Girlfriend leaving but wants half of house

looby75

marleyboy wrote:

If you dont want to sound patronising, just dont say anything.

LOL. See you have totally missed the point of online forums then :rotfl:

pink_phantom

marleyboy wrote:

I take it this is YOUR own personal view, as a woman, what do you know about all men, I find your attitude extremely offensive to men. You bloat on about some "Its a Maternal instinct", to me I find that SEXIST!, As for him being the "Exception", have you actually got some kind of scientific research on this, or is it just your own personal "exception". Men have just as much love for their children as Women do, What gives you the right to preach otherwise, other than some "its a maternal load of !!!!!!" I know of many women, that simply dump their kids, to be with someone younger, or simply because they find motherhood too much for them, next you will reply with "Oh yes, but they are just the exception, not the rule". If you dont want to sound patronising, just dont say anything.

I have to say that looby's post put her views across in a much more respectful way than this and as such, her post merits some respect even if it is not in everyones view. Your post doesn't. Not because of the views expressed but in the churlish and rude manner in which it is written.

steve_cov

museumsteve wrote:

She is away this weekend (with her bloke) so maybe I'll slap myself round the face and get my butt in gear and start making plans and rumaging through options.

So she causes the relationship to break down by starting a new one, she has effectively free-loaded off you for x years and you have to make the financial sacrifices.

Isn't life grand? Get yourself a good solicitor and tell her to find the cash for one of her own. Oh, and stop her housekeeping. This is going to get dirty.

ben500

looby75 wrote:

I beg your pardon?


In my case I know that I have a greater bond with my children than their dad does he has proven that, without doubt constantly. Even his own parents have washed their hands of his behaviour. You have no idea how hard I have fought over the last 2+ years to maintain my ex-husbands relationship with his kids. I have even given up the opportunity to move to the other side of the uk, back to where ALL my family live because I feel that it is important for my kids to have the opportunity to have regular contact with their dad. It's such a shame he doesn't feel it's as important as I do. It is his loss, but that loss never has been nor ever will be of my making.

HaHa I see you got landed with a duff one so all men are useless fathers, and it obviously follows that mothers have a genetically stronger bond than fathers.

Most Mothers do have a deeper bond with their children than most men, just in the same way that most men are physically stronger than most women.
They have to deal with and adjust to the physical and mental changes bringing a child into this world requires many man months before the reality of it hits the father. It is a fact of genetics, a fact of nature.

What's this all about then?

pink_phantom

The way is see it there are 2 sides: wronged women v wronged men and inbetween are the kids. Think on that. INBETWEEN ARE THE KIDS. Why do people loose sight of this (both sexes) in the battle to score points against each other because that is what it boils down to? All these insults and "she did this" and "he did that". People should just forget the past and concentrate on making their kids happy. That goes for both sexes. I know there are gits on both sides who do nasty things but come on people not everyone is like that and every case should be looked at from a neutral perspective until the facts are established.

I just want to say one more thing before I go to bed:

Men need women and women need men. Without this unison there would be no human race. Why squabble over money and material posessions when all that really matters are that the children are cared for properly and are happy. If they are then what is the problem? :beer:

marleyboy

pink_phantom wrote:

I have to say that looby's post put her views across in a much more respectful way than this and as such, her post merits some respect even if it is not in everyones view. Your post doesn't. Not because of the views expressed but in the churlish and rude manner in which it is written.

In what way is it Churlish? in its honesty?or in the fact its to the point?

ben500

looby75 wrote:

I beg your pardon?

.

No need to beg a gentleman always grants pardon to a lady

steve_cov

pink_phantom wrote:

I just want to say one more thing before I go to bed:

Men need women and women need men.

Wrong. I certainly don't need a woman, but I'm not sure I actually need a man either...

krisskross

After reading this thread i have decided there is something wrong with me, and has been for most of my life.
Me and 'im indoors have 4 offspring, 2 sons 2 daughters, now in their 30s and forties.
We loved them , fed, clothed and housed them.
However I never felt they were the be all and end all of my life. I CHOSE my husband, and he has always been so so important in my life. The children also are so very important but I have always known that they would make their own lives, I cannot live my life through them.
We must have done something right because none of them remember just how poor we were, and lordy were we. Many a night my dinner was toast because the food wouldn't stretch to include me. All they remember is a happy childhood.
They all try to speak to us everyday, we know that if we need anything they will drop everything to help us, and vice versa I might add.
i have never considered myself, Mum, a better parent than my husband. He could and did all the things for our children that I did. Except the breast feeding, he couldn't manage that.
I have seen some appalling mothers in my time as I have seen dreadful fathers.
I think Dads make wonderful sole parents if need be, and if more Dads take on the responsibility of child rearing following a relationship breakup then the best of luck to them.

Leftynick

Been reading through this thread and with respect to the house situation only:(no kids etc)

What happens if one partner wont agree to selling up and splitting 50/50 and wont move out (likes house) but isnt in a position to buy the other person out? Assuming you are unmarried..is the legal route the only way?

Sorry to butt into the thread but closely relates to a friends situation...