Girlfriend leaving but wants half of house

radaas

lisa_75 wrote:

It applies to any child born after 1st December 2003

* Before this change, you could only gain parental responsibility by later marrying the child's mother, signing an official agreement with the mother or getting a court order. You can still get responsibility in these ways - you might want to think about this if you have other children.

Sorry for the off topic again bu, i hjad no idea about this, i always thought i had the same rights as his mother.

He was born on the 22nd of Jan 03, so guess i dont, Does anyone know wat are the costs involved in signing an official agreement or a courtorder, we are both on more then good terms but you never know what the future holds.

grex9101

hobo28 wrote:

So let me get this straight? You slept with someone else instead of sorting the issues out with him like an adult. He loved and adored you enough to forgive you despite what you did and somehow its HIS fault for being weak!?!?!

Sorry I don't get it.

You've obvioulsy never been in that postion then. Sometimes the only refuge you can find (physical or otherwise) is with someone else.
Instead of realising there was a problem with the relationship, and trying to make amends the guy just apologised, buried his head in the sand and tried to pretend like it was forgotten about.
The underlying problem was never resolved.

buckaroo

Radaas - haven't read the whole thread but just wanted to let you know that it doesn't cost anything for you to get parental responsibility, unless of course your ex won't co-operate and you have to force the issue via a solicitor. http://www.compactlaw.co.uk/freeinfo/children/childf7.html

viktory

black-saturn wrote:

What a martyr and she did it all off of her own back too. No one has ever been so hard done by :rolleyes:

Oh no, BS. You are the biggest martyr. We all know how dreadfully hard done by you have been, God knows you tell us often enough!! :rotfl: (Is there a yawn smiley?)

wigginsmum

I must admit, I find it incredible that someone could be churlish about krisskross's post of having managed to raise her family well. For someone who's so into kids and family, you seem jealous, black-saturn.

Gorgeous_George

I'd consider not paying the mortgage but this could result in a bad credit rating for BOTH of you. Hide the money somewhere so she cannot find it. Make sure any loans, credit cards, etc are taken into account when the equity is divided. I couldn't possibly suggest maxing out any joint cards.

She could bank her share of the equity, move in with bf no 3 and repeat this scam in a few years time. Meanwhile she'll be fleecing you for child support money that won't be spent on your child.

If she has a share in the equity, I'd suggest it should be less than 50% as you have been providing a home for her first child (a maximum of 25% would seem fair and reasonable to me). I just pity the poor unfortunate soul who is taking her on.

The best form of revenge is your own happiness and financial security. Get the split over with as cleanly as possible. Pay a solicitor to ensure she gets as little as possible and celebrate her moving out. Sell the house and relish in your own new found freedom. It can be fun.

Best wishes and good luck



GG

wayne

As for the OP I was just upset at the fact that his partner’s contribution to the home and family was seen as unequal as she did not contribute financially.

Some of the views in this thread are very anti women and motherhood. Terms such as "free-loader" shows that many men have no idea what it takes to stay home and raise children. It just saddens me that society devalues motherhood so much that women who take that path are seen as lazy.
how can you complain about views being anti women on this thread?the op started this asking for some advice.he was upset at the time he wrote it as he explained in a later post but that didn,t stop you spouting off and kicking him when he was down eh?then you have the front to get upset when gypsey puts in to words what most blokes were thinking but were to polite to write it.

jockettuk

black-saturn wrote:

What a martyr and she did it all off of her own back too. No one has ever been so hard done by :rolleyes:

think that was a bit uncalled for.. no one knows how hard up or done by anyone is untill they have walked in there shoes so to speak..

comping_cat

Gorgeous_George wrote:

I'd consider not paying the mortgage but this could result in a bad credit rating for BOTH of you. Hide the money somewhere so she cannot find it. Make sure any loans, credit cards, etc are taken into account when the equity is divided. I couldn't possibly suggest maxing out any joint cards.

She could bank her share of the equity, move in with bf no 3 and repeat this scam in a few years time. Meanwhile she'll be fleecing you for child support money that won't be spent on your child.

If she has a share in the equity, I'd suggest it should be less than 50% as you have been providing a home for her first child (a maximum of 25% would seem fair and reasonable to me). I just pity the poor unfortunate soul who is taking her on.

The best form of revenge is your own happiness and financial security. Get the split over with as cleanly as possible. Pay a solicitor to ensure she gets as little as possible and celebrate her moving out. Sell the house and relish in your own new found freedom. It can be fun.

Best wishes and good luck



GG

I wouldnt've thought someone who had been with someone for 14 years set out to trap/scam and fleece the OP and was now moving on to the next one!!!!!

Gorgeous_George

Agreed, but it is financially rewarding for women to walk out on a relationship/marriage.

It's generalising I know, but it it was once said that when a women gets married she is better off financially and when a woman divorces, she is better off financially (or words to that effect).

I bet the separation rate is lower for people who rent. It's just far too easy for people to break marriage vows. Adultery should be a criminal offence.



GG