Affair ???

Pollycat

It must be awful for you, thinking that there may be something going on between your OH and this woman but not knowing for sure.

If it were me, I'd wait it out until the weekend and see what he does.
If he does come up with an excuse to be away on his own for the weekend then I think you can safely say he is being deceitful at the very least.
I must admit it does sound bad if he's saying that next weekend is busy even if you haven't got anything on the calendar or planned.

Regards

belfastgirl23

Surely if he was planning to be away at the weekend he'd have laid the groundwork by now? Or does he have the kind of work where last minute emergencies crop up?

Pixiechic

Hi,

I think you need to speak to him about this.


Good luck

mishkanorman

round of applause to the other woman, seems she at least is trying to make sure he is clear about where that road was leading them.

Hug for you x x x x dont let your mind run riot with all the possibles, everyone needs a bit of escape from life sometimes and hopefully thats all your OH has done and you can get back from this,

mishka

Money_maker

I wouldn't let on that you know about her birthday - why tip him off? At least you may get some resolution to this issue. Didn't you say she had a husband, surely he would be with her on this trip?

If he uses an excuse, would it be an old friends called him or perhaps a family member in peril. He may try to cause an arguement so he can go stomping out.

If he does go, I would text her and either ask her to send your husband home pronto or keep him forever.

Hope we're all wrong.

Bubby

Op - There is no way you can go on like this:(, sit your hubby down and have a very serious chat. Make him listen to you and ask for some answers, where has the £200 gone? Why can't you make plans for next weekend is it because of her birthday? Why has she blocked you off facebook (very odd).

Don't live your life in limbo it is awful, I spent so much time with my ex trying to "catch him out" that eventually I realised that I wasn't living a life anymore:(

vodooelephant

Bubby wrote: »

Don't live your life in limbo it is awful, I spent so much time with my ex trying to "catch him out" that eventually I realised that I wasn't living a life anymore:(

He has this weekend if he hasn't arranged something for me or OUR family but decided to spend it with his mates and her thats it...

The money is a bit tricky we had a large amount of money from tax credits which we have been waiting for for over 6 months we each said after bills paid we would spend some on ourselves/treat the kids as we have gone so long on so little..... TC all sorted now and we are being paid the correct amount now - so i guess that it could be for his 'treats' although 200 is a bit steep....

He can have as much access to the kids as he would like - Although i believe he would take little interest in our twin boys (he has always said he never felt anything for them bless them). But he is a good father to our 4yr old. I can only hope he will build a relationship with his sons when they get older.

As for her she was married to another one of their 'group' but they split up a few years ago he is a fantastic dad and takes their daughter alot....

I have learnt that men who keep nearenough the same group of friends they had at 14 never really grow up....

LydiaSophia

Why doesn't he feel anything for your twin boys????

He doesn't sound like he's very nice to be honest - sorry!

neneromanova

I too would take out some money from the account Voodoo. Just incase. You might need that £200 for food or something if he does go away for the weekend as he could take out more when he's there.

Bubby

vodooelephant wrote: »

He has this weekend if he hasn't arranged something for me or OUR family but decided to spend it with his mates and her thats it...

The money is a bit tricky we had a large amount of money from tax credits which we have been waiting for for over 6 months we each said after bills paid we would spend some on ourselves/treat the kids as we have gone so long on so little..... TC all sorted now and we are being paid the correct amount now - so i guess that it could be for his 'treats' although 200 is a bit steep....
Yes £200 is not a little treat so imo you have every right to ask him what he spent it on.

He can have as much access to the kids as he would like - Although i believe he would take little interest in our twin boys (he has always said he never felt anything for them bless them). But he is a good father to our 4yr old. I can only hope he will build a relationship with his sons when they get older.
That is awful:(:(

As for her she was married to another one of their 'group' but they split up a few years ago he is a fantastic dad and takes their daughter alot....
I don't think "she" is the problem, people aren't lured away unless they aren't happy and the way he is ignoring what you say, acting in a secretive way and says he feels nothing for your children all indicates he isn't happy in your marriage.

I have learnt that men who keep nearenough the same group of friends they had at 14 never really grow up....

He seems like a heartless person, it seems like you have resigned yourself to the fact he is like this which is very sad:(, you are worth more than this!