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Hezzawithkids

I can sympathise with anyone who has to work with/for a bully. I worked for one who terrorised an entire department (180 people) for 3 years :eek: He was insane and picked on teams or individuals incessantly, almost taking turns in working his way around the department, singling them out for public dressing downs and humiliation, including me on more than one occasion. Everyone despised him. Thing is, once you get past the emotional impact (which took me a good 6 months), you realise that the problem isn't you, its them, and his tactics ceased to have any impact on anyone (not that it stopped him). There were loads of complaints & reports about him but cos the MD was his "mate" nothing was ever done (he did get sent for some coaching but he must have skipped quite a few sessions!). Eventually he was removed but not before he'd done a lot of damage to the business (which he blamed on everyone else) and everyone cheered when it was announced that he had "resigned" - first and only time that's ever happened in my experience.

I guess what I'm trying to say is bullies never get away with it in the long term, but what amazes me is that, in this day and age when emloyees have so much on their side legally (my OH is an employer and knows all about this) that there are still so many out there. I still feel partly traumatised by my experience and can't seem to shake it off even though it was so long ago.

I'm not helping much am I??

Hezzawithkids

We're having the hall, landing stairs emulsioned tomorrow so I have spent today glossing the woodwork. No less than TEN doors + frames + skirting boards + bannisters + window sill + loft hatch, no wonder I'm aching & I'm still only half way though :eek: I've aggravated an old neck strain so it'll be on with the herbal heat pad at bed-time

puddings_2

Turnstiles lol!
I find it helps the momentum if you take a run up!

victory

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mazza111

Betty, I used to love it....
Now....
Detest it with a vengeance. This guy isn't my manager, my manager isn't really a bullying type, but more a sheep who can't say anything to your face if he has a problem with you.

I took this guy to the side and confronted him way back when he was just made a trainee manager, to ask what his problem was with me, as every time he commented on something it was rude and rather close to the cutting mark. He said he had no problem, as he was just joking...

Well instead of me asking, if he had a problem with me clearing the air, it drew a dividing line, anytime he was working alongside me there was always an athmosphere or snide comments being made. It all came to a climax when my son had his 2nd severe allergy and I had to take him to the doctors. I got remarks like "You do this every time I'm here managing on my own" (yes twice my son had took a severe allergy attack whilst he was on his own, like who can help that?!?!) "I'm going to mark you as being sick if u go" (which legally he can't do) "I'm going to speak to my manager about you" At this point I told him he could sack me if he wanted, I was taking my kid to the doctor. Then he had the cheek to ask me if I was coming back after the appointment... Which I told him depended on whether my son got hospitalised again or not. I told him he was nothing but a bully, and I wasn't going to be bullied by him or anyone else. I was lucky that this was all said in front of the union rep, so have a witness should it come to anything. Chatted to my own manager about him, manager was very supportive about the situation with my DS.

The day after the even with my DS, I even helped him out by going to pick up a colleague who was stranded in middle of town, as a favour, and he has yet to say a word of thanks. Outside having a smoke, I mentioned to a colleague that I had put last years shorts on, he told me I should be like him and lose weight. :eek: Being a smart 4rse myself, I told him once i got to the size of him, I'd invest in a ham machine to slice it off.
But since then, things have been very strained even with my own manager, feel like they are looking to pick up on the slightest wee thing wrong etc and giving me the crappiest jobs in the place. But I've grinned and got on with it, up until my knee went out.


See what u guys do to me? All the gory details coming out :rotfl: Couldn't get an appointment to see the doc today, so will be off sick tomorrow too until i get one.

mazza111

I must apologise to all the larger people for that comment I made to him btw, I'm really not like that, I am more supportive of anyone who is more overweight than I am and don't attempt to cut them to pieces with words. Even my sister was totally shocked that I said that to anyone. Shocked myself too, as it's really not me, but couldn't sit back and take comments like that from that person!

So please, anyone who thinks I was cutting with that remark, I am not like that

beanielou

Mazza~Not sure if this has been mentioned but you could have a wee word with ACAS.
Keep strong.

puddings_2

:mad::mad::mad:i'm so f***ing angry with myself right now
Today i got an unexpected visit from an old friend "sorry i forgot your birthday last week" and all that.
It was great to see her, she had very kindly brought round a card... and :eek:A CAKE:eek:
Now this was not a muffin or even a small cake but a full on 10/12 portion sponge cake covered in fancy icing etc, looking very delicious as all cake should.

My brain was yelling "Oh My God Take That Thing Away" but, being too polite for that, the only words that came out of my mouth were "Lisa, thank you soo much, you are so very kind".

In hindsight I should of shoved the diplomacy and taken a direct decline.

We sat, had a chat and a coffee and we cut into the cake.My head was still in weightwatcher mode and I needed to get rid of the damn thing so trying to think strategically at this point I cut her a huge slice, and cut myself less than a childs portion, [plus an unexpected lump went under the table for the dog too]

I had some errands to run, there was still 3/4 of the cake left, put in the fridge, "your lodgers will eat it" she suggested. Maybe she doesnt know me that well at all!

After my errands I dropped her off, then returned home, and the moment I was alone, just me and the monster in the fridge, my attitude changed so bloody much, I didnt care one jot about calories or blood pressure or heart attacks or dieing at age 40. I lost all control, all my focus was aimed at that cake there was nothing anybody could of said at that moment that would of stopped me, I got a spoon and ate until I felt sick. Now reality has kicked back in, I cant express how angry I feel with myself.

For nearly a month, I've planned every single thing that has passed my lips, with hardly a waiver. Today one unexpected thing happens and I deal with it like that. Am beginning to wonder if im just not right in the head.
:mad:

mazza111

Puddings Strange that people's good intentions can bring an addiction into full binge mode.

Start again tomorrow hon, says maz who's nicking milkybar moments and wine gums from DS's desk. Wish the wee !!!!!! had taken them with him to his dad's.


Anyone else feel that having codeine gives them mega pangs of the sweet tooth?

broadpaws

Hey puddings,

Sorry youa re so cross, look at this as ONE bad MOMENT in a MONTH!! Now what positive can you take from this?
NO more cake allowed into the house - it is a trigger for you, Jellybeans are mine, they call my name "broadpaws, eat me.." if they are not in the house I don't miss them, and I bet you are the same with cake.

Do not be hard on your self, keep away from the fridge tonight, drink lots of water to help flush it through and just start again NOW!

Be strong the journey is long and you are only human, have a nice walk with your dogs and be strong.

BP xx