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can my partners ex stop me being alone with their kids?
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Why does he want to go to the pub when YOU and his CHILDREN are there, can't he go another time?
If he is doing this now, then this pattern will be set, and if you two do get serious, you will be used as a sitter.
The children's visits are a time to be with them, your visits are a time to be with you, no way in hades would I want a boyfriend to go out after his kids were in bed, I would want him to be with me.Blackpool_Saver is female, and does not live in Blackpool0 -
How did the mum know that the dad went to the pub?
I don't think it's fair on you to be shut out like that.
What can she do about it anyway? If she goes to court then I think they would laugh in her face..9/70lbs to lose
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post deletedMFW 2011 challenge - Aim: Overpay £414.26 a month/£5,000 a year. Overpayment Total to date: £414.26:jMortgage start 28/9/07 £46,217.00 :TMortgage balance as of 25/05/11 £24,490.58 :T
Interest saved as of 25/05/11: £2,849.84 Projected term reduction as of 25/05/11: 9 years 11 months0 -
post deletedMFW 2011 challenge - Aim: Overpay £414.26 a month/£5,000 a year. Overpayment Total to date: £414.26:jMortgage start 28/9/07 £46,217.00 :TMortgage balance as of 25/05/11 £24,490.58 :T
Interest saved as of 25/05/11: £2,849.84 Projected term reduction as of 25/05/11: 9 years 11 months0 -
BARGAINHUNTER! wrote: »It was on two occasions for good friends birthdays. We had all been together for the day and I didn't mind in the slightest that he went out for two hours each time. We have been together a long time - we are past the stage of needing to be in each others pockets all the time. Hopefully in the future we will live together (we probably spend at least half the week at each others houses overnight anyway). And I didn't feel like I was being used as a sitter at all - I quite enjoyed the time curled up on the sofa reading my book and watching what I wanted to watch on TV! lol
Ok, fair enough, maybe I was projecting a bit, it just reminded me of a situation I was in.
Re the ex and controlling, to answer your question about whether she can call the shots, the answer depends upon whether your BF is prepared to stand up to her and possibly effect the staus quo, you need to work on him being firmer with her or you two will argue about this and she will have 'won' anyway.Blackpool_Saver is female, and does not live in Blackpool0 -
I used to be in a similar situation, but shortly after I started seeing the dad he got full custody. Mum went to court to say I couldn't pick him up form childcare (she said I was a prostitute and on coke-I wasn't either). We agreed to me not pickeng him up-bascially to make her happy, then one day her car broke down and she called me and asked me to pick him up, nursery refused to let me-and she ended up with a huge late fee. After that she got that bit changed and things got much easier between us. Then when I left the USA she taught us back to court to make sure I wasn't kidnapping him and bringing him back!
Its really hard being the other partner, she ruined tops I brought him by leaving the iron on, broke toys, would say anything against me. A lot of years later I still talk to her but not to him...it would of been so much easier if we could of got on then.0 -
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Interest saved as of 25/05/11: £2,849.84 Projected term reduction as of 25/05/11: 9 years 11 months0 -
The kids are in their Dad's care, and while they are, he can make decisions about who does and doesn't spend time with them, and when and where, providing he's not putting them at risk. I think she's kicking off to regain some control, and would get laughed out of court.******** Never be a spectator of unfairness or stupidity *******"Always be calm and polite, and have the materials to make a bomb"0
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BARGAINHUNTER! wrote: »My partner is prepared to stand up to her and do things through a solicitor if need be, we just needed to know if legally she could stop me spending time with the kids alone. This would have implications if she did, as we are planning on living together properly one day. We are not interested in winning or point scoring, we just want to get on with our lives as we have moved on, whilst she obviously has not!
In that case you should be ok, just make sure you get a solicitor who is prepared to be as firm as he is.Blackpool_Saver is female, and does not live in Blackpool0
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