Facebook Photos - Opinions appreciated!

ninky_2

Gordon_Hose wrote: »

She cheated on me, worrying about how "cruel" I was being to her didn't come into it.

fair enough. sorry i misinterpreted your post.

AlwaysWorking

Gordon_Hose wrote: »

Then don't look at them if they hurt that much.

True. But my point is that I don't want them on his FB page for the world (and his new gf) to see. I accept I'm in his past, as much as that hurts, and since he doesn't have pictures of any other ex lovers on there, I fail to see why mine is.

ninky_2

AlwaysWorking wrote: »

I honestly believe that because he moved onto another relationship so quickly after proposing, he can't ever have loved me with the depth of feeling he claimed. I feel like our relationship was a sham and the person I loved can't have existed. The person I agreed to marry in December would not have left me two months later...

This new person has no right to keep photos of us on FB. I hate the thought of his new girlfriend looking at our engagement picture and laughing at the idea that I was stupid enough to think he would marry me.

i really doubt his new girlfriend is laughing at you. put yourself in her shoes. if your ex had been engaged before he met you and had pictures still of the old fiance would you have laughed at her?

Gordon_Hose

AlwaysWorking wrote: »

True. But my point is that I don't want them on his FB page for the world (and his new gf) to see. I accept I'm in his past, as much as that hurts, and since he doesn't have pictures of any other ex lovers on there, I fail to see why mine is.

Sorry if this sounds harsh, I mean no offence...but you don't have any control over what he puts on his Facebook page, whether it be a status or a picture, so maybe it's best just to forget about it.

AlwaysWorking

ninky wrote: »

i really doubt his new girlfriend is laughing at you. put yourself in her shoes. if your ex had been engaged before he met you and had pictures still of the old fiance would you have laughed at her?

No. I would have felt incredibly sorry for her that she had lost this fantastic man. She already has the man I wanted to spend my life with, I don't want her looking at my picture and pitying me as well.

He had been married before and I had no problem with her picture being in albums that we looked at. I felt confident enough in our relationship to think that she was part of his past and I was his future. More fool me, I guess. Maybe his new GF will feel the same but even if he wants to keep the engagement picture on his pc, there is no need for it to be on FB with everyone's 'congratulations' comments below.

Pee

My view is that one day you will look at the pictures and find that it no longer hurts, and when you get there, you will know that you are over him.

It is human nature to look at the photos even though you know it will hurt.

It probably will be upsetting for his new girlfriend, although it might be helpful to remind her that she may be best off not getting too involved.

I would mention that you say you wanted to be his wife, not his friend. To my mind anyone I was prepared to marry would certainly have to be a friend. I think you don't want him as a friend because you thought you wanted him as a husband and have now realised he is not the man you thought he was.

My ex had loads of photos of me up on a wall. There were lots of photos in there that weren't of me, some of other friends whilst we were together and some of a previous ex of his and other friend before we got together. I thought that was strange, but I was a big part of his life, as he was mine.

Pee

If I was her I wouldn't be pitying you, I think in a year's time, you'll look back at this and laugh.

alleycat`

To be honest:-

I doubt she would care and i'm not 100% sure he would have thought about it (to be cruel) until you mentioned it.

replace "Facebook" with photos in an album and it doesn't sound the same does it?

I have photos of my ex-gf's in photo albums and i haven't thought about most of them in years (even the ones i was very serious with).

A lot have comments on them written by me , my ex or our friends at the time (this is akin to the facebook comments).

I'm married (8 years+) and my wife doesn't care about these photos nor do i about people she has dated and the photos associated with her life.

We accumulate a history as we go along.
I appreciate for you it is raw so as others have said remove the tag, remove him from facebook and try to forget about it (as hard as that might be)..

If i come across as rude or harsh it wasn't intended in that way.

maisiescamp

ninky wrote: »

i really doubt his new girlfriend is laughing at you. put yourself in her shoes. if your ex had been engaged before he met you and had pictures still of the old fiance would you have laughed at her?

I second this, my DH was engaged before me and when we first started dating, his Mum still had a picture of them together up on the wall. At no point did I think it was funny, or laugh at the fact they looked happy....I was just upset that the photo was still there and also a little envious that they had been together so long and experienced so much. Silly I know seen as they had broken up!

I think you should block him on FB, you have asked him to remove the photo's, there is nothing more than you can do other that try and block him out and move on without any contact.

Good Luck!:)

ecgirl07

AlwaysWorking wrote: »

No. I would have felt incredibly sorry for her that she had lost this fantastic man. She already has the man I wanted to spend my life with, I don't want her looking at my picture and pitying me as well.

more tough love:

he is not a fantastic man - he is just a guy.

stop idolising him - you dont want to spend the rest your life with someone who would leave you. Ive read your other thread and this feels like the last straw you are clutching at.

Get it in your head he has moved on you have to. You must take your house back - and start your life again.

Look at it this way we are maybe meant to be with people for a certain amount of time - you had good time with this guy, you will have good times with a new guy and when you do you will realise that its different but better and you will (speaking from experience) here curse the months you wasted getting over this guy.