working children paying keep - how much?

Buffythedebtslayer

"she" is your Mother, this woman who loves you, probably above all else in the world and you suggest she is a liar and is always after your money.

If she is such a terrible Mum then move out, if she has always been mean to you or you feel hard done by then leave, but if you can look back on your childhood and have good memories, of some where to call home, a safe place then shut up whining and pay the rent.

I cannot believe you can be so mean, so utterly without feeling to your own mother.

katiesmummy

oh my god, you are a selfish spoiled brat who needs a short sharp reality check.

you think you could live so well by yourself for less than what your mum is asking for? try it, i dare you- you wouldnt last 6 months.

your mum supported you through uni, which cant have been cheap, and now you are earning your own money you are complaining that she is asking something of you. when i had my first job when i was 17, in 1998, my take home pay was 616 per month. i had to give everything to my parents and they would give me 50 every week for my expenses (20 for travelcard, rest for clothes, toiletries etc). even when i was studying and unable to pay rent i had to earn my keep by doing things round the house and if i didnt do it i wasnt allowed to eat the food in the cupboards, use the washing machine etc until i had my jobs done.

nothing in this world is free sweetheart, the sooner you learn that the better

BallandChain

I think the OP is a troll as I cannot believe anyone is that selfish.

Katiesmummy, why did your parents take the best part of your wages? Sometimes things go too far the other way.

katiesmummy

BallandChain wrote: »

I think the OP is a troll as I cannot believe anyone is that selfish.

Katiesmummy, why did your parents take the best part of your wages? Sometimes things go too far the other way.

that was just what they did- i did protest at the time! tbh they didnt even 'need' it- dad has his own business, no mortgage left and mum has a good job, may have been a misguided way of trying to teach me the meaning of money . i know for a fact that they didnt take anywhere near that amount from my sister but thats another story (i'm the black sheep- need i say more)

BallandChain

Awww sorry to hear that. If it makes you feel any better I was the black sheep of my family and I do know all about being treated like a skivvy. I had to pay for my keep at home but I'm pretty sure my siblings didn't. I didn't begrudge paying keep but I think it only fair that brothers and sisters should pay the same.

katiesmummy

BallandChain wrote: »

Awww sorry to hear that. If it makes you feel any better I was the black sheep of my family and I do know all about being treated like a skivvy. I had to pay for my keep at home but I'm pretty sure my siblings didn't. I didn't begrudge paying keep but I think it only fair that brothers and sisters should pay the same.

god please dont get me started about my family or i will be here all night! they always favoured my sister over me for as long as i can remember. i dont have any contact with them and havent for almost 2 years but hey, ce la vie!

glad to know i'm not the only black sheep around here though lol

BallandChain

lol I know what you mean about being here all night on families! And no I don't have contact with mine either, think it's 12 years now!

katiesmummy

BallandChain wrote: »

lol I know what you mean about being here all night on families! And no I don't have contact with mine either, think it's 12 years now!

blimey thats a long time.

it did upset me at first, especially when i had ds last year, but i sent them photos of him and they didnt even bother to call me so let them get on with it. i dont need them and neither does my ds- he has a fab grandad on his dads side and between him, my oh and i we give him enough love and affection to more than make up for it.

their loss, not ours

BallandChain

It is upsetting I know but over time you do heal and you find your priorities are your little one and if you're like me you can do without all the upset and trouble. Life is so much less complicated for me now and I can be myself if you know what I mean. You're always welcome to PM me if you want.

Kimberley

katfishh wrote: »

I just feel that shes always trying to hijack my money. Now shes really pushing me for it and say I have to either start paying or leave. I've negotiated it down now to £50 pw but still thnk I'm being robbed as I'm never there!!

Have yet to pay. heh he he

How disgusting to treat your mother like that and to laugh about it, she bought you into this world and gave you life you selfish little girl so show her some respect.

If you had tried to negotiate me down to £50 a week i'd pack your bags for you and tell you to find somewhere that will cost you only £50 a week and I bet you that your so called friends who agree with you would not let you stay with them for that amount of money once they realise how much it costs to live.

You say your not a child and that your 22 years old, but the way you are speaking you sound 2 years old.