What happened to getting married before having children?

pigpen

maggied wrote: »

So it's likely that there'll then be 2 children to 3 different men both estranged from their fathers - that's depressing.

erm... how? lol

And ignorance is bliss.. I ended up pg with mine as a huge surprise after being told I was menopausal 4 years ago and the chances of me conceiving without assistance was a million to one.. it simply wasn't going to happen.. Just to prove the medical profession wrong.. AGAIN.. lol

galvanizersbaby

pigpen wrote: »

erm... how? lol

And ignorance is bliss.. I ended up pg with mine as a huge surprise after being told I was menopausal 4 years ago and the chances of me conceiving without assistance was a million to one.. it simply wasn't going to happen.. Just to prove the medical profession wrong.. AGAIN.. lol

Am thinking maggied meant 2 children to 2 different fathers maybe - otherwise it's not depressing it's a medical mystery as to where the 3rd father fits in?!:D

pigpen

I was just trying not to think about the logistics lol

maggied_2

Oops, I've edited!!! Good to know my training in....human biology and maths is serving me well!!

Pigpen - congrats on your surprise baby - but I don't think ignorance IS always bliss! I'm talking specifically about my friend here but I think that bringing a child into the world in (one of several) short term relationships is not very responsible. Her eldest has had 3 'uncles' in the last four years - how can that be a good thing?

galvanizersbaby

maggied wrote: »

Oops, I've edited!!! Good to know my training in....human biology and maths is serving me well!!

Pigpen - congrats on your surprise baby - but I don't think ignorance IS always bliss! I'm talking specifically about my friend here but I think that bringing a child into the world in (one of several) short term relationships is 'not' very responsible. Her eldest has had 3 'uncles' in the last four years - how can that be a good thing?

:rotfl:Maggied - have you done it again but missed out a word this time!?

maggied_2

Oh good God!!! I think I'll refrain from posting until my brain has woken up!!

jackieglasgow

I don't have an opinion in general either way, but I know for me specifically, there were going to be no children without a wedding ring. Well, metaphorically speaking as I don't have one, nor did I have a big fancy do, there was just OH, me the B and BMaid. What I don't understand is the people who get engaged, have kids and stay engaged for donkeys years, but refer to each other as fiance/fiancee but never get spliced, its like they are on a perpetual promise, I want to just shake them and say, either get wed, or just be partners, there's no need to be engaged if your never going to get married.If you have no plans to wed, why get engaged?

red_devil

oh's brother and his partner had a baby then they got married when the baby was 3 months old. They had another baby shortly afterwards as well. They were together about 8 years in total but they are now divorced and with new partners.

I think they would have split up whether they were married as they were or even if they werent.

pinknfluffy0

My issue isnt if a couple is married or not but people rushing into having children with someone they hardly know.

red_devil

thats true some people cant seem to live together first to see how they can get on. They have a baby and then split up? Why didnt they see if they could live together first?

Whats the rush.