working children paying keep - how much?

moggylover

arthur_dent wrote: »

Katfish,

You do I am afraid coome over as spoilt, however I would not have been happy paying £100 a week if I was at home. I am all for children paying rent, espescially if it is as a % of earnings, however that is a lot of money to live at home. You said in your first post that your mum has to commute 3 hours to work and I think this may be at the route of the problem. just as it is not all your mums responsability to take care of all the bills now you are an adult, it is not your responsability to buy your mums house for her. I would try to sit down and talk this over with her saying that shared room accomodation does not cost £100 a week and that perhaps £60 a week would be more reasonable.

Rubbish! For a start, we do not know how much the OP is earning - but I suspect it is a good deal or her mother would not ask for this kind of money. And why should she not pay a little back for all that she has cost over the years?

I think it is highly unlikely that there are many areas of the Country where you could get to live away from home (and with ALL the comforts of living at home) for £100 a week - even in a shared house (unless you mean a squat) and if (for instance) the OP takes home £200 a week, then I do not see 50% as too much to pay.

I earnt £22.49 a week when I first left school (and yes it WAS a very long time ago) and at my own insistence I gave my mum £10/week (cos I could not live away from home for that even then) AND bought her a bunch of flowers each week with pride at being able to support myself AND say thanks for all the years she and dad had gone without for me!

Gorgeous_George

I suggest a third of your take home pay should be board and lodgings.

Maybe your mum should rent a room to a stranger. I'm sure a total stranger would be better company than you.

GG

Nicolefury

To live in anything which isn't vile in a house share is around £400. I paid £200 a month last year and basically lived in a squat, which had none of the luxuries of home. To expect what the OP's mother is expecting is very generous imo, you wouldn't get decent accomodation for that price.

arthur_dent_2

All my bills including my mortgage and food come to around £210 a week, so when my 2 children are old enough to pay, you think I should charge them £100 a week each. I would have moved out of my mums far far earlier if I had been charged £100 a week. I paid a very healthy £50 - £55 and I don't think that either I or my parents were being ripped off at this. A room share including bills around here would not set you back more than £90 a week.

Rikki

Nicolefury wrote: »

What a load of old tosh. If the OP can't handle the harsh realities of life, then theres something wrong with them. You can't expect to leave uni and people not expect you to pay your own way. I won't be going to my parents cap in hand when I finish.

Can you have a word with my son...........and don't lend him your cap. :rotfl:

My sons Uni rent is £80 a week plus bills and food. :eek:

Its a hard lesson to learn living in the real world and £100 a week will not cover everything. Basically rent and a third towards the other bills, pretty cheap if you ask me. Especially considering the increase in the cost of living.

Nicolefury

A room share is nothing like living at home. A house share can be a pretty awful experience if you have awful people living there who don't clean etc. At home you're guaranteed half decent company.

arthur_dent_2

I did not say that they were the same thing, just that £100 a week for living at home is a lot. of all the adults I know (including my brother) not one pays anywhere near that amount. In fact with the house price crash imminent it won't be long before you can get a mortgage on a flat for £100 a week. In fact if there were any council houses left you could rent for £85 a week excluding bills obviously and there are very nice 1 or 2 bedroom houses on the private rental market for that. I would rather that than pay £100 a week.

Nicolefury

Private rental flats are no way that kind of money. For the basic in this area, your looking at 500-600 pcm, which is alot more than £100 per week, without bills.

arthur_dent_2

Clearly we live in different areas then, however my point still remains, £100 a week is a huge amount of money to pay to live at home. I remember how nice it was to have spare money but if someone said I could have the same deal again if I moved back in, I would not go and I don't believe that many others would either. Parents no matter how much you love them are a nightmare.

Rikki

I have a relatively small mortgage in comparison to most and with council tax at 25% discount my monthly bill is £650. Then I have water rates, gas, electric, telephone and food to pay for.

I paid two thirds of my wages to my parents for my keep when I lived at home. Now I have to spend over two thirds of my income just to live with a small amount left to save for the occassional treat.

I understand the lesson my parents taught me about the value of money and it has enabled me to survive on very little at times.