Opinions..

wiltedwillow

Hi

would you be annoyed if your husband didn't even bother to get you a birthday card and when you mentioned it you were told 'i did say happy birthday'

I do not feel this is acceptable, I have spent the day doing house hold chores, its just another day to him and now he's making out I'm the one who is asking for too much!

thanks

Wilted

Plans_all_plans

I would also be cross. Fair enough he said happy birthday to you, so he didn't forget, but I think maybe you should just say to him that you would have appreciated a card and a little present/or for him to do some of the chores instead.

I wouldn't be turning this into a all out row if I were you though, just tell him you feel hurt over it.

brians_daughter

urm, he sounds like a right catch! is he always like this? Not sticking up for him but say he is under threat of loosing his job he simply may have forgotten, and may suprise you when he gets home?

TBH whatever the reason i would at least have like a card when i woke up..gifts i dont care about - i have everythng i need, but the promise of my other half making tea, washing up and putting kids to bed is priceless IMOA

Out of interest how long have you been married? My father got to the point with my mum where he didnt bother with xmas and birthdays but he did do special things all the time for her and that was acceptable to my mum, but my dad was thoughtful 365, not just xmas birthdays and special occassions

Apricot

I would be upset tbh. Wouldn't be bothered about not getting a present but a card shows that he has at least thought about your birthday (Im assuming you got him a card for his birthday?)

onlyroz

I don't send greetings cards. They are an expensive waste of money and are bad for the environment. However, I would be peeved if I didn't get any sort of acknowledgement on my birthday - e.g. a small present, a nice meal, or a reprieve from household chores etc...

wiltedwillow

no risk of losing his job, no money worries, he just couldn't be bothered.

I have told him in the past id like him to make an effort and asked him to pick me something (could have even been under a fiver) but he didn't bother.

Married for 3 years and birthday was yesterday, dad cooked me a birthday meal for me to bring back home, he got the hump and asked me 'wheres mine?'!!!! so I had to make him some dinner!

shellsuit

Annoyed?

I'd be very upset and angry, that for one day in the year, my husband couldn't be bothered doing anything to put a smile on my face.

That could be a card, or a present, or breakfast in bed, or flowers ~ anything really to show he loves and appreciates me.

It's all very well saying happy birthday, but why say it if you don't mean it?

DKLS

That should be grounds for divorce, I always make a massive fuss over my wives birthday as it falls 3 days after xmas day and a lot of family members seem to forget.

I take her into Leeds, lunch at Harvey Nicks and let her have upto a grand for a shopping spree, with me tagging along paying for everything and carrying everything. (And not moaning, rolling my eyes or huffing)

Sagz_2

Ask his if he can be bothered to pack his stuff or shall you do it for him?

brians_daughter

oh WW... you need to let him know how he has offended/upset you...lets just hope hes brushed over the day this morning as he has a MASSIVE suprise later for you that has been delivered late x

ps i would no way have made him dinner on your special day! Just remember to return the 'favour' when its his special day - he may realise how much it hurts

happy (belated) birthday for yesterday

Sagz_2

DKLS wrote: »

That should be grounds for divorce, I always make a massive fuss over my wives birthday as it falls 3 days after xmas day and a lot of family members seem to forget.

I take her into Leeds, lunch at Harvey Nicks and let her have upto a grand for a shopping spree, with me tagging along paying for everything and carrying everything. (And not moaning, rolling my eyes or huffing)

Please put me on the list if you ever consider taking a second wife :-)