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AlwaysWorking

Hi

I thought I would post to get people's opinion on whether or not I am being unreasonable. I will try to keep this as brief as possible.

In December I got engaged. In Febuary we booked the wedding venue. Six days later my fiance left me, saying that he could not see us having a future.

I will be honest and say that I have not coped well with the break up. I love this man and was never as happy as the time I spent in a relationship with him. He however has moved on quickly; purchased a new home and resumed dating within a few weeks and has now been in a relationship with a girl for a couple on months.

We had tried being friends but since I am still desperately in love with him this usually resulted in things turning..ahem...'physical' every time we met. When I discovered he had a girlfriend I said I could no longer see him as I could not go from being his fiance to being the 'other woman'.

The problem is that he still has pictures of us together on Facebook. I find this difficult to understand and deal with, particularly the picture of us just after we got engaged, including everyone's happy comments below. I tagged the photos yesterday and wrote 'Please remove this photo'. He texted me in response asking why I wanted him to delete them as 'they are good memories'. I have just checked and the photos are still there.

For me the memories have been ruined as I feel very sad looking at how happy he looked in our engagement photo...he can't have been as happy as he seemed or loved me as much as he claimed if he left so soon after and moved onto another relationship so easily.

Do you think I am being unreasonable in asking him to remove the photos? Why would he still want to see them, or share them with others? Why would he want his new girlfriend to see them?

Thank you for reading!

redding

Delete him off facebook. Seriously, there is so much heartache on this board from women (and men) who can't move on because they try and go down the "friend" route right after a break up and then can't understand when they start bickering with their former fiancee/partner when they move on.

Save yourself the posts and cut contact, give yourself time to heal. Speaking from experience, you need to go cold turkey.

Time is a great healer, I hated my mother for repeatedly reminding me during a bad break up, but darn it she was right.

You'll heal once you rip off the band-aid.

hngrymummy

Personally I don't think you're being unreasonable. My ex bizarrely had a picture of me next to his bed when he started seeing someone else. I found that really weird.

I suggest you untag yourself from the photos and unfriend him on FB. It's not doing you much good to stay friends with him to be honest, as you're not allowing yourself to move on.

It's nice to think that exes can be friends, but often the reality is that you need a complete break from them first.

miss_maid

Hi!

OMG no way are you being unreasonable, I can only imagine how hurtful it is to have them as a constant reminder, does he not realise how insensitive he's being?

This may sound harsh, but sounds like you had a lucky escape! Your ex sounds like a complete !!!hole, he's dumped you 6 days after proposing, dating other girls and then continues to string you along by still sleeping with you. Stop meeting up with him and delete him off facebook x

davetrousers

redding wrote: »

You'll heal once you rip off the band-aid.

Let them know it's Christmas time, Feed the world......

Not sure of the relevance of am 80s Charity single.

tanith

I agree with redding... just delete him then you can move on..... why would you want to torture yourself by looking at what he is up to... do it today and you'll heal quicker...

delain

How much simpler the world would be if Facebook just disappeared one day....

davetrousers

Book yourself a holiday with one (or more) of your friends and escape things for a while.

redding

davetrousers wrote: »

Let them know it's Christmas time, Feed the world......

Not sure of the relevance of am 80s Charity single.

hardy har har

toontron

Ive said it before the week and I will say it again, Facebook is the very instrument of the devil himself. It opens up old wounds, stops you moving on from "done" relationships, it is a truely compulsive agent of old Nick. (I should know, Im a hopeless victim myself).

moromir

If it is a solution - you can 'un-tag' yourself from photos so they won't link to your profile so you wont see them when you look at your own photos, so the only way you'd see them is if you were trawling his photos.