Why don't new neighbours introduce themselves anymore ???

Welsh_Totster

When we moved house recently I introduced myself to one next door neighbour as he had parked accross the entrance to our drive. I said "hello I'm your new neighbour, just bought next door, is that your car? If so would you mind scooting it up a bit so I can get my car on the drive?" he was charming, intoduced me to his wife and moved his car over. We get on great and chat regularly. Next door that we are attached to popped out and intoduced herself at the same time which was nice. We also had a neighbour opposite pop over and say hello too. I think it works both ways

not_loaded

How odd that anyone should think it’s odd to know your neighbours.

We’ve been here a long time and most of our neighbours have changed every few years.

I’ve always done the welcome thing with wine and choccies or something nice. Unfortunately whether they’re next door or across the road, they’ve rarely been at all friendly and never reciprocated with anything, not even an invite just for a cuppa. Some won’t even acknowledge you in passing.

It’s a shame that the community spirit I remember from when I was a child just isn’t there any more. Nobody seems to have the time or the inclination.

I don’t think it’s a question of going out of your way much.

elfen

I'm a quite private quiet person, so I sort of leave it until we see each other. Me and one of the downstairs neighbours has a natter now and then.

Hopejack

Hello Pottyhouse!!

Glad to see you are moving in a few weeks Good news! Don't get on the 'selling' thread much these days but I sold back in early May and we are exchanging on our 'house renovation' project tomorrow hopefully! Yikes!

I hate to say this but I think younger people tend not to introduce themselves as much these days - sorry if someone else has said that on here - I haven't read all the replies. It's definately an 'older/mid' generation thing. When we moved into our last house, our neighbour just posted a card to us saying 'welcome to the neighbourhood' and if we needed anything to give them a knock - not too obtrusive but nice to introduce themselves - we really appreciated it.... There is nothing worse than you moving in (mid move!) and some neighbour knocking at your door wanting to have a look in your knicker drawer - well, not literally but it can feel a bit like that After a few days, no issue at all.

Good luck with your move

Eton_Rifle

We've always got to know the neighbours almost immediately so I'm surprised.

Some people do prefer to present only a carefully constructed and edited 'public' face, not wanting other people to see them 'warts and all'.
Perhaps you've been unlucky and hit a cluster of these types when you're just the opposite?

RobertoMoir

PottyHouse wrote: »

I don't consider myself old fashioned nor want to be best buddies with my neighbours but I find it quite unsettling when we gain a new neighbour in our road and they never introduce themselves.

I live in a Cul-de-Sac of just 5 houses and the one adjacent to my property is a rental. In the last 3 years these will be our 4th set of neighbours and not one of them have ever knocked on the door just to say "hello" - before anyone replies "well why don't you go and introduce yourself" I would say I don't want to be classed as a nosy neighbour and for them to think I'm prying (I obviously am!!).

I am due to move home myself in a few weeks and already know I want to go and say hello to my new neighbours - I want to know who I'm going to be living next to !! Like I said, keep it to that and not get too involved.

I wouldn't say I'm "rentalist" but is it because it is a rental property ????

I'd say that it's for the people already there to welcome the new people, not the other way around, but that's my opinion.

In any case, with all due respect, if you're unwilling to make the effort to be welcoming yourself then it's a little hypocritical to complain about them behaving in a similar way. Perhaps they "don't want to intrude", which is just your excuse for not visiting them held up to a mirror, is it not?

Lavendyr

I agree with those who have said that it's for the existing neighbours to welcome new neighbours, not for new neighbours to introduce themselves. If you're moving into an established neighbourhood, it is much more comforting to be approached first rather than the other way around.

hellokitty08

Im 27 and i always welcome new neigbours to my block of flats. I am partly nosey, but its much nicer to get on with your neigbours, I had one that was a real nightmare so after that I have always made the effort to introduce myself to everyone and they have all been really friendly so far. I live in a rental block where all my neigbours rent so I get a lot of new neighbours, is also nice as if you need some one you know you can ask you neigbour if you need to. Well i would! hehehe

hwalkerh

We found it easy to introduce ourselves to our next door neighbour as it is my partners nan :-)

We did though introduce ourselves to other neighbours, I don't think it is too much when unpacking and people walk past to say hello. I always say hello to a neighbour when we pass. Even some who have never said it back, even though we helped them get a stray bird out there house doesn't say hello but that doesn't stop me saying it.

We know loads of our neighbours now, we have people lend us tools, we have given our old lawn mower away and all sorts now. i think good neighbours make for a friendly community, i couldn't imagine never speaking to the neighbours, i'm not sure that would be a place i would want to live

custardy

when we moved in here,we got our car stolen the first night
is that a welcoming tradition?