Why don't new neighbours introduce themselves anymore ???

QTPie

Emmzi wrote: »

We're not best buds but we know each ther well enough to help in a crisis.

This is what I think: good to be on first name terms, to exchange pleasantaries and to help each other out (be neighbourly) in a crisis...

You don't need to be best budies, but the world is a LOT better place if you get on with people...

Assuming our new house purchase goes through, we will be moving in September. I will go around to the other (4 or 5) houses that we will share a drive (private road) with. We have a new baby (currently 4 months old and our first): both a good ice breaker and very useful to know the people around in case of an emergency...

QT

tabskitten

delmar39 wrote: »

We've just moved into a new house I saw our neighbour over the garden wall (neighbours on one side only) and went to introduce myself and he looked the otherway! Since then we've had brief chats, but so far haven't got round to formally introducing ourselves as to be honest they don't seem that interested - want to keep themselves to themselves. Our old neighbours were totally different and friendly. Our neighbours seem ok, but if they want to be left alone then that's ok with me.

Thats so awful!!
must have made you feel really uncomfortable!!

sonastin

I ended up chatting with the neighbours of the house I want to buy when I went round for another viewing after I had put an offer in (OH wanted to check what work he needs to do to the place!). 10 minutes after we left, my buyer pulled out so I can't proceed and its gone back on the market. I just hope they don't take it personally! :rotfl:

crusty_toenail

I've lived in 3 houses and have always had really great neighbours - a close neigbour is better than a far away friend (providing they are not psychos).

Yes you do get the odd weirdo one but in general people are friendly and do make the effort to help etc.

I'm moving again and my neighbours look quite elderly and lovely so I'm going to introduce myself and offer to help them shopping etc..... life is about giving and helping people!

I'm only 32 but I've learnt that private people is another way of saying selfish people - you will get nothing out of life with that mindset.

When you are old and lonely living on your own you would appreciate a neighbour popping in etc.

I think people need to 'get over themselves', go to the third world and see the poverty etc for a reality check

glossgal

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I'm only 32 but I've learnt that private people is another way of saying selfish people - you will get nothing out of life with that mindset.

Maybe us 'selfish' folk should come with a bell round our necks to warn impending clingy types that we are not to be approached under any circumstances for fear of our dark powers?

I would personally like to see people who are unable to interact with others on a rational basis without getting the hump come with flashing lights so I can easily identify them as not having developed the emotional maturity to respect other people's preferences. Oh to live in an ideal world!...

Fang_3

crusty_toenail wrote: »

I'm only 32 but I've learnt that private people is another way of saying selfish people - you will get nothing out of life with that mindset.

What a wonderful way of patting yourself on the back and informing everyone that you are better than them. How selfless, kind and giving of you.

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PottyHouse_2

delmar39 wrote: »

We've just moved into a new house I saw our neighbour over the garden wall (neighbours on one side only) and went to introduce myself and he looked the otherway! Since then we've had brief chats, but so far haven't got round to formally introducing ourselves as to be honest they don't seem that interested - want to keep themselves to themselves. Our old neighbours were totally different and friendly. Our neighbours seem ok, but if they want to be left alone then that's ok with me.

Hi Delmar, Congratulations on finally completing and getting the home you were after !!!

Sorry to hear about new neighbours - perhaps they have a bee in their bonnet about the planning application your home was built on ?? I recall you saying yours was a "one off" ?????

PottyHouse_2

rl290 wrote: »

Pottyhouse, why have you not gone over and said hi? In an earlier post, someone was saying that all their neighbours came over and said hello when they moved in. Even if the poster wasn't inclined to do so before, they are bound to say hello to any new neighbours now. If you want people to say hello when they move around then lead by example - don't just grumble about it. Many people in my generation have never been taught to introduce themselves to their neighbours - not because we're a rude generation, but simply because it's not something we tend to do so much. We need good people like you to lead the way!

R

I think the issue with me is as its a rented property, its not always lived in, can be empty for a few weeks or months and the first we know that someone has moved in is when we hear the usual bangings and chaos of someone settling in !! Not a good way to start off introductions really .. and now the fact that we have a football being banged up the wall everyday after only 4 days of them being here is making me glad I wasn't so nice to go round and say "welcome" with a beaming smile !!!

BitterAndTwisted

If you had gone round and welcomed your new neighbours they might be a bit more receptive when you eventually need to ask their child to bang the football against their own wall.

missile

I wonder why OP has not introduced him/herself to the new neighbours? It would be neighbourly <LOL> to make them feel welcome.