Facebook Photos - Opinions appreciated!

Souk08

AW, I too posted on your other thread and honestly...Enough. STOP Facebook stalking him, STOP obsessing about him and his new partner and get on with YOUR life, YOUR plans etc. XXX

myothercarisaferrari

Right AW, woman to woman, untag yourself from the photos - it is easy to do - and as Fang said, get some self respect.

I have been where you are - 9 months ago in fact - my ex ended it abruptly after 4 years together. Just like that. I was a mess. I had no family in the area, so I ended up losing my beautiful home and job and friends, then moved down south for three months with a relative, then up here in the New Year.

I know its hard, jeez, all break ups are. But you have you health, your friends, your job, your home. Please please stop beating yourself up over this man - I cried and begged and pleaded with my ex to take me back. But I got a kick in the backside by my best mate and I stopped texting and calling and emailing.

It has been bloody hard but I have my self respect back and I am 'me' again. Its the best feeling in the world and as soon as you untag yourself and change your number, you will feel that too.

Any man who makes you cry is not worth it, unless they are tears of happiness.

Mupette

AlwaysWorking wrote: »

Ouch...a lot of 'tough love' on here today. :embarasse

I know you are right and I have deleted him. Anyone can see his pictures though.

Sorry for the tough love, but the sooner you can get rover him the better you will be (yes i know the old chestnut of time heals etc)

take up a new hobby, good way to meet new friends and have some fun in your life, time for you now, try not to dwell on things in the past, it doesn't help you grieve and heal.

Oldernotwiser

hngrymummy wrote: »

Personally I don't think you're being unreasonable. My ex bizarrely had a picture of me next to his bed when he started seeing someone else. I found that really weird.

Surely what is really weird is the fact that you knew this?

toontron

Looking at ex's facebook pages is like looking through somebodies diary - you never learn anything good, like I said earlier. My soon-to-be-ex-husband invented a female profile - the "female" then started sending me emails saying I didnt deserve my ex and that she was going to go out with him etc...... He even had convos with "her" on her wall - all for my benefit! Wasnt until I typed his email addy in to the "find your friends" section that I realised it was him all along - up popped this profile. The picture that he used for the pretend woman was of a tatty old piece with loads of makeup and a tattoo! LOL! My point is, it caused a lot of misery at the time, and you can so easily get sucked in to this realiity world where "friends" are people you dont really know etc........

NBirdy

I wonder if perhaps the fact that he still has your photo up is giving you a teeny bit of hope that there might still be something there between you? That he does still have feelings for you and is just in a muddle? I hope that's not what you're considering, you need to get past this, in time, and learn to be happy by yourself. I know it sucks, believe me I've been there too, but time really does help (I remember desperately wishing it would flipping hurry up about it though!).

shell_girl

NBirdy wrote: »

I wonder if perhaps the fact that he still has your photo up is giving you a teeny bit of hope that there might still be something there between you? That he does still have feelings for you and is just in a muddle? I hope that's not what you're considering, you need to get past this, in time, and learn to be happy by yourself. I know it sucks, believe me I've been there too, but time really does help (I remember desperately wishing it would flipping hurry up about it though!).

This is what I fear the OP is hoping. The problem is AW that none of us know. We could try and give you the answers you want to hear- eg it means he still loves you, it means he's only trying to make you jealous, he'll come back to you eventually...

The problem is that the only person who knows how he feels is him, and you have to go by what he's told you. Untag yourself and block him. You have to stop picking at this scab or it will never heal. And to keep going with the analogy, you'll have a nasty scar. Leave it alone and let it heal by itself.

poppyolivia

can he tell when you've been looking at his photos???

tenmah

OP - I totally, totally feel for you and know exactly what you are going through. I am doing the same as you and read his and her statuses constantly. It hurts so much that they are doing the things together that we used to do and going to all the places we were supposed to go to.

I have read all the good advice on here to you but it is easier said than done. I have looked at myself and thought I must be so horrible and unlovable for him to finish with me by saying he couldn't commit to a relationship (after 4 and a half years) and then find out that two months later he met someone else and they are so in love now.

It bl00dy hurts, and I don't know what the answer is. I wish I did......

poshcaz

delain wrote: »

How much simpler the world would be if Facebook just disappeared one day....

i couldnt agree more..... even though im still on it .. i have been thinking that for some time now..

oh and i would delete him