Too young to have my baby?

Cait2

chloe99 wrote: »

Can I say to you please, when you make this decision, do not take any notice of how long or short a time other people's partners stuck around for for. Try to imagine that you and your partner split - then imagine, do I want the baby or don't I? Think about it as if it were just you and your parents, then if you keep the baby you will know that whatever happens with your partner, you will be able to cope with baby on your own.

xx

Thank you I have considered being alone, or being with him, today he apologised for last night and says he does want the baby and will stick by me..... we'll see...

Cait2

westiea thank you so much for the links, very helpful! :beer:

Thanks everybody, read your posts and I have to rush now, but massive thank you o everybody for the help and support, it's very touching, xx:T

indebtinsussex

Really pleased that you have made a decision that you are happy with

I was 20 when I fell pregnant my boyfriend at the time didn't want it (we'd been together 3 years at that point) and told me he would leave me if I decided to have it and ensure that I never got a penny from him. So against my wishes I went and had a termination, in hindsight it was the best decision for me as I wasn't mature enough to have a baby, if I had been I wouldn't have been bullied into a decision I didn't want.

Its now nearly 10 years later and I still have huge issues with what I have done and have had to have counselling as it effected me really badly.

Abortion isn't the easy route that I thought it would be

good luck for the future x

fireflycatcher

indebtinsussex wrote: »

Really pleased that you have made a decision that you are happy with

I was 20 when I fell pregnant my boyfriend at the time didn't want it (we'd been together 3 years at that point) and told me he would leave me if I decided to have it and ensure that I never got a penny from him. So against my wishes I went and had a termination, in hindsight it was the best decision for me as I wasn't mature enough to have a baby, if I had been I wouldn't have been bullied into a decision I didn't want.

Its now nearly 10 years later and I still have huge issues with what I have done and have had to have counselling as it effected me really badly.

Abortion isn't the easy route that I thought it would be

good luck for the future x

*Hugs* to you :kisses3:

margaretclare

Just another small point to consider about abortion.

All of these things can be considered a loss, a bereavement if you like. Just like any other loss. An accidental miscarriage. Death of a family member. Divorce. Redundancy even.

A bereavement, and you need to look at if from that point of view. At a very young age you may not have lost a parent, but you may have lost a grandparent. There is a grieving process. Some people never get over it.

Make-it-3

I wonder if John said he wanted you to keep the baby simply because he didn't want to be seen suggesting an abortion. It's quite unusual for 16 yr old boys to want to be fathers. And now that you've made your decision he's getting scared about what that really means for him.

I wish you both the best of luck, it's gonna be a tough time for your relationship and it will be a real test to see how strong it actual is.

skiTTish

Been there done that ,got the stretch marks :./
Now I am in my mid thirties and only just achieved financial stability and not having to worry about money and now own my own house ,cars etc ,things that most people achieve in their twenties and it has taken me until now to achieve.
given the choice ,I would have waited and been financially stable and have my own home before having my first child .
Oh and the risks of abortion are surely no greater than the risks of pregnancy are they ?

pinknfluffy0

they are less than the risk of pregnancy

Person_one

margaretclare wrote: »

Just another small point to consider about abortion.

All of these things can be considered a loss, a bereavement if you like. Just like any other loss. An accidental miscarriage. Death of a family member. Divorce. Redundancy even.

A bereavement, and you need to look at if from that point of view. At a very young age you may not have lost a parent, but you may have lost a grandparent. There is a grieving process. Some people never get over it.

A lot of women also feel an immense sense of relief after an abortion and never regret it. Not all women react the same or feel the same.

gratefulforhelp_2

Cait I'm glad you have made a decision, wishing you and the little one a happy life for the future.