Advice needed please

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I would not have put it quite like that but I am glad to see you are feeling stronger today.

I'm sorry if ive offended anyone but ive decided im gonna give as good as I get.

I was so upset the other day my oh came back from Tesco's & found me in tears.

Im a survivor not a victim.

Morgan_Ree

Deepmistrust wrote: »

The only assumption in that post, is that she posseses a Delorean.

I'll take that as a yes then

Don't be a hypocrite DMT

Deepmistrust

Morgan_Ree wrote: »

I'll take that as a yes then

Don't be a hypocrite DMT

OH yes, sorry, silly me making the obviously serious assumption that she possesses a time machine. Spank me.

Oldernotwiser

Deepmistrust wrote: »

I think it's along the lines of how they present themselves, and share finances, and if he supports HER (not just the kids).

That's rather a circular argument. If this were the case, then it would be fine for someone to claim lone parent benefits, despite having a partner, on the grounds that he wasn't supporting her as the state is!

trinity29

I didnt realie i had to give my life story before asking a simple question, i am not going to tell you why we are at this situation, i have spoken to all the benefits departments and told them thta as soon as is tenancy runs out we will be moving in together and they said i had to get back to them when this happens!!!!!!!

I simply asked how long would it take as i dont want to struggle as far as my children are concerned, not me! If i had to go without money for 3 months id manage somehow, but my children are different.

I think many of you are quite happy to sit and throw accusations when you dont know full facts, i dont think i have to explain why we have never lived togetether previously as that has nothing to do with the question at hand.

Oh and another thing the only thing i claimed before was child benefit, as he supported me and the children on his salary, and i lived with parents!

Anymore insults?

Loopy_Girl

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

People on here know i'm telling the truth as they have seen the evidence

And that was the most distasteful thread I have ever seen on here (and that is saying something for this forum). I find it odd that you claim not to want attention and yet in what appeared to be a blatant attention seeking exercise, found it appropriate to post what you did.

I honestly had sympathy for your situation until I saw that *shakes head*

If you are in a 'fragile mental state' then don't log on here - every single person gets judged one way or another and if you can't deal with it then it seems odd that you would continue to distress yourself in this way.

Personally I don't think sunnyone 'bullies' you. I think she is just quite clear on facts and points out if is any 'confusion' on things you post (and I have to agree that you do seem to contradict yourself quite alot) but if you feel that strongly then put her on ignore - it's pretty easy to ignore comments from folks on here if you want to.

Loopy_Girl

trinity29 wrote: »

I didnt realie i had to give my life story before asking a simple question, i am not going to tell you why we are at this situation, i have spoken to all the benefits departments and told them thta as soon as is tenancy runs out we will be moving in together and they said i had to get back to them when this happens!!!!!!!

I simply asked how long would it take as i dont want to struggle as far as my children are concerned, not me! If i had to go without money for 3 months id manage somehow, but my children are different.

I think many of you are quite happy to sit and throw accusations when you dont know full facts, i dont think i have to explain why we have never lived togetether previously as that has nothing to do with the question at hand.

Oh and another thing the only thing i claimed before was child benefit, as he supported me and the children on his salary, and i lived with parents!

Anymore insults?

No one can really tell how long you will have to wait. I don't know how long until you are moving in but could you maybe put a tenner away a week until then? Means you will have a wee bit put aside should they take ages to sort it out.

Only thing I can think of I'm afraid

woody01

Me on the other hand i dont believe a woman should have a child then throw it into childcare as soon as it is born!!!

But on the other hand you believe i should pay £1200+ month Income Tax and support you instead.

Judging by the predicament you are in, it would not be unreasonable for you to drag yourself off the sofa for a few hours a week and actually EARN some money rather than ponce it off me.

I think the clue is in the title ppl - advice needed??? just because how they live their lives is not the same as you does not make them any less a family so who give you the right to judge!

Excuse me?
I have every right to judge when it's my money (and people like me) that are bloody well keeping them.

trinity29 wrote: »

:rotfl:did i get the reply i wanted????????

NO!!! but i will happily remove myself from here as if i wanted to give out full details of my relationship i have somewhere else to find things out.

i thought this site was about advice on benefits not relationship advice, maybe i was mistaken, oh well carry on working so me and my partner can carry on screwing the system ladies

:wave:

We will....whilst you fester in your scummy little council house with your workshy tribe.
BTW....i am a bloke that is tired of carrying scroungers like you.

tinkerbell28

woody01 wrote: »

But on the other hand you believe i should pay £1200+ month Income Tax and support you instead.

Judging by the predicament you are in, it would not be unreasonable for you to drag yourself off the sofa for a few hours a week and actually EARN some money rather than ponce it off me.

Excuse me?
I have every right to judge when it's my money (and people like me) that are bloody well keeping them.


We will....whilst you fester in your scummy little council house with your workshy tribe.
BTW....i am a bloke that is tired of carrying scroungers like you.

Couldn't agree more, you had a child go out and work to support it you have no excuse now built in babysitter. Turn JK off and go to work, or better still like a lot of couples one works days another works nights, this is why I wholly agree LHA/JSA should be cut after 12 months, good job Tories focus peoples minds:beer:

POPPYOSCAR

tinkerbell28 wrote: »

Couldn't agree more, you had a child go out and work to support it you have no excuse now built in babysitter. Turn JK off and go to work, or better still like a lot of couples one works days another works nights, this is why I wholly agree LHA/JSA should be cut after 12 months, good job Tories focus peoples minds:beer:

How do you know she wont get a job when he moves in, as I read it the benefits are to tied them over.I am a tax payer as well she can use my tax money for her benefits until they are sorted out, OH gets better, she gets a job etc etc etc.