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  • AnxiousMum
    AnxiousMum Posts: 2,709 Forumite
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    DMT - it's like trying pee standing upside down having a conversation with you! geesh

    Most people who meet on Saturday night and start a 'relationship', don't refer to themselves as partners for a while, and they don't normally already have the foundation of three children together either.

    She believes they are 'a couple', he is her 'partner', so they are a couple, and he is her partner (well, unless he disputes that!) Being a couple, or a family, doesn't just mean that they live under the same roof, as said, there are many factors.
  • Deepmistrust
    Deepmistrust Posts: 1,205 Forumite
    AnxiousMum wrote: »
    DMT - it's like trying pee standing upside down having a conversation with you! geesh

    Most people who meet on Saturday night and start a 'relationship', don't refer to themselves as partners for a while, and they don't normally already have the foundation of three children together either.

    She believes they are 'a couple', he is her 'partner', so they are a couple, and he is her partner (well, unless he disputes that!) Being a couple, or a family, doesn't just mean that they live under the same roof, as said, there are many factors.

    I'd rather not know your toilet habits.

    Does it really hurt when people will not bow down and listen to your judgemental baseless opinions without agreeing with them?

    Ah well.
    All over the place, from the popular culture to the propaganda system, there is constant pressure to make people feel that they are helpless, that the only role they can have is to ratify decisions and to consume.
  • POPPYOSCAR
    POPPYOSCAR Posts: 14,902 Forumite
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    Morgan_Ree wrote: »
    :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

    Credit for not further ripping off those who support them?
    Credit for doing the 'right' thing?

    How strange



    Completely agree. But I like to think that 'grace period' of claiming to be single when you're actually a couple is pretty short when it involves the father of your 3 children whom you've previously been in a realtionship with.

    Aren't you also assuming the OP has only just got back with her partner rather than however many weeks/months/years it could have been?




    Well you paint such a bad picture of them I was only pointing out what some would do.
  • Deepmistrust
    Deepmistrust Posts: 1,205 Forumite
    AnxiousMum wrote: »
    DMT - it's like trying pee standing upside down having a conversation with you! geesh

    Most people who meet on Saturday night and start a 'relationship', don't refer to themselves as partners for a while, and they don't normally already have the foundation of three children together either.

    She believes they are 'a couple', he is her 'partner', so they are a couple, and he is her partner (well, unless he disputes that!) Being a couple, or a family, doesn't just mean that they live under the same roof, as said, there are many factors.

    AT SOME POINT in recent times, they have come to the realisation they are to all intents and purposes A COUPLE. Hence her reason for joining this board, and asking the questions she did.

    What do you expect her to do? Go back in her delorean, forsee the date this would be and inform the agencies in advance?
    All over the place, from the popular culture to the propaganda system, there is constant pressure to make people feel that they are helpless, that the only role they can have is to ratify decisions and to consume.
  • Breast_Cancer_Survivor
    Breast_Cancer_Survivor Posts: 10,838 Forumite
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    edited 24 June 2010 at 11:30PM
    sunnyone wrote: »
    unlike you I cant use 3 of my limbs and thats why i cant work at present, whats your excuse?

    And I want to work unlike you, you even want your kids to live off benefits for life even though they are only kids!


    Ive said that I want to work & you didn't believe me so why should I believe you?

    My kids are disabled, my eldest son goes to a special school for boys with autism, whats your daughters excuse for being on benefits?

    Oh yeah, she couldn't keep her legs shut & ended up a single mother supposedly or maybe her & her partner are just pretending to not being a couple just so she can falsely claim Income Support.

    :rotfl:

    People on here know i'm telling the truth as they have seen the evidence & i'm not going to let you bully me like you do other people on here.

    I was going to leave as you upset me so much (thats how bad my mental health is at the moment) but as everyone said why should I?

    Your a bitter, twisted old hag & i'm 100 times better than you & you know it thats why your so awful to me.

    Jealousy is a terrible thing.
    I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I haven't done.
    Lucille Ball
  • Morgan_Ree
    Morgan_Ree Posts: 787 Forumite
    AT SOME POINT in recent times, they have come to the realisation they are to all intents and purposes A COUPLE. Hence her reason for joining this board, and asking the questions she did.

    What do you expect her to do? Go back in her delorean, forsee the date this would be and inform the agencies in advance?

    Weren't you spouting off about assumptions earlier on?


    Oh yeah, she couldn't keep her legs shut & ended up a single mother supposedly .

    :eek:
    Future Mrs Gerard Butler :D

    [STRIKE]
    Team Wagner
    [/STRIKE] I meant Team Matt......obviously :cool:
  • Deepmistrust
    Deepmistrust Posts: 1,205 Forumite
    Morgan_Ree wrote: »
    Weren't you spouting off about assumptions earlier on?




    :eek:


    The only assumption in that post, is that she posseses a Delorean.
    All over the place, from the popular culture to the propaganda system, there is constant pressure to make people feel that they are helpless, that the only role they can have is to ratify decisions and to consume.
  • POPPYOSCAR
    POPPYOSCAR Posts: 14,902 Forumite
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    I would like to know why this cannot be debated without people resorting to insults just because others do not agree with them.
  • POPPYOSCAR
    POPPYOSCAR Posts: 14,902 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Name Dropper
    Ive said that I want to work & you didn't believe me so why should I believe you?

    My kids are disabled, my eldest son goes to a special school for boys with autism, whats your daughters excuse for being on benefits?

    Oh yeah, she couldn't keep her legs shut & ended up a single mother supposedly or maybe her & her partner are just pretending to not being a couple just so she can falsely claim Income Support.

    :rotfl:

    People on here know i'm telling the truth as they have seen the evidence & i'm not going to let you bully me like you do other people on here.

    I was going to leave as you upset me so much (thats how bad my mental health is at the moment) but as everyone said why should I?

    Your a bitter, twisted old hag & i'm 100 times better than you & you know it thats why your so awful to me.

    Jealousy is a terrible thing.



    I would not have put it quite like that but I am glad to see you are feeling stronger today.
  • POPPYOSCAR
    POPPYOSCAR Posts: 14,902 Forumite
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    Its no good ,I have to go sadly as I find this thread interesting but I am tired and have to work tomorrow.

    Goodnight everyone, nice talking to you all.
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