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If they havent been living together, doesnt that mean that both of them would have been claiming benefits as single parents,( as neither of them are working) and that also would have been 2 lots of H/B and C/T that they would have been getting?
so moving in together as a couple, will mean only one lot of H/B and C/T that they will be claiming? and the money they get for IS wont be as much for a couple? or have i totally got myself confuzzled, as I was getting a headache just reading this thread :eek:"I live my dream today, I lived it yesterday and I'll be living yours tomorrow":smileyhea
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Hi Hun, Are you ok,
you do what you feel is right by your kids, if moving in together is better then do that, I hope you get sorted, and take no notice of the judgemental people on here,
what goes around comes around xxx
Blessed Be
Gold and Angelic Reiki to you xx
Tracy
Am sending healing your way xxOh my god, if i dont laugh i will cry!
How on earth have i managed a relationship around an illness?
This is getting ridiculous, i asked for advise, got jumped on for being honest and now ridiculous accusations are being thrown.
Note to self.....Do not ask for advice from anyone on here again!
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POPPYOSCAR wrote: »Sorry I am confused by this Couple definition. So are they defined by the benefits system as a couple because they have children?
No. It's possible to have children together and not be part of a couple you know!
I think it's along the lines of how they present themselves, and share finances, and if he supports HER (not just the kids).All over the place, from the popular culture to the propaganda system, there is constant pressure to make people feel that they are helpless, that the only role they can have is to ratify decisions and to consume.0 -
moomoomama27 wrote: »Exactly!
OP says :
So they split for 2 yrs, yet have never lived together, so presumably were together at some point, claiming that they were not!?
And I'm judgemental with no reason;)
At no point has she stated that she claimed as a "single" person before they split.
I don't even see where this is going. Surely we should just stick to the facts, rather than try to be suspicious of every poster on benefits, and trying our hardest to catch them out by reading far to much (or not at all) into what is (or isn't) being said?All over the place, from the popular culture to the propaganda system, there is constant pressure to make people feel that they are helpless, that the only role they can have is to ratify decisions and to consume.0 -
gorgeousgeorge wrote: »If they havent been living together, doesnt that mean that both of them would have been claiming benefits as single parents,( as neither of them are working) and that also would have been 2 lots of H/B and C/T that they would have been getting?
so moving in together as a couple, will mean only one lot of H/B and C/T that they will be claiming? and the money they get for IS wont be as much for a couple? or have i totally got myself confuzzled, as I was getting a headache just reading this thread :eek:
oops, forgot to do edit instead of quote
What i mean is wont they have LESS benefits if they claim as a couple, and wont H/B and C/T be saved, as it will only 1 property that benefits will be paying out for?"I live my dream today, I lived it yesterday and I'll be living yours tomorrow":smileyhea
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Deepmistrust wrote: »No. It's possible to have children together and not be part of a couple you know!
I think it's along the lines of how they present themselves, and share finances, and if he supports HER (not just the kids).
Well not according to some on here who are saying they are benefit frauds.How can they be benefit frauds if they are not living together.0 -
Morgan_Ree wrote: »Of course people can get back together. But the OP has said herself the've been split up for 2 years. Which implies they have been a couple in the past. Now as an honest person the OP would surely have notified the correct depts of her change from 'single parent' to couple (and vice versa when they split up) therefore would already know how long it takes to process such claims.
She also said they have never lived together. Again safe to assume she's been claiming single parent benefits in that time.
She's played the system however you dress it up.
What exactly does "play the system" mean? If she's done something illegal, then fine. But there is nothing on here to suggest (no, assumptions do NOT count) that she has.
If you mean has she claimed anything and everything whatever she is entitled to...then yes it sounds like she has. I thought that this site was to help people be aware of what they are eligible for?All over the place, from the popular culture to the propaganda system, there is constant pressure to make people feel that they are helpless, that the only role they can have is to ratify decisions and to consume.0 -
POPPYOSCAR wrote: »Well not according to some on here who are saying they are benefit frauds.How can they be benefit frauds if they are not living together.
Search me?
I know there are some circumstances that they will consider you a "couple" for benefits purposes, even when you are living together.
If they were not living together because he was working away or something, I know that counts and they would be a "couple" then.
It would be pretty difficult to enforce for most people. Otherwise the benefits office would be mightly busy harrassing all those recipients who are dating someone that doesn't live with them:rotfl:All over the place, from the popular culture to the propaganda system, there is constant pressure to make people feel that they are helpless, that the only role they can have is to ratify decisions and to consume.0 -
I swear to god some of you need to spend a little less time licking windows.
What goes around comes around???
Are you mad??POPPYOSCAR wrote: »Well not according to some on here who are saying they are benefit frauds.How can they be benefit frauds if they are not living together.
Is she a lone parents?
You know a parent bringing her children up ALONE?Deepmistrust wrote: »What exactly does "play the system" mean? If she's done something illegal, then fine. But there is nothing on here to suggest (no, assumptions do NOT count) that she has.
If you mean has she claimed anything and everything whatever she is entitled to...then yes it sounds like she has. I thought that this site was to help people be aware of what they are eligible for?
Lets say you were the OP and I was a friend just casually asking if you were single :cool:
You would obviously say no right?
Now lets say I work for Tax credits.
OP are you single?
Yes I am......
Can you really not see the problem here??Future Mrs Gerard Butler
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Morgan_Ree wrote: »I swear to god some of you need to spend a little less time licking windows.
What goes around comes around???
Are you mad??
Are you? You can't even read that said that she was SEPERATED from him (only recently has he become her partner again).
She has also made ZERO mention of how she presented her claim (i.e. couple or single) before her SEPERATION.
Hence, why I stated perhaps we should stick to facts, rather than assumptions.
Is she a lone parents?
You know a parent bringing her children up ALONE?
No, hence why now she has a partner she wants to be a "couple". What is difficult about that?
Lets say you were the OP and I was a friend just casually asking if you were single :cool:
You would obviously say no right?
Now lets say I work for Tax credits.
OP are you single?
Yes I am......
Can you really not see the problem here??
Again, you are wandering off on a tangent again. Perhaps stick to facts:
1. She was seperated and "single" for two years
2. Now she isn't (back with ex) she wants them to move in together and commit, as a "couple".
3. She has made no mention of how she presented herself prior to any seperation.
Facts, deary, facts.All over the place, from the popular culture to the propaganda system, there is constant pressure to make people feel that they are helpless, that the only role they can have is to ratify decisions and to consume.0
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