Why do they have to shout all the time?!

ceridwen

coolcait wrote: »

The bottom line is that quieter people are entitled to have some peace and quiet.

OK, children playing can be noisy. They can also be brought indoors at times, to be noisy where only their parents can hear them. This allows others to have peace and quiet.

A quiet person can exercise their right to be quiet without anyone else noticing. That doesn't mean that their right to quiet should be ignored.

Well - PasturesNew has pointed out that from her POV (ie autistic) that it is actually a NEED rather than a WANT for her environment to be quiet. The thing is that there are some people (not just those somewhere on the autistic spectrum) who NEED peace and quiet (ie its not just a personal preference for things to be that way). A lot of us NEED our peace and quiet to help us cope with stressful things that are happening in other aspects of our life (and that are out of our control). I would think that is even more the case than normal these days - where many people are struggling with financial problems that have been imposed on them (rather than being their own doing) - because the income coming into their household has been cut by their employer. Others have health problems that are causing them pain and stress.

The thing is that noisy people sometimes may not realise that some of the people who require quiet actually HAVE to have it - and are likely to experience problems of some description if they dont have it.

I've pointed out myself before now that noisy people can impose their noise on quiet people - but quiet people cant impose their quiet on the noisy people. Therefore - its an uneven exchange and the onus is on the noisy people to respect the rest of us.

EDIT: re the frequent comments from posters about simply asking the noisy household to keep the noise down - actually I've found personally that it simply doesnt work. Quite apart from any fears about whether there might be "retaliation" of some sort - I am struggling to think if I can actually remember any instances where a neighbour has EVER turned their noise down because of a request to do so by me (and yes...I always am polite and say things like "I'm sure you didnt realise but...." and similar phrases).

clairibel

I honestly feel the OP saying shop bought burgers and chavvy is from anger and upset not a realistic judgement because when your in this situation you tend not to see the wood for the tree's because it is wearing you down.....

And then you make remarks like we all do in rants to let off steam, so i think her words shouldn't be taken literally and maybe try to understand that not everyone has the same tolerance for noise etc.

ceridwen

clairibel wrote: »

I honestly feel the OP saying shop bought burgers and chavvy is from anger and upset not a realistic judgement because when your in this situation you tend not to see the wood for the tree's because it is wearing you down.....

And then you make remarks like we all do in rants to let off steam, so i think her words shouldn't be taken literally and maybe try to understand that not everyone has the same tolerance for noise etc.

Well - I certainly realised that point myself - so I'm unclear why some others havent.

I think we probably all do it - ie when someone upsets us frequently with some selfish behaviour - we then sit there and think "....thats another thing. They also do this, do that, dont do that".

I've done it myself - ie "Noise from THEM - yet AGAIN" - closely followed by "...and look at the alteration of their house (shows no taste at all) and look at how fat and slobby they are and....".

It happens - ie that when people carry on and on bothering you with selfish behaviour - that, after a while, you also notice the other things they do that aren't actually wrong per se - but are totally different to the way you live/tastes you have...

Bogof_Babe

What's that thing about being entitled to "quiet enjoyment" of your property? Does this only apply to indoors then, e.g. semi-detached or block of flats? I see no reason why it shouldn't extend to quietly enjoying your garden too.

Another factor to consider is that many people have extremely stressful jobs, perhaps in noisy factories, offices or call centres, and crave for a few hours tranquility during their private time. It must add to their frustration when the noise perpetrators don't even go to work, so have no concept of seeking peace where they can find it, as they can please themselves all day.

ceridwen

So true BogofBabe :T

myothercarisaferrari

I live in a row of terrace houses converted into flats.

Directly below me - they slam doors, shout, scream, then shout some more
To my right and left both working professionals, never hear a peep
To the bottom right - girl has just moved in and her dogs howls all day (I have two dogs so am waiting to get the blame for this)
To the bottom left - couple moved in on Satuday, had a party Sat night, both got carted off last night in a police car as I came home from work.

Woop woop.

Bogof_Babe

myothercarisaferrari wrote: »

I live in a row of terrace houses converted into flats.

Directly below me - they slam doors, shout, scream, then shout some more
To my right and left both working professionals, never hear a peep
To the bottom right - girl has just moved in and her dogs howls all day (I have two dogs so am waiting to get the blame for this)
To the bottom left - couple moved in on Satuday, had a party Sat night, both got carted off last night in a police car as I came home from work.

Woop woop.

If there are several flats you're probably not the only one being disturbed. Is there a residents association you could take it up with?

Bogof_Babe

I've just had an idea... Why don't we all form a national group to campaign against troublesome neighbours.

We could call it Residents Against Noisy Tenants, or RANT for short! :rotfl:

myothercarisaferrari

Bogof Babe, my flat is being repocessed due to the landlord not paying the mortgage so I'll be out of here soon! x

Mojisola

coolcait wrote: »

That said, it doesn't necessarily mean that this will happen to the OP.

Just because people are noisy/potentially inconsiderate/don't know that their neighbours find them noisy, because their neighbours have never said anything to them...

doesn't mean that they are going to slash tyres, break windows, or anything else.

It's a risk, perhaps. It's not a given.

I don't think anyone has suggested that it is a given but the OP is living next door to these people and she is the one who has to assess the risk to herself and her property. If she is worried about how they may react, I don't think those of us who don't know these people should be telling her to go round to them.