Girlfriend leaving but wants half of house

hobo28

hankc35 wrote:

You put every single one of my ex girlfriends and my girlfriend in the burning house and I would still rescue my daughter first.

Agreed.

Interesting thought though. What if your wife/GF/partner whom you love and a young child (not yours) were both in a burning house. Who would you rescue first? For me, it'd still have to be the child. The child has his/her whole life in front of them. An adult has experienced life.

ben500

looby75 wrote:

If you doubt what I say I suggest you read the What was the biggest pregnancy secret??? thread

Well I've looked closely at the thread, somehow I don't see that it adds any credibility to your arguement that you pass a bowel motion during childbirth or that your nipples become enlarged and discharge copious amounts of lactose at inopportune moments. Please direct me to the evidence that supports your theory that womens parental instincts are greater than men's as this really won't do to convince me I'm afraid, and of course if you frequent forums that are populated by estranged mothers then what else would you expect to see than a series of posts from estranged mothers detailing their plight, when was the last time you visited a forum for estranged fathers to get a balanced view?

ben500

hobo28 wrote:

Agreed.

Interesting thought though. What if your wife/GF/partner whom you love and a young child (not yours) were both in a burning house. Who would you rescue first? For me, it'd still have to be the child. The child has his/her whole life in front of them. An adult has experienced life.

The child every time for the same reasons and of course an adult is far more capable of rescuing themselves than any child would be.

wigginsmum

I have to say if it was a choice between DH and his kids (my stepkids), I'd rescue him. He's more important to me.

lisa_75

hobo28 wrote:

Agreed.

Interesting thought though. What if your wife/GF/partner whom you love and a young child (not yours) were both in a burning house. Who would you rescue first? For me, it'd still have to be the child. The child has his/her whole life in front of them. An adult has experienced life.

I would rescue my husband over anyone, except for our children. I know that may seem selfish to some, but I need him far more than some random young child.

hankc35

hobo28 wrote:

Agreed.

Interesting thought though. What if your wife/GF/partner whom you love and a young child (not yours) were both in a burning house. Who would you rescue first? For me, it'd still have to be the child. The child has his/her whole life in front of them. An adult has experienced life.

Thats a tough one, but then I thought about a baby in a cot to be rescued or the adult and I dont think I could leave a baby to burn to death, but I'd hope the GF could launch herself out of a window or at least survive long enough to have a chance, plus if my GF died and I saved the baby I would find it easier to live with myself rather than the other way around, the thought of the baby burning would haunt me.

comping_cat

ben500 wrote:

Well I've looked closely at the thread, somehow I don't see that it adds any credibility to your arguement that you pass a bowel motion during childbirth or that your nipples become enlarged and discharge copious amounts of lactose at inopportune moments. Please direct me to the evidence that supports your theory that womens parental instincts are greater than men's as this really won't do to convince me I'm afraid, and of course if you frequent forums that are populated by estranged mothers then what else would you expect to see than a series of posts from estranged mothers detailing their plight, when was the last time you visited a forum for estranged fathers to get a balanced view?

I think the point with that thread, is despite all the horrible things that happen whilst pregnant, and after, a lot of the women on that thread (myself included) love our children so much, that we were/are prepared to go through it all again!!! A well known saying is if men could have children, they would only have the one!!!!!

Also, im a single mother myself, and i also know some single fathers, one of which i wrote a letter to the court supporting him, not the mother, so i would like to think that i am quite balanced with my views. My main concern is whats best for the children, and not the parents. Going back to the original OP, he sounds like a very good father and has been a provider and helped around the house and with the children, however, the fact is the ex has her name on the house/mortgage so she will be entitled to her half, no matter who has paid more in/done more. As regards to the children, as they are used to being with her (as she hasnt been working full time) and the fact there are 2 of them, it makes sense for them to stay together and not be split. unless she has been a bad parent, the courts are unlikely to change it. i do agree with a lot of other posters that she is having her cake and eating it at the moment, which isnt good!!!!!

comping_cat

On the point about who i would rescue from a burning building, no question, my children, and if i couldnt get them out, i would want to be in there with them!!!!

ben500

catowen wrote:

I think the point with that thread, is despite all the horrible things that happen whilst pregnant, and after, a lot of the women on that thread (myself included) love our children so much, that we were/are prepared to go through it all again!!! A well known saying is if men could have children, they would only have the one!!!!!

Which of course is again pure unadulterated speculation. And still doesn't add any weight to the claim that a mothers parental instincts are superior to a fathers.

Incidentally I have had five children and never felt a thing! That's if you don't count conception of course. :rotfl: :rotfl:

comping_cat

ben500 wrote:

Which of course is again pure unadulterated speculation. And still doesn't add any weight to the claim that a mothers parental instincts are superior to a fathers.

Incidentally I have had five children and never felt a thing! That's if you don't count conception of course. :rotfl: :rotfl:

Very good!!!!

Mind you, it could be discribed as speculation that fathers have paternal feelings, and speculation that mothers have maternal feelings!!! I only know how i feel, and that is i would do and give anything for my children including my life, and until i had children i had no idea that i would feel that way!!!!