Affair ???

ninky_2

misgrace wrote: »

Your not kidding jackie lol, this is a man who thinks he is so clever, a bit of a wide boy, but he got caught good and proper.:D

so did she end things with him?

flutterby_lil

Did you delete the text when you had read it? How did he know there was a text if you had deleted it? Or did you just leave it open and showing as read? (Sorry of this has already been said or asked). I was just thinking that if you had deleted it, he must have been in contact with her and something said about the text.

Hope everything works out for you.x

treetrunks

misgrace wrote: »

Brilliant idea :T infact so brilliant I told my friend who is having suspicions that her OH is dabbling on the side, she saw a text msg from someone, he explained away by saying it was somone coming for an interview and was running late!!!!! (he has his own business)
Anyway, we hunted around and found an old sim card from a pay as you go phone.
So she set the trap,sent a text and said practically what you wrote, and he fell hook line and sinker!!!!

not exactly conclusive proof though is it. Ive got some female friends and if one text me saying she'd changed a number and proposed meeting up then i would probably text back and agree. Would possibly not mention it to my partner unless she asked as women always assume something is going on. Nothings ever happened and nothing ever will, for some reason men arent allowed to be friends with women though.

LillythePink

misgrace wrote: »

Brilliant idea :T infact so brilliant I told my friend who is having suspicions that her OH is dabbling on the side, she saw a text msg from someone, he explained away by saying it was somone coming for an interview and was running late!!!!! (he has his own business)
Anyway, we hunted around and found an old sim card from a pay as you go phone.
So she set the trap,sent a text and said practically what you wrote, and he fell hook line and sinker!!!!

I have tried this with my OH and he didn't fall for it - which in one way I am surprised about but very glad!

vodooelephant

As some of you may remmeber i found this text on hubby's phone 2 weeks ago.... (he was asleep and i thought it was from his mother about walking her dogs with the kids)

"no you think you do. Its different i really dont know what to say but so worried this could ruin our friendship which would really upset me. I dont want to be responable for making you or emma or your kids unhappy. you have a really good life - dont !!!! it up..."

Anyways.... fastforwarding to today... he has not mentioned anything more about this other than the 5 minutes of I swear nothing happened we were all messing about (he was at a party) etc...

I found out it is her birthday this weekend and she has arranged a trip to London eye and clubs (found out through a mutual friend on facebook -she has blocked me herself...). Hubby is still deleted ALL text from his sent folder...

Hubby dosnt know that i am aware of her party but he will not let me make plans for next weekend... I said i would do a carboot on Sunday or maybee we take the kids to thorpe park (melin passes) or i could go out with an old friend to the cinema?but he said better to wait untill we have a less busy weekend.... There is NOTHING written on the calender......... I have checked with my sister if he has asked her to babysit nope (she is my twin and cannot lie to me ;0).....

He has also withdrawn £200 from our joint account......

So i can only guess that either he plans on going into London with her and their friends leaving me at home with the kids:mad: or he has planned a surprise for me :T

I can only pray for the second........ or that will be it for our marriage i cannot live like this anymore its not fair on me or the kids....

Thanks

E xxx

xmaslolly76

Vodoo (((Hugs))) it cant be nice having to sit a stew on it i really dont know what to advise you. I hope for yours and your families sake it is the latter of your two options that comes about xx

delain

If I were you I'd pack his stuff whilst he's off with her and leave it outside the (double locked) front door to collect on his return

Sorry, that's just what I would do!

vodooelephant

if he is out with her this weekend that is exatley what will happen.... I am already sorting through bits for the "car boot"

His stuff will be in his car at his mothers house.... with all 4 tyres let down. . .

viktory

vodooelephant wrote: »

As some of you may remmeber i found this text on hubby's phone 2 weeks ago.... (he was asleep and i thought it was from his mother about walking her dogs with the kids)

"no you think you do. Its different i really dont know what to say but so worried this could ruin our friendship which would really upset me. I dont want to be responable for making you or emma or your kids unhappy. you have a really good life - dont !!!! it up..."

Anyways.... fastforwarding to today... he has not mentioned anything more about this other than the 5 minutes of I swear nothing happened we were all messing about (he was at a party) etc...

I can't believe you haven't mentioned it to him. I would have had it out with him ages ago. What will you do if he b uggers off to London at the weekend?

vodooelephant

I did sit down with him and attempt to talk about it... he just said i know you read the text but its not what you think..... then just sat there for a few minutes..

since then he has not mentioned it and every time i bring it up he finds somthing else to do or goes and plays with one of the kids...