Why don't new neighbours introduce themselves anymore ???

PottyHouse_2

I don't consider myself old fashioned nor want to be best buddies with my neighbours but I find it quite unsettling when we gain a new neighbour in our road and they never introduce themselves.

I live in a Cul-de-Sac of just 5 houses and the one adjacent to my property is a rental. In the last 3 years these will be our 4th set of neighbours and not one of them have ever knocked on the door just to say "hello" - before anyone replies "well why don't you go and introduce yourself" I would say I don't want to be classed as a nosy neighbour and for them to think I'm prying (I obviously am!!).

I am due to move home myself in a few weeks and already know I want to go and say hello to my new neighbours - I want to know who I'm going to be living next to !! Like I said, keep it to that and not get too involved.

I wouldn't say I'm "rentalist" but is it because it is a rental property ????

PasturesNew

I've never known a neighbour to introduce themselves, nor have I ever introduced myself. I wouldn't know what to say. I'd be too scared. After "hello, I just moved into ..." there's no more to be said is there? And they know ... they'd have all been watching.

azkaban420

I would/have introduced myself when I've moved to a new place. As and when I sell up and buy another house, I intend to use the house-warming party as an excuse to go over to the neighbours with party food and say 'Hi, I've just moved in, we're having a party, hopefully won't be too noisy, here's some grub'!!!

I will let you know if it's a success or if the plan falls flat on its face!!

Az

JQ.

We moved into a cul-de-sac 5 years ago. Every single neighbour popped round with a card and some with presents, bottles of wine and flowers seemed to be popular. I do think the responsibility is with the existing occupiers to wellcome the new inhabitants, not the other way round.

samhuzz

JQ. wrote: »

We moved into a cul-de-sac 5 years ago. Every single neighbour popped round with a card and some with presents, bottles of wine and flowers seemed to be popular. I do think the responsibility is with the existing occupiers to wellcome the new inhabitants, not the other way round.

That's true, one of our neighbours came round and said hello when we moved recently and then the other side stopped me when I was walking past and asked if we'd moved in alright and liked it here, which was nice.

SailorSam

I never bother much with neighbours, i say hello if they pass when i'm outside but that's about all.
One couple who moved in next door just before Christmas i posted a card through so they'd see my name and i thought i'll find out theirs when they post a card back. After pushing cards through for three years with nothing back i gave up, moved a few years later and still didn't know their name.

Gwhiz

PottyHouse wrote: »

I don't consider myself old fashioned nor want to be best buddies with my neighbours but I find it quite unsettling when we gain a new neighbour in our road and they never introduce themselves.

I live in a Cul-de-Sac of just 5 houses and the one adjacent to my property is a rental. In the last 3 years these will be our 4th set of neighbours and not one of them have ever knocked on the door just to say "hello" - before anyone replies "well why don't you go and introduce yourself" I would say I don't want to be classed as a nosy neighbour and for them to think I'm prying (I obviously am!!).

I am due to move home myself in a few weeks and already know I want to go and say hello to my new neighbours - I want to know who I'm going to be living next to !! Like I said, keep it to that and not get too involved.

I wouldn't say I'm "rentalist" but is it because it is a rental property ????

It's because you are a hypocrite! You expect them to say hello when they are new (and maybe do not want to seem over friendly) but you won't go and make them feel welcome???? MENTAL!!!

If you are the one who is obviously thinking about this stuff then you are the one who should do something!

Gwhiz

JQ. wrote: »

We moved into a cul-de-sac 5 years ago. Every single neighbour popped round with a card and some with presents, bottles of wine and flowers seemed to be popular. I do think the responsibility is with the existing occupiers to wellcome the new inhabitants, not the other way round.

Absolutely spot on. I always welcome people when they move in and have always found it very friendly when people do it when I move to a new place.

puddy

i agree with PN, im too shy (but not ASD) so wouldnt know what to say. when we moved here, one of the neighbours gave us a card, saying welcome to your new home, so that gave me a chance to go and thank her and therefore introduce myself, but i didnt to the other side because i wouldnt know how to say, 'we've just moved in next door.... erm,,,ok, so see you then' without feeling very awkward

different people have different skills

wessexw

I've lived in rental property all my adult life and have never spoken to the neighbours nevermind introduced myself, however I'm in the process of buying my first property at the moment and fully intend to introduce myself to those neighbours. I guess the difference is that with the rental places I never felt that they were my 'home' they were just where I lived, and I always knew that I'd be moving on at some point so I didn't see the point. I also figured that the neighbours wouldnt really care to get to know a renter as say in a house of 5 houseshare, one renter on average will leave per year so it's hard to keep up.

With owning my own place though I feel that it's my real home that I take pride in, I want to know who the neighbours are and I'll have more of a sense of community about a place I own, as I've invested a lot of money in it so I want to invest some community spirit too.

Richard_Webster

I think the people in the road should come and welcome their new neighbours.

When we had new neighbours move in next door a few years ago we introduced ourselves as they were moving in and I think my wife leant them her Nokia phone charger as they couldn't find theirs!

We have a right of access to their sideway to get to maintain our eaves which overhang. This is bit difficult as there is no sideway any more but a two storey extension 4 inches away from our house there! We have to get up on their gutter (more substantial than standard plastic - part of the structure of their house) from our flat roofed our back extension to reach our eaves. My son got up there recently and cleaned out our gutters and did theirs at the same time!

When we moved in 29 years ago our seller invited us round to have cups of tea and meet the neighbours before we completed and as they had already moved out by the time of completion they let us move a lot of our stuff in before completion and lay carpets. The next door neighbour but one installed a couple of lengths of galvanised piping in the ground and strung a line between them which still serves as our washing line and when we go away he still comes in and waters our tomatoes.

We reckon we are pretty fortunate with our neighbours as they have always been good.