Facebook Photos - Opinions appreciated!

pigpen

Take him off your friends list... sorted!!

you can untag yourself from his pics before doing so.

AlwaysWorking

dreambirdie wrote: »

a close friend of mine does it, and shes always heartbroken - until she meets the next guy of course!

A small part of me is envious of your friend. It would be lovely to think I could just start a new relationship with someone and all of this pain would just magically disappear. But I would never want a rebound relationship..apart from anything else, it wouldn't be fair on that person. I need to give myself time to move on before I try again.

AlwaysWorking

Pepzofio wrote: »

He is not struggling and has moved on, so is it really so unbelievable that he wants to remember the good times he had with you?

But how can a picture of our engagement make him remember the 'good times' when he left me two months later? It can't have been that good a time for him...as another poster has already said, he was probably already thinking of leaving at that stage.

Zazen999

AlwaysWorking wrote: »

But how can a picture of our engagement make him remember the 'good times' when he left me two months later? It can't have been that good a time for him...as another poster has already said, he was probably already thinking of leaving at that stage.

Perhaps you should put that as a comment on the photo itself?

Or say 'unless you take off all the photos of me, I'll tell everyone about your.....well, lets just say it's best for you to remove all photos of me, your friends really don't want to know'...

January20

delain wrote: »

How much simpler the world would be if Facebook just disappeared one day....

The problem is not Facebook. It's people who are unable to use it sensibly.

Why do you torture yourself looking at his pictures? Get some will power (and self respect) and stay away from them. What will it bring you? Nothing but heartache.

ETA: looking at the way he treated you before and after the split, he must love all this attention, you begging to have the photos removed from HIS facebook page, knowing that you can't keep away from it eventhough you have deleted him as a friend. Don't give him the thrill!

Fang_3

AlwaysWorking wrote: »

But how can a picture of our engagement make him remember the 'good times' when he left me two months later? It can't have been that good a time for him...as another poster has already said, he was probably already thinking of leaving at that stage.

Does it matter?

He's moved on, so stop beating yourself up about it and delete him and ignore him. Or continue to wallow in self pity and finding every excuse to have contact with him.

Pepzofio

AlwaysWorking wrote: »

But how can a picture of our engagement make him remember the 'good times' when he left me two months later? It can't have been that good a time for him...as another poster has already said, he was probably already thinking of leaving at that stage.

Clearly he was happy on some level, or he wouldn't have proposed. Or gone on to book a wedding venue.

It's only natural to look back and wonder if you ever actually meant anything to someone - especially with it coming so out of the blue for you - but the fact that the relationship ended doesn't negate the fact that the relationship was previously a happy one.

At the end of the day, it makes no difference how happy or otherwise he was when he proposed, the fact is that two months later he was no longer happy, and that is what is really upsetting you. Not the photos. Not that they are on FB. Not why he/his GF/anyone else might want to look at them.

It is truly, truly devastating when someone you want to spend the rest of your life with stops loving you. But I've been on both ends, and I can honestly say that it is possible for feelings to completely change very quickly. It doesn't mean that you didn't have those feelings, or believe at the time that those feelings would be there forever.

AlwaysWorking

Fang wrote: »

Does it matter?

He's moved on, so stop beating yourself up about it and delete him and ignore him. Or continue to wallow in self pity and finding every excuse to have contact with him.

I have deleted him from my friends list and I do ignore his texts. I was just asking if it was unreasonable for me to ask him to remove the photos of me from his FB page seeing as he has moved on and is now in a new relationship.

Pepzofio

AlwaysWorking wrote: »

I have deleted him from my friends list and I do ignore his texts. I was just asking if it was unreasonable for me to ask him to remove the photos of me from his FB page seeing as he has moved on and is now in a new relationship.

No it's not reasonable. They're his photos, his FB account and his memories too. You've already admitted that while you were together he had photos of his ex-wife in an album which you didn't find weird or have a problem with.

Yes, you've deleted him off your friends list, but you are the one actively seeking out his photos. If you haven't already done so, untag yourself from them (or ask him to) then block him so you CAN'T look at them.

I understand you're still upset, but fixating on these photos is not going to help you, and neither is trying to convince yourself what a wonderful man you've lost.

ETA: Sorry, after rereading that comes across as really harsh, which it wasn't meant to be. It's just really frustrating that we're on p 5 and you're still asking the same question! I really hope you can put this behind you and move on soon.

Pep x

ninky_2

AlwaysWorking wrote: »

But how can a picture of our engagement make him remember the 'good times' when he left me two months later? It can't have been that good a time for him...as another poster has already said, he was probably already thinking of leaving at that stage.

who knows. but you won't be able to come to a satisying answer to this and other similar questions no matter how much you think about it. you need to start thinking of other things and try to plan a future for yourself. no matter how unsatisying that life may feel for a while you need to keep moving forward and concentrating on changes in your life. eventually it will start to feel better. but by dwelling on it you are just prolonging your healing time. easier said than done i know. but please try for your own sake.