working children paying keep - how much?

Chollita

katfishh wrote: »

My friend has a got a flat that costs £80 a week and then she only has bills to pay and thats about £10 a week.quote]

Off you go then - find a flat of your own where rent and bills only cost you £90 a week.

moggylover

Charlie1986 wrote: »

I'm 21 and there is noway i'd expect my mum to pay for toiletries and everything for me :eek: . I've been paying for these any any luxary foods since i had my first job at 16. I also couldn't not give my mum anything towards the bills. I don't give my mum much but I cook, clean, wash, iron, wash the cars, food shop the lot.
Mum pays for the bulk of the food shop but if we need milk, i'll go and buy the milk etc.
If the op really is serious then they really need to wake up to the real world, either start paying your way or get your own place :rolleyes:

Well done, it is so nice to know that it isn't just the old foggies amongst us that think this precious young thing is way off!

Voice_of_reason_5

whitewing wrote: »

I don't think you come across as a particularly nice person, despite being so responsible financially.

Yes, you are just highlighting the need for all parents to start the financial training of their children at a young age, so that they can cope with the ups and down of budgeting. It shouldn't be a painful reality check - that's all I'm saying.

Whitewing. Is there an ever so teensy, winsy likkle bit of spoilt bratt in you? lol

Voice_of_reason_5

arthur_dent wrote: »

Katfish,

You do I am afraid coome over as spoilt, however I would not have been happy paying £100 a week if I was at home. I am all for children paying rent, espescially if it is as a % of earnings, however that is a lot of money to live at home. You said in your first post that your mum has to commute 3 hours to work and I think this may be at the route of the problem. just as it is not all your mums responsability to take care of all the bills now you are an adult, it is not your responsability to buy your mums house for her. I would try to sit down and talk this over with her saying that shared room accomodation does not cost £100 a week and that perhaps £60 a week would be more reasonable.

Buying her mothers house? lol. I think thats just spoilt bratts take on it. Its called 'rent' to any guests (and thats what OP is. In any ase, Presumably the mortgage is cheaper than OP renting elsewhere.
£750 mortgage
120 gas/elec
£400 food
£25 phone
125 council tax
£1414 total (plus tv licence, property insurance, car tax/fuel/ etc.etc

Adult offspring contribution £100. Mmmmmm

Doesn't qute add up does it?
I'm not saying this is right or wrong, but I would throw open the question : 'When should parents stop subsidising their adult offspring?'

Voice_of_reason_5

:money:

arthur_dent wrote: »

All my bills including my mortgage and food come to around £210 a week, so when my 2 children are old enough to pay, you think I should charge them £100 a week each. I would have moved out of my mums far far earlier if I had been charged £100 a week. I paid a very healthy £50 - £55 and I don't think that either I or my parents were being ripped off at this. A room share including bills around here would not set you back more than £90 a week.

Good grief!! I want to live where you are. My bills for everything are around £1600 a month!! You dont know what sort of accomodation OP is living in, or where. If its London then £400 is pretty cheap. :money:

arthur_dent_2

Voice_of_reason wrote: »

Buying her mothers house? lol. I think thats just spoilt bratts take on it. Its called 'rent' to any guests (and thats what OP is. In any ase, Presumably the mortgage is cheaper than OP renting elsewhere.
£750 mortgage
120 gas/elec
£400 food
£25 phone
125 council tax
£1414 total (plus tv licence, property insurance, car tax/fuel/ etc.etc

Adult offspring contribution £100. Mmmmmm


Doesn't qute add up does it?
I'm not saying this is right or wrong, but I would throw open the question : 'When should parents stop subsidising their adult offspring?'

I think her contribution is £100 a week and to be honest even at your costs, that is adding up to £353.50. For a childs contribution, I think that is a lot. By the way if I was to do my calculations based on just those costs above, my monthly costs would come to £685 a month so £171 approx per week.

webitha

katfishh wrote: »

After all this IS my home too!

i think your wrong about this
the house is your mothers home she just lets you live there , which, according to you should be practically free, even though thats you have been doing since you were born living there rent free with all the extras, which like any parent you mother did so, willlingly iyswim, but now your an adult you wish to be treated like and adult, then its down to you to act like one,
my god woman, and you are a woman, my 9 year old son has read this thread and even he is embarrassed about your attitude.

if you think you can get a better deal elsewhere, then by all means do so, and leave the room free for someone who is willing to pay a proper rent, ie a lodger, who im sure wont have hissy fits like this like a 3 year old ,

morg_monster

katfishh needs to take her own (albeit brief) advice!!! post 102
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?p=11229421#post11229421

liney

arthur_dent wrote: »

I think her contribution is £100 a week and to be honest even at your costs, that is adding up to £353.50. For a childs contribution, I think that is a lot. By the way if I was to do my calculations based on just those costs above, my monthly costs would come to £685 a month so £171 approx per week.

The way i understand it is that the OP is being asked for a 3rd of the cost of running the house. If your bills are only £685 this would only be £52 per week, but just because your bills are inexpensive doesn't mean everyone's are; for example i expect your mortgage is nearly, or non existant.

Perhaps her mother should have been harder on her earlier, but at 21 she should be able to work out the cost of things for herself you would think.

dannynixon

katfishh wrote: »

I'm 21 and just finished Uni. I have worked previously but lived at home whilst at Uni and Mum paid for everything;. I stayed at home for free, and she paid for my toiletries, as well as food, gas and electricity and a private medical insurance (that I never asked for!) . She also paid for holidays abroad for me and my brother every year (brother is two years younger).
Now I've left Uni Mum says she cant afford to subsidise me and wants me to pay a third of the mortgage, council tax and food bills. I am really angry as its not fair!! :mad: She is only 50 and is used to working full time so I dont see why I should subsidise her so she can work part time (what she wants now). Its funny how now I leave Uni she says she is 'tired' and needs to slow down! She moans about her commute (3 hours a day) but she should be used to it by now. I want to travel and save up to go out with my friends more. I also need money for clothes and going out and I have expensive taste.. I am angry that I have to pay a share towards her mortgage - and wants £150 a month!!! She says the house needs expensive repairs (roof, etc) and she needs to remortgae to do this but why should I pay for her house whan I get no benefit? I told all my Uni freinds and they said it was so unfair and they dont have to pay to stay in their homes, My mother is a single parent but she has a full tme job and I dont see why I should subsidise her house!!! What do others think? I have told her I am not paying a penny and I will move out.

Where else do you think you can live for £150 a month? I can offer you a wheelie bin to live in for £140 if you would prefer that?

Stop being a selfish idiot. It should be a third of your wage you selfish git