Why don't new neighbours introduce themselves anymore ???

PottyHouse_2

JQ. wrote: »

We moved into a cul-de-sac 5 years ago. Every single neighbour popped round with a card and some with presents, bottles of wine and flowers seemed to be popular. I do think the responsibility is with the existing occupiers to wellcome the new inhabitants, not the other way round.

Thanks, I'm looking forward to be showered with gifts then !!!!
Sounds like you have lovely neighbours - very lucky !!

PottyHouse_2

Gwhiz wrote: »

Absolutely spot on. I always welcome people when they move in and have always found it very friendly when people do it when I move to a new place.

So you're not a hypocrite then - its up to the people to welcome you into the area but you would'nt think of knocking on their door?
Answer is there's no wrong or right way ..... thats why some people can't be bothered and the whole point of my thread !!!!!!!!!

motherofstudents

I just assumed that everybody welcomes a new neighbour or introduces themselves. I think it is shocking that some people don't even want to know their neighbours. When we moved here we did go round to next door to say hello and just to apologise in advance for any noise as we were doing a lot of work on the house before moving in. Now that neighbour gives us plants for the garden and always has a chat if we are out at the same time. Next door the other way takes in parcels for us and helps with the garden (he is a gardener and lends us tools etc). We're not in each others' houses but everyone is friendly. I wouldn't want to live in a place where you just go home and shut the door and ignore the people around you. Life's too short to be like that.

delmar39

We've just moved into a new house I saw our neighbour over the garden wall (neighbours on one side only) and went to introduce myself and he looked the otherway! Since then we've had brief chats, but so far haven't got round to formally introducing ourselves as to be honest they don't seem that interested - want to keep themselves to themselves. Our old neighbours were totally different and friendly. Our neighbours seem ok, but if they want to be left alone then that's ok with me.

ally67_2

we moved in to our house in january this year ......and weve still not spoken to either of our neighbours.....i only ever speak to a older lady over the road ......and a lady who,s garden backs on to mine who lives round the corner .....we even give each other garden plants

rl290

PottyHouse wrote: »

So you're not a hypocrite then - its up to the people to welcome you into the area but you would'nt think of knocking on their door?
Answer is there's no wrong or right way ..... thats why some people can't be bothered and the whole point of my thread !!!!!!!!!

It works both ways. When I move into an area, I make an effort to say hi to the neighbours, and the nicest neighbours usually make an effort to say hi to me. When they do, it makes me feel very welcome. When someone else moves in, I go over and say hi - it makes them feel welcome - and sometimes they pre-empt me, in which case I'm grateful that I have new neighbours who feel that they want to know people in their community.

Often we will never speak again (I'm a "young professional" and my neighbours are often middle aged) but that's not the point. It's a point of courtesy for me to welcome people into the community, even if they feel no need to reciprocate.

Pottyhouse, why have you not gone over and said hi? In an earlier post, someone was saying that all their neighbours came over and said hello when they moved in. Even if the poster wasn't inclined to do so before, they are bound to say hello to any new neighbours now. If you want people to say hello when they move around then lead by example - don't just grumble about it. Many people in my generation have never been taught to introduce themselves to their neighbours - not because we're a rude generation, but simply because it's not something we tend to do so much. We need good people like you to lead the way!

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loulou41

I went to introduce my myself to the neighbours when I moved in, just on one side, it is a short street about 6 houses. On my left is a young couple with a baby who is renting, lovely neighbours. I was a bit apprehensvive living next to renters but they are lovely and look after the place and garden. I have been invited for drinks and meal from both my neighbours. We have exchanged Xmas cards,

snoop2008

When I first moved into my property nearly 22 years ago, my neighbours were fantastic!!! They were pensioners, me young , lively and loud!!!

my daughter became like their grandchild and they loved her dearly. Sadly they have both passed away now, but have a great Greek man next door and he is just as lovely!!! There are some neighbours who do live a very private life but the majority around here are great. We don't live in and out of each others houses, but we do get along and spend many summer evenings, entertaining on door stops and front gardens.

Gwhiz

PottyHouse wrote: »

So you're not a hypocrite then - its up to the people to welcome you into the area but you would'nt think of knocking on their door?
Answer is there's no wrong or right way ..... thats why some people can't be bothered and the whole point of my thread !!!!!!!!!

Just read the posts correctly and stop being so sensitive!!

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