Birth Partner - am I being unfair?

SueC_2

NAR wrote: »

I do understand the OP's point about nakedness don't get me wrong. There is no perfect solution that I can think of.

Tell him he can be there, but in true team spirit, he has to strip naked, be subjected to all extremes of agony, and have a teamful of strangers looking and poking into his deepest nooks and crannies. Oh, and perhaps just a few rips and tears to his most tender areas...?

:rotfl:

Person_one

I think your e-mail is great, and I can't see how she couldn't understand your point of view after that.

I don't have children, but I imagine you could feel very vulnerable and exposed and the thought of having someone who has hurt you as badly as your ex hurt you around at a time when you're in such a weakened position seems awful to me.

I hope your relationship with your MIL recovers.

GobbledyGook

SueC wrote: »

Tell him he can be there, but in true team spirit, he has to strip naked, be subjected to all extremes of agony, and have a teamful of strangers looking and poking into his deepest nooks and crannies. Oh, and perhaps just a few rips and tears to his most tender areas...?

:rotfl:

:rotfl: When I was in labour with our first daughter he was trying to be supportive and because I was panicking a wee bit he kept saying, "It's fine, be calm. Just breathe". So I told him if he said it again I was going to go to the fruit bowl and fetch an orange, then I was going to stick it, unlubricated, a certain place and see how he felt to be told to "Just breathe" so I'm not surprised he's not overly complaining about being in the room next door. :rotfl:

Bubby

incognito_n_co wrote: »

I would tell her you found it insulting when he couldn't keep his penis in his pants and he should have considered the consequences of his actions before being unfaithful!!
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:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I think you have remained very calm in what has been an awful situation and have actually been very accomodating. Your ex is lucky to be in the flat at all.
Take it easy on yourself and don't worry too much about the mil you don't need any stress at this point, unfortunately you now call the shots and they will have to get used to this!

Brighton_belle

I thought that a very beautiful email OP and I hope that, together with your ex's visit to her tomorrow, that this can be resolved in a way that makes you happy

Savvy_Sue

GobbledyGook wrote: »

:rotfl: When I was in labour with our first daughter he was trying to be supportive and because I was panicking a wee bit he kept saying, "It's fine, be calm. Just breathe". So I told him if he said it again I was going to go to the fruit bowl and fetch an orange, then I was going to stick it, unlubricated, a certain place and see how he felt to be told to "Just breathe" so I'm not surprised he's not overly complaining about being in the room next door. :rotfl:

:rotfl: did you not have any grapefruit or melons in the house? :rotfl:

Mupette

This is YOUR labour and your choice on whom you want there.

Your ex is going to be there but with the children, that's not being cruel, that's being practical, someone there to be there for the childern.

tiamai_d

No, you need someone with you who will support you emotionally and who you trust completely. Not your ex is it?

Be firm but polite with your MIL (which you have been doing), I'm sure she will come round eventually.

tabskitten

He forfitted his rights as a father when he cheated IMO

mrcow

tabskitten wrote: »

He forfitted his rights as a father when he cheated IMO

No - he'll always be a father.