working children paying keep - how much?

katiesmummy

katfishh wrote: »

Have yet to pay. heh he he

do you know what, this remark just proves what a nasty piece of work you really are

i would be ashamed to have you as my child

Kimberley

katiesmummy wrote: »

do you know what, this remark just proves what a nasty piece of work you really are

i would be ashamed to have you as my child

I bet the mother does as well, but by reading the very first post, it comes across as a troll, a wind up. No one, I mean no one can treat their mother like that surely :eek:

lil_me

I paid 1/3 of my earnings minimum, more if I could. Maybe the OPs mother (troll or not) should have charged her board so she didn't get used to the free ride through uni aswell.

To use the OPs words, ' How will she ever learn the value of money if you keep bailing her out?' SAME APPLIES!!!

sarahb

katfishh wrote: »

I am dissapointed in these spiteful remarks. I want to work flexibly so I can travel, and I'm hardly ever at home as I'm always out so I dont feel I should have to do any housework as I dont make the mess. Shes at work all day but so am I - and she is used to it and i'm not. Incidently she does not travel 3hours each way, its 3 hours total each day. its not that far but the London traffic is bad. Again. not my fault shes tired.

I never said I didn't appreciate her but I started working when I was 18 part time and she wanted to take some of that off me towards bills and stuff - but I wouldn't. I earned £900 a month and she wanted £35 per week as she says I'm high maintenance!

I just feel that shes always trying to hijack my money. Now shes really pushing me for it and say I have to either start paying or leave. I've negotiated it down now to £50 pw but still thnk I'm being robbed as I'm never there!!

Have yet to pay. heh he he

If this isn't a wind up, have you considered that your mum has had enough of your selfish attitude and just wants you out ?

Chollita

katfishh wrote: »

I am dissapointed in these spiteful remarks. I want to work flexibly so I can travel, and I'm hardly ever at home as I'm always out so I dont feel I should have to do any housework as I dont make the mess. Shes at work all day but so am I - and she is used to it and i'm not. Incidently she does not travel 3hours each way, its 3 hours total each day. its not that far but the London traffic is bad. Again. not my fault shes tired.

Either you are a troll, or you are so utterly utterly clueless about the realities of adult life it's beyond belief.

Anyone want to join me in nominating the OP for a new version of 'Wife Swap'? She runs herself ragged with 3 hours daily travelling, a f/t job, and slaving away after a selfish little madam, while her mum gets to party and travel at the OP's expense.

THEN, OP, you might actually start to see things from your mum's point of view (there speaks the eternal optimist in me ...)

Paparika

katfishh wrote: »

I am dissapointed in these spiteful remarks. I want to work flexibly so I can travel, and I'm hardly ever at home as I'm always out so I dont feel I should have to do any housework as I dont make the mess. Shes at work all day but so am I - and she is used to it and i'm not. Incidently she does not travel 3hours each way, its 3 hours total each day. its not that far but the London traffic is bad. Again. not my fault shes tired.

I never said I didn't appreciate her but I started working when I was 18 part time and she wanted to take some of that off me towards bills and stuff - but I wouldn't. I earned £900 a month and she wanted £35 per week as she says I'm high maintenance!

I just feel that shes always trying to hijack my money. Now shes really pushing me for it and say I have to either start paying or leave. I've negotiated it down now to £50 pw but still thnk I'm being robbed as I'm never there!!

Have yet to pay. heh he he

Hehehe Grow up get a life and come back when you have respect and some morals

liney

Perhaps mom should downsize. She would have a smaller mortgage with a 2 bed property. Kat can get her £80 per week flat and eat her cold baked beans and her mom could cut her hours knowing she has removed the leech on her finances. Everyone would be happy then! Kat doesn't have to pay up, and mom can slow down. Sorted. Next!

Lavendyr

katfishh wrote: »

I am dissapointed in these spiteful remarks.

I am absolutely shocked by your attitude towards your mother, someone who has brought you up for 22 years and has helped you get where you are in life. Do you love or respect her at all? I can't imagine ever talking to or about my mother the way you talk to/about yours.

katfishh wrote: »

I want to work flexibly so I can travel

What about what your mum wants? Doesn't that matter?

katfishh wrote: »

Shes at work all day but so am I - and she is used to it and i'm not.

So get used to it. What an absurd reason for suggesting you somehow deserve to work less hard or pay less for housekeeping than your mother.

My step-dad always used to say to me "it's my turn at the moment, but one day it'll be yours." He (and my mum) housed me, fed me, washed my clothes, cleaned the house and generally supported me all the way through until adulthood, by working very very hard. Now it's my turn to go out to work and earn money, and I have never - not for one second - dared to think "my step-dad is used to it and I'm not" as if that somehow means that I deserve an easier time of it.

katfishh wrote: »

I never said I didn't appreciate her

You don't have to say it, it's painfully evident in your posts. And it's truly sad.

katfishh wrote: »

but I started working when I was 18 part time and she wanted to take some of that off me towards bills and stuff - but I wouldn't.

What do you mean, "wouldn't"? What was her reaction when you refused? And it's unbelievable in any case, if you were earning £900 per month, you should definitely have been contributing to the housekeeping. You were a grown adult then and you definitely ought to be one now.

katfishh wrote: »

Have yet to pay. heh he he

Your replies and attitude towards your mother are so saddening. I pray that I can bring my children up, should I ever have any, to have more respect, and I hope that you come to understand what the real world is like before it's too late.

lisndai

Well Kat ,
You would hate to live with me then , my daughter has just turned 16 and she has two part time jobs while waiting to go to college in september....her hours arent definite(sp) but when she works she does 4 hour shifts and gets £18 per shift......Out of that she has to give me £2 everytime she works( she is totally unaware that this is put to one side for her at college ) , the reason for this is NOT because i want to steal her money but because i would like her to appreciate that you get nothing in this world for free.!!!! ( as hard as that may seem )

Lisa

VK-2008

i think you should pay your mum money its the least you can do

im 21 and staying at home and i pay a chunk of money

look at this way what would you do if you were in your mums positioon in 21 years time! ?!?!!?