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pelirocco

AlwaysWorking wrote: »

I'm not staying 'friends' with him anymore. It's impossible - I don't want to be his friend. I wanted to be his wife.

I just wondered if there are any guys on here, why would someone leave pictures on FB for a new partner to see? Surely it's like a red flag..like warning them not to get to comfortable because as much as he is keen on her at the minute, he wanted to spend his life with me at Christmas?! :think:

or maybe he just likes playing mind games ?

Gordon_Hose

ninky wrote: »

i don't know you or your ex but it's that sort of behaviour i find more cruel. i was in two longterm relationships before my husband and both ended with infidelity and totally cutting me off. came out of the blue for me and was very hard to deal with.

She cheated on me, worrying about how "cruel" I was being to her didn't come into it.

pollyanna24

woody01 wrote: »

Well from the sounds of things, he didn't exactly have to drug her!

This may be so, but my bf decided he wanted a break from me and moved into the spare room.

Still came asking for the odd s**g though which completely messed with my brain as I kept interpreting it as him still wanting to be with me and couldn't understand why he wanted to BE with me, but not BE with me if you see what I mean. Talk about kicking a vunerable woman when she's down!

Learned my lesson now though.

AlwaysWorking

ninky wrote: »

would you really feel better if he deleted all memories and pictures of you from his life?

I honestly believe that because he moved onto another relationship so quickly after proposing, he can't ever have loved me with the depth of feeling he claimed. I feel like our relationship was a sham and the person I loved can't have existed. The person I agreed to marry in December would not have left me two months later...

This new person has no right to keep photos of us on FB. I hate the thought of his new girlfriend looking at our engagement picture and laughing at the idea that I was stupid enough to think he would marry me.

pelirocco

AlwaysWorking wrote: »

I honestly believe that because he moved onto another relationship so quickly after proposing, he can't ever have loved me with the depth of feeling he claimed. I feel like our relationship was a sham and the person I loved can't have existed. The person I agreed to marry in December would not have left me two months later...

This new person has no right to keep photos of us on FB. I hate the thought of his new girlfriend looking at our engagement picture and laughing at the idea that I was stupid enough to think he would marry me.

I know exactly how you are feeling , you do end up thinking didnt he ever really care about me ( and it makes you think there is something wrong with you ) , our advice to walk away is good advice , but sadly the pain will take some time to go away , but trust me you will get over it and realise you are worth so much more then he had to offer

AlwaysWorking

ninky wrote: »

harsh though it sounds, he was probably seperating from you in his mind even as he made a committment.

Ouch! That hurts.

He should have listened to his head then and saved himself the expense of the gorgeous engagement ring he presented me with that night.

Mupette

AlwaysWorking wrote: »

Hi

I thought I would post to get people's opinion on whether or not I am being unreasonable. I will try to keep this as brief as possible.

In December I got engaged. In Febuary we booked the wedding venue. Six days later my fiance left me, saying that he could not see us having a future.

I will be honest and say that I have not coped well with the break up. I love this man and was never as happy as the time I spent in a relationship with him. He however has moved on quickly; purchased a new home and resumed dating within a few weeks and has now been in a relationship with a girl for a couple on months.

We had tried being friends but since I am still desperately in love with him this usually resulted in things turning..ahem...'physical' every time we met. When I discovered he had a girlfriend I said I could no longer see him as I could not go from being his fiance to being the 'other woman'.

The problem is that he still has pictures of us together on Facebook. I find this difficult to understand and deal with, particularly the picture of us just after we got engaged, including everyone's happy comments below. I tagged the photos yesterday and wrote 'Please remove this photo'. He texted me in response asking why I wanted him to delete them as 'they are good memories'. I have just checked and the photos are still there.

For me the memories have been ruined as I feel very sad looking at how happy he looked in our engagement photo...he can't have been as happy as he seemed or loved me as much as he claimed if he left so soon after and moved onto another relationship so easily.

Do you think I am being unreasonable in asking him to remove the photos? Why would he still want to see them, or share them with others? Why would he want his new girlfriend to see them?

Thank you for reading!

It's been said already, but just comon sense, delete him as a 'friend' off facebook, he is no part of your life now, he has moved on, the more you look at his page the harder it is for you to get over him and get on with your life.

Tbh, what he does in his life now, you have no right to.

AlwaysWorking

Mupette wrote: »

Tbh, what he does in his life now, you have no right to.

Ouch...a lot of 'tough love' on here today. :embarasse

I know you are right and I have deleted him. Anyone can see his pictures though.

Gordon_Hose

AlwaysWorking wrote: »

Ouch...a lot of 'tough love' on here today. :embarasse

I know you are right and I have deleted him. Anyone can see his pictures though.

Then don't look at them if they hurt that much.

AlwaysWorking

dreambirdie wrote: »

i really hope for your sake he changes his profile to private.

His profile is private and I deleted him as a friend within days of him leaving, so I can't see his updates or anything. Just his picture, which aren't private. There aren't any new ones so I'm not being nosey- they're all ones of us, or one's I took/was there when they were taken.