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pelirocco

Tbh I would have thought that his new gf would find the picture very upsetting .............which should give you great satisfaction lol

But i agree with other posters , cut him off completely , it will hurt like hell for a short while , but trying to stay friends will hurt much longer , and you will end up wasting your life hoping he will come back to you .

jinky67

Amanda65 wrote: »

. Seems to me that every time you get yourself on the straight and narrow, the ex pops up in some way shape or form and bites you on the bum :mad:

I know the feeling:cool:

AlwaysWorking

pelirocco wrote: »

Tbh I would have thought that his new gf would find the picture very upsetting .............which should give you great satisfaction lol.

I know it should...but for some reason it doesn't. I know she is quite young (lol, I sound like Methuselah, I'm 32) and I guess I'm hurting so badly that I don't want anyone else to experience it.

pelirocco

AlwaysWorking wrote: »

I know it should...but for some reason it doesn't. I know she is quite young (lol, I sound like Methuselah, I'm 32) and I guess I'm hurting so badly that I don't want anyone else to experience it.

ive been there got the t - shirt , trust me he doesnt give a [EMAIL="t@ss"]t@ss[/EMAIL] and by being reasonable and staying '' friends '' his conscience is clear . there is nothing you can do to stop other people from experiencing hurt

you have to walk away

ninky_2

i feel for you OP. it's really hard moving on from a relationship you expected to last forever and the other person ended.

however, would you really feel better if he deleted all memories and pictures of you from his life? personally i found it harder to deal with being totally cut out of my exes life and treated as if i had never existed. at the moment it might be painful for you to look at these pictures but i think longer term you might feel glad that the time you spent together is seen as a very significant one by your ex.

i'd be more worried about the security setting on you exes facebook account - i don't think it is a good thing to have photos visible to whoever wants to see them. perhaps you could ask him to change his security settings to friends only and then you won't be tempted to look at them.

AlwaysWorking

pelirocco wrote: »

ive been there got the t - shirt , trust me he doesnt give a t@ss and by being reasonable and staying '' friends '' his conscience is clear . there is nothing you can do to stop other people from experiencing hurt

you have to walk away

I'm not staying 'friends' with him anymore. It's impossible - I don't want to be his friend. I wanted to be his wife.

I just wondered if there are any guys on here, why would someone leave pictures on FB for a new partner to see? Surely it's like a red flag..like warning them not to get to comfortable because as much as he is keen on her at the minute, he wanted to spend his life with me at Christmas?! :think:

skint-student-nurse

im also going to say block him...a mutual friend of mine and my ex's put photos of us together on facebook,i untagged myself...got re-tagged by my ex and the nightmare began! he was my ex fiance who left me and its like everytime i went on facebook,there was just this constant reminder of what things we like and it drove me insane. i deleted him and life has been so much easier since!

Gordon_Hose

I can't answer that. When I split with my ex I purged my life of everything that reminded me of her, including the Facebook pics.

Everyone is different though.

ninky_2

AlwaysWorking wrote: »

I'm not staying 'friends' with him anymore. It's impossible - I don't want to be his friend. I wanted to be his wife.

I just wondered if there are any guys on here, why would someone leave pictures on FB for a new partner to see? Surely it's like a red flag..like warning them not to get to comfortable because as much as he is keen on her at the minute, he wanted to spend his life with me at Christmas?! :think:

that 's how you see it. i doubt it is how he sees it. plus, harsh though it sounds, he was probably seperating from you in his mind even as he made a committment. vocalising a seperation is the final step of a mental process. and that is why it is often so hard for those of us who didn't make that decision to accept - because for us it just comes out of the blue.

try to take what he says on face value and not read too deeply into it. he says these are 'good memories' he wants to remember. this would seem to be true. why would he lie now when he has nothing to gain from doing so?

btw i am now happily married to a man who makes me feel loved and wanted every day.

ninky_2

Gordon_Hose wrote: »

I can't answer that. When I split with my ex I purged my life of everything that reminded me of her, including the Facebook pics.

Everyone is different though.

i don't know you or your ex but it's that sort of behaviour i find more cruel. i was in two longterm relationships before my husband and both ended with infidelity and totally cutting me off. came out of the blue for me and was very hard to deal with.