Why don't new neighbours introduce themselves anymore ???

tyllwyd

We rented a house recently (long story), and when we went round to see the house the neighbour popped out of her front door and said 'Hi I'm Belinda by the way don't park over there because that's where my husband parks and don't let your kids climb over that fence" (neither of which we had done). And that's pretty much all she said to us in six months. The other neighbour knocked on my car window when I'd parked (perfectly legally) on the road and asked me not to park near her drive because she had a gate across the driveway that opened out onto the road and she wanted to be able to pull it back across the pavement and tie it back onto the fence. We didn't feel very welcome.

glossgal

I'm surprised that people think you should go out of your way to mingle with the neighbours!? I consider myself to be a nice, polite person but I have no desire to ge to know any of them and fiercly guard my privacy. Problems I've had with particularly awful new neighbours (who seemed outraged that they weren't smothered with kisses on arrival-talk about ego!) has only confounded my original view and will probably make me more guarded when I move on

At the end of the day IMO your neighbours are just people you happen to share a postcode with. Its' like the workplace-just because I share an office with people it doesn't mean I have to be friends with them (unless they are very lucky lol)

vet8

glossgal wrote: »

I'm surprised that people think you should go out of your way to mingle with the neighbours!?

At the end of the day IMO your neighbours are just people you happen to share a postcode with. Its' like the workplace-just because I share an office with people it doesn't mean I have to be friends with them (unless they are very lucky lol)

I agree 100 per cent. We have absolutely nothing at all in common with any of our neighbours on our road. We are sociable and go to the village pub, my OH used to play in the village cricket team when he was younger, and we always go to village events, so we know loads of people in the village, but our neighbours, not one of them does any of the above community things and we never see them.

They all strike me as being:
1. rich
2. odd

We have now fallen out with them, I think, over our plans for development and I could not give a monkeys. I passed our immediate neighbour as she was driving down the lane and she drove past without a smile or anything, just her nose in the air - stuck up cow!

TBeckett100

why not get all the neighbours over and throw the keys in a bowl?

Emmzi

I met my neighbours after a) smoke alarms went mad and woke them at 3am and b) same with the burglar alarm! Luckily they were round with the number of the 24hr call out sparky :-D

I also asked them to my housewarming and they came.

We're not best buds but we know each ther well enough to help in a crisis.

jonewer

Neighbours. Everybody needs good neighbours.

Nixer

To me it seems a bit weird the new person introducing themself - I mean I would if I wanted to ask the neighbour something, or to invite them to a housewarming. But to just "announce" yourself seems odd.

A mate and I moved into a student flat on a roughish estate , he went to introduce himself to the chavs downstairs and they just said "Yeah, so what" - maybe that's what's made it seem odd to me.

When my partner and I moved into our latest rental house a couple of neighbours saw us moving in and one offered us eggs and the other told us off for where we had parked the removal van but then offered to help with moving the heavy stuff and stopped at our old house on his way home the next day to see if we needed help. I'm glad they've been so nice - as I say it wouldn't have occurred to me to go round and introduce myself although I would say hello if I saw someone over a hedge or something.

tiff

I wish we were more like the Americans. They are generally welcoming and quite often will bring over something home made as a gift. We lived there for a while and were given a home made cake from a neighbour a few doors down, our retired next door neighbour offered our guests the use of his boat, and all near neighbours came over to introduce themselves.

We used to have a house in Turkey and our Turkish neighbours always used to offer us a plate of food, sometimes fresh fruit cut up or something they had made. The idea was to never return an empty plate, so it could go on for ever!

marlasinger

glossgal wrote: »

I consider myself to be a nice, polite person but I have no desire to ge to know any of them and fiercly guard my privacy.

Same here. We are both very private people, and just like to keep ourselves to ourselves. I'll nod and say hi to the neighbours when I pass them, but that is it. When we move (hopefully in a couple of months), I had no intention of introducing myself to the neighbours. I'm quite shy, but I think even if I weren't, it's not something I would do. I think over time you get to know them anyway, even if it's just to say hello in passing.

I would find it a bit invasive if a neighbour showed up and introduced themselves, and expected to have a sit down and a chat! Especially when you have just had the hassle of moving house, the last thing I would want to do was stand around and shoot the breeze when there is work to be done!

marlasinger

TBeckett100 wrote: »

why not get all the neighbours over and throw the keys in a bowl?

You wouldn't suggest that if you saw my neighbours. :rotfl: