Why don't new neighbours introduce themselves anymore ???

jockosjungle

I guess its a sort of shyness, not sure what it is really. I have only rented but have never introduced myself to the neighbours here but do smile and say hello if I see them. I lived in a flat before with a lot of elderly people and they did introduce themselves and invite us in. Maybe it is a generational thing, but maybe its because we were young and they were old and were scared we'd have loud music.

I'm buying a terrace soon hopefully, I'll introduce myself to my neighbours if they don't speak to me. I have a good excuse, introduce myself and explain that I'm not sure about wall thickness and if my TV is on too loud to let me know as I'm not trying to be antisocial and am just unaware.

If you have people nextdoor and you are renting it must be hell, because they could get any neighbour, its nice to reassure people that you're ok

R

Wkdwill

I haven't introduced myself in the past but when we moved to our new house this year I did, mainly because one of the neighbours had said that my next door neighbour had complained about the noise from my kids, so I thought I would go round introduce myself and appologise for any noise, it turned out she hadn't complained at all and that the woman who said she had, had gone round telling people that I was some man eating sl*g from scruffsville before we moved in, I wondered why I kept getting mucky looks from everyone (still do off some).

After introducing myself to next door we have become good friends, even getting my daughter into the same preschool as hers and getting me onto some courses she does too.

Im glad I did introduce myself now.

dannymccann

We live midterrace, all the houses are bought. On our left is a nice couple, very quiet, never really see them but perfect neighbours to be joined to for obvious reasons. We met at the front door one day, introduced ourselves and left it at that, cant actually remember their names (cant say im too fussed either...?).

On our right, we first met when we gave them the evils through the kitchen window for taking our parking space. She came round, introduced herself and said sorry about the parking, we will be done in 30 minutes. 4 hours later and having no one coming out to unload the car (they were moving in) we thought 'that's it, first impressions over, we dont like these people' and ever since we have parked as close to our border as we can to stop them nicking our parking space. Thank god they havent got kids

Shared driveways

geoffky

my next door neighbour has just cried when we told him we are moving..he is 82 and we look after his welfare and things like cut his grass and put his bins in and out....i will miss him..

lellow_lorry

Having moved 5 times in 9 years the first neighbours were very welcoming...card/wine invite for bbq...very nice and I still keep in touch with some of them...made some good friends. I can see both sides...its difficult to break the ice and most shy away from it. Most moving in..its stressful, hard work, and tiring. Before you know it 6 months have gone by getting the house sorted and maybe new job settled into, sorting kids out at new schools etc. Its not a case of ignorance with most but lifestyles can dictate part of the behaviour of not having the time, and the longer you leave it(on both parts) the more uncomfortable it gets. When new people moved in next door or local, we always made an effort to make them welcome with a bottle of wine without intruding and as an ice breaker. Always seemed to work. Yes its easier as someone already living in a street to do this than the newby coming round knocking to introduce themselves

Slinky

To those who would rather keep themselves to themselves, yesterday my neighbour cut my lawn as we're having problems with our mower.

Today I repaid the favour by giving them several buckets of water and allowing them access to my outside tap to help themselves to whatever more they may need as they have damaged a water pipe under a floorboard and have had to turn their water off until Monday.

Useful things, good neighbours.

geoffky

time for a bump..

hazyjo

Didn't even know when next door moved in! Knew old tenant had gone, she was nice enough and we'd helped each other out before (flat car batteries, her daughter jumped my fence as locked herself out and could get in back, took in post/parcels, etc)... but new couple moved in (renting still) and it was probably a couple of weeks before we realised! Saw occasional viewers come and go, but never knew someone was in.

Got an elderly neighbour the other side who we don't see much of, but do send a Christmas card and say hello. Also asked if she needed anything doing/getting when it snowed. Know the couple the other side of her - chatted in the pub after recognising them once, and bump into them in there now and again. Nice couple. Doubt we'll keep in touch, but nice for a chat with in t'pub or on the rare occasion I see her on the train.

Will probably knock next door when we move to introduce ourselves.

Jx

whysitallsocomplicated

We moved to our new house a couple of weeks ago. On the day we moved in there were 3 cards from some of our new neighbours already through the door.

By the end of the 1st week we had met everybody who lives in the close apart from one house as they were on holiday. They returned last Friday and came around on saturday to introduce themselves.

As soon as one neighbour noticed we had small children she came around with loads of info on local toddler groups and nurseries.

we had such great nieghbours where we were before we were sad to leave them but cant believe how good the new ones have been at coming forward

carefullycautious

My street is becoming more 'Twin Peaks' by the day. Talk about surreal goings on. :eek: