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  • Oldernotwiser
    Oldernotwiser Posts: 37,425 Forumite
    shellsuit wrote: »

    I asked if you would be OK if your husband threatened to take one of your children away from you.

    Or threatened to take one of his children away?
  • Oldernotwiser
    Oldernotwiser Posts: 37,425 Forumite
    Fang wrote: »
    Not if that partner is controlling, abusive and has put your child in danger.

    Abusive and violent, of course. Controlling is a matter of opinion.
  • Fang_3
    Fang_3 Posts: 7,602 Forumite
    Oldernotwiser wrote: »
    Abusive and violent, of course. Controlling is a matter of opinion.

    Is it? I find it strange that anyone would see controlling your partner as anything other than abusive.
  • shellsuit
    shellsuit Posts: 24,749 Forumite
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    Oldernotwiser wrote: »
    Or threatened to take one of his children away?

    Yes, it's his child too, of course it is, I never said she wasn't!
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  • mikey72
    mikey72 Posts: 14,680 Forumite
    Fang wrote: »
    Not if that partner is controlling, abusive and has put your child in danger.

    I'm impressed.
    I thought you would have accused him of violence much earlier in the thread.
  • mikey72
    mikey72 Posts: 14,680 Forumite
    Fang wrote: »
    The step father hasn't said that at all. He has said that if the son returns home then he will take the daughter and leave. Once again you're sugarcoating the truth to make your position seem reasonable.

    Are you his neighbour or something?

    I'm just going on what was posted.
  • LilacLouisa
    LilacLouisa Posts: 477 Forumite
    Oldernotwiser wrote: »
    The best thing you can do for your children is to have a secure relationship with your partner.
    What, even if he is a bully and a control freak, or even physically and mentally abusive? I am sure children absolutely love that and thrive in such an atmosphere!
  • LilacLouisa
    LilacLouisa Posts: 477 Forumite
    Oldernotwiser wrote: »
    Or threatened to take one of his children away?

    I have just noticed your signature, not really apt for this thread is it? nor even for your grandparents home apparently.
  • LilacLouisa
    LilacLouisa Posts: 477 Forumite
    I have been thinking about this situation, how could the stepfather prevent the (maternal) grandparents from taking him in? If this thread is genuine, has the stepfather threatened sanctions of some kind?
  • Fang_3
    Fang_3 Posts: 7,602 Forumite
    mikey72 wrote: »
    I'm impressed.
    I thought you would have accused him of violence much earlier in the thread.

    Not all abuse is violent. Despite what you probably tell yourself.
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