Girlfriend leaving but wants half of house

lynzpower

Some observations: (I spent many years in children and families court welfare/therapy and social work- some of wish I hadn't!)

YOu and me both!

EagerLearner

hobo28 wrote:

Ok, so you didn't sleep with the other person but saught "...comfort in someone else" (whatever that means!?!?!)
Whether that is right/wrong wasn't actually my point. My point is that it certainly wasn't your ex's fault you did that!

Hobo - I have said my piece, you cannot judge me and hold him completely innocent unless you have personal experience of being in my situation with a boyfriend who did not accept responsibility and buried his head in the sand for over a year, plus had 6 years of growing debt (3 credit cards and one overdraft, which he spent all on himself).

He drove me away, despite my many attempts at talking to resolve things. He wouldn't even accept I had left him, then never cleared his 6 year accumulation of debt (even a year after I had left), so I know I did the right thing as I would have been dragged down too.

My main point though, is that there is no point in staying together if a couple is out of love - it will only hurt them (and children) in the long term.

jockettuk

Gorgeous_George wrote:

Agreed, but it is financially rewarding for women to walk out on a relationship/marriage.

It's generalising I know, but it it was once said that when a women gets married she is better off financially and when a woman divorces, she is better off financially (or words to that effect).

I bet the separation rate is lower for people who rent. It's just far too easy for people to break marriage vows. Adultery should be a criminal offence.



GG

can understand what your saying but emotionally i was a wreck when my marriage split up .. i got married for life not for the financial gain

looby75

Gorgeous_George wrote:

Adultery should be a criminal offence.

:T :T :T :T :T

ICAM, fair enough marriages/relationships break down but if you want to start a new relationship at least have the common decency and respect to end the old one first.

jockettuk

read this and see who is better off lol

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/business/3065227.stm

comping_cat

Very interesting article!!!!

gettingdivorced

Do both partys get parental responsibilty if the kids were born out of wedlock but later the parents marry. I ask as neither of my kids are registered as children of the marriage (we never got round to changeing it) and we are now getting divorced

msmicawber

I have a feeling that if you weren't married at the time that the children were born, then parental responsibility rests with the mother even if you later marry. I'd recommend checking with the CAB (or looking on their web site). If no information there, then ask a solicitor.

rchddap1

That's what I remember msmicawber. but only before a certain date in 2003. Prior to that date the birth's have to be re-registered for parental responbility to kick in. Or for the father to gain parental responsibility through some legal do-hicky.

After 2003 if the father is on the birth certificate its automatic.

hobo28

gettingdivorced wrote:

Do both partys get parental responsibilty if the kids were born out of wedlock but later the parents marry. I ask as neither of my kids are registered as children of the marriage (we never got round to changeing it) and we are now getting divorced

Yes, once you marry you automatically get parental responsibility for your own kids.

Before december 2003, the only way a father could get PR was to either get mother to sign an agreement, get a court order or marry her. Since you did the latter, you now have it.