working children paying keep - how much?

bravobeastie

£100 a week? For a warm house, freedom to come and go, tv license, bills paid, food in the cupboards. I will put money on the fact that her mum cooks and cleans for her as well...

Not a lot when you add it up is it really? Especially if you think how much uni has cost the poor mother.

We pay £131 PER WEEK on rent alone. Without bills and food.

Jaysus, some people don't know they are born.

Pack your bags and bog off, do your mum a favour (for once in your life) :mad:

Rikki

arthur_dent wrote: »

Clearly we live in different areas then, however my point still remains, £100 a week is a huge amount of money to pay to live at home. I remember how nice it was to have spare money but if someone said I could have the same deal again if I moved back in, I would not go and I don't believe that many others would either. Parents no matter how much you love them are a nightmare.

You can say that again. Once you have your own space you are responsible for its very hard to go back and give parents control again.
I had to stay for three weeks back with my parents while my house purchase was completed. The initial 'its nice being home' feeling soon wore off. :rotfl:

moggylover

arthur_dent wrote: »

All my bills including my mortgage and food come to around £210 a week, so when my 2 children are old enough to pay, you think I should charge them £100 a week each. I would have moved out of my mums far far earlier if I had been charged £100 a week. I paid a very healthy £50 - £55 and I don't think that either I or my parents were being ripped off at this. A room share including bills around here would not set you back more than £90 a week.

Christ! I think I shall have to move to Lincolnshire! Either that or you don't eat! Or you grow all your own!

Yeah, of course it would be different in different areas - but the OP has been treated very well by her mother - and I still do not think she should begrudge helping now she is earning.

My own decision was to give my parents half my income when I left school - and I never felt hard done by. I was just glad to be giving something back for once. If I got a rise - mum got a rise - simple! It meant that they could finally afford to buy the Council house we had always lived in - and I was so proud: both of them for the years they worked hard and went without for me, and of myself for helping them. Yes, some of my friends (from better off homes I suppose) thought that was a lot: I did not! Some gratitude for what you have had never hurts. A few years later they helped me when I was saving hard to buy my own flat - by insisting that I lived keep free for a few months - what goes around, comes around: and what better place to do a favour than within your family.

Still, I REALLY think the OP should move out, and see what it is like doing everything for yourself! Shopping, cooking, cleaning, paying bills, budgeting!

moggylover

arthur_dent wrote: »

Clearly we live in different areas then, however my point still remains, £100 a week is a huge amount of money to pay to live at home. I remember how nice it was to have spare money but if someone said I could have the same deal again if I moved back in, I would not go and I don't believe that many others would either. Parents no matter how much you love them are a nightmare.

Well, yours might have been - but mine were not! But then, I treated them as respected human beings - and they returned the favour!

churchrat

arthur_dent wrote: »

All my bills including my mortgage and food come to around £210 a week, so when my 2 children are old enough to pay, you think I should charge them £100 a week each. I would have moved out of my mums far far earlier if I had been charged £100 a week. I paid a very healthy £50 - £55 and I don't think that either I or my parents were being ripped off at this. A room share including bills around here would not set you back more than £90 a week.

can I just ask(absolutly nothing to do with the OP) how you manage this? I thought I had ours pretty low, but I am speechless with admiration!
thanks
churchrat

Jaiden_2

churchrat wrote: »

can I just ask(absolutly nothing to do with the OP) how you manage this? I thought I had ours pretty low, but I am speechless with admiration!
thanks
churchrat

Yeah let me in on the secret too!! I have only 1 more child than arthur and theres no way on earth i could survive on that kind of money a week!
How in gods name can he pay all the bills, mortgage and food for 210 quid a week!!:eek:

arthur_dent_2

I just thought that I would check my figures and this is honestly what my bills are even if you include my £20 a week luxury money and rising cost of petrol you really are still not looking at more than about £240 a week. Budget well and buy everything second hand or from the very cheapest place possible. Don't spoil the chiildren and only do necessary jourmeys in the car, if possible combining food shopping with days out so to save petrol. Food shopping is not really allowed to go above £40 a week.

Staciep88

Well... like a lot of others that have replied this thread has really wound me up! I Went to college, got my A-Levels and then .. GUESS WHAT.. I got a job and I moved out with my partner and we now pay £500 a month + food bills + telephone/internet bills! And thats my parents 2nd house, we dont have to pay them but we do, It's hard to come up with the money as we dont have flash jobs or anything but we do it; 1) because we want to! 2) they have helped us out alot and i like returning the favour! So i think you need to wake up abit and come into the real world! If you are moaning about it that much then do your mum a favour and leave! But I'll let you now - your saying £100 a week (just on mortgage and then bills on top) well you try finding a nice place to rent for £400 a month cuz i'll tell you now that you wont - not to the same standard as your mums house (parking spaces, gardens etc - (example) ) Right thats my moaning over!

Idiophreak

This is weird - OPs other posts seem kinda reasonable, so don't know why they'd start this one as a wind up...but surely it *has to be*...Nobody could really be that...I can't even find the word.

whitewing

That's the point. People can be that unreasonable if they've never had to be any different.

Parents I know gave their daughter £1000 a month during Uni so she could move into a flat on her own as her housemates didn't like her (alcoholic) boyfriend who'd virtually lived with them.

Ten years on, she remortgaged her house with another loser boyfriend. Hands over £50K to start him up in business and he runs off with it.

She still thinks it wasn't her fault and her parents are still bailing her out left, right and centre. She has no idea, despite being in a well-paid job.

You do your kids no favours by not teaching them about money and budgets. And just ensuring they have a savings acct as a child isn't really preparation for the wide world.