there with them but?!..anyway what i'm saying is what was i supposed to do..in all honesty just leave him and let the kids be late for school until he was ready?

He got home this afternoon and just looked at me and i said 'alright' he replied 'yes thanks' the only other comment was 'when are the children waking up' atmosphere is not the word! I have carried on as normal and worked till 6pm... i have just got back from walking the mindees home..i walked round the corner and the car had gone..he has obviously gone to work early..he never does this, he always waits for me..i feel quite upset actually as won't see him now till tomorrow morning and nothing..dd is not here either so feel pretty crap after a nice day.