working children paying keep - how much?

katfishh

arthur_dent wrote: »

I think her contribution is £100 a week and to be honest even at your costs, that is adding up to £353.50. For a childs contribution, I think that is a lot. By the way if I was to do my calculations based on just those costs above, my monthly costs would come to £685 a month so £171 approx per week.

Hey! I'm not a child. I'm an adult. I'm 22 this year.

Oldernotwiser

katfishh wrote: »

Hey! I'm not a child. I'm an adult. I'm 22 this year.

At last! She's finally seeing the point!!

arthur_dent_2

katfishh wrote: »

Hey! I'm not a child. I'm an adult. I'm 22 this year.

I am the only one on here who has been defending you and that is the reply I get for my troubles. I give up the rest of them are right.

katfishh

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

At last! She's finally seeing the point!!

I am dissapointed in these spiteful remarks. I want to work flexibly so I can travel, and I'm hardly ever at home as I'm always out so I dont feel I should have to do any housework as I dont make the mess. Shes at work all day but so am I - and she is used to it and i'm not. Incidently she does not travel 3hours each way, its 3 hours total each day. its not that far but the London traffic is bad. Again. not my fault shes tired.

I never said I didn't appreciate her but I started working when I was 18 part time and she wanted to take some of that off me towards bills and stuff - but I wouldn't. I earned £900 a month and she wanted £35 per week as she says I'm high maintenance!

I just feel that shes always trying to hijack my money. Now shes really pushing me for it and say I have to either start paying or leave. I've negotiated it down now to £50 pw but still thnk I'm being robbed as I'm never there!!

Have yet to pay. heh he he

amyparr

I'm 23 and unluckily have to live in London. I'm still a student and pay £530 per month to live in a crappy flat in South London, plus bills on top of that, plus food etc. I'm not earning a penny and live on a rapidly diminishing overdraft!

In comparison £50 a week is nothing and if it keeps your Mum quiet why not just pay? You can also look back on it and at least think you did the right thing. You may never be there but it would hurt a lot more if you had to pay rent for a flat that you were never at either...

Maybe it is a bit harsh of your Mum to not give you any warnings that she was going to do this, thus prepare you for the shock, but really, is it worth ruining your relationship over? If you can afford it then I can't see what the big problem is.

Life isn't easy. Unfortunately.

Voice_of_reason_5

Marker wrote: »

Kat is not a guest, shes the mothers child. Webitha - I cant believe you just said the mother just lets you live there, huh, if this is the way mothers act is there any wonder we've got a society full of muppets and hate. Why's your 9 year old kid reading this sort of site, shouldnt he have toys to play with??

Encouraging responsibilities and values are down to the parents. If you raise a brat then you have no one to blame but yourself. Kat is selfish, her mother should of taught her the basics about life.

I would never take anything off my child, least of all money she's earnt. I will bring her up to respect money and know what are luxuries. If I wanted kids to pay off my mortgage when im old and lazy I best start popping out more now!

Your kids owe you nothing, they didnt ask to be here, you chose to have them, so pay for them, or teach them good enough morales and values so when the time comes they won't need anything off you!

As OP says herself. she is not a child. Shes an adult. And a nasty one by the sound of things.

Dont think OPs mother wanted her to pay off the mortgage did she? She just wanted a contribution. who knows, maybe OPs mother is in debt keeping OP in holidays, luxuries and funding her University. To work p/t as OPs suggests - it would be impossible surely withour a contribution from OP - meaning poor knackered mum is trapped.

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amyparr

I think at the very least a contribution to your food bills would be reasonable.

Your Mum says you're "high maintenance" and you say yourself that you have "expensive taste"...

arthur_dent_2

I think that you come across as a selfish little girl, for whom money is the be all and end all of everything. You have been less than polite at my choice of words and yet I was defending you, people are giving their opinion based on what is lets face it a string of tantrums. Then on top of it all after you have agreed to pay a lower contribution, you imply that you are not going to pay.

Please for your own sake read your posts and look at them through the eyes of a stranger. I am sure you cannot possibly be as you seem, for if you are god help the world.

Oldernotwiser

OP
I do so hope that when your mother dies (and I hope it's far into the future) she leaves every penny she has to the cats home. Better still, I hope she finds herself a fit young lover and spends it on high living and enjoying herself now! If there were ever a case for cutting someone out of a will - you're it.

(Actually, I still think you're a troll, really.)

woofwoofwoof

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

If there were ever a case for cutting someone out of a will - you're it.

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